Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health First things first, I'm 24 and my boyfriend is 27. We've been together for 1 month.
A few night ago, I started playing with my boyfriend's penis (outside his pants) since I noticed he was sexually excited. A few minutes later, he started unzipping my pants to finger me. My initial response was "no, I don't want you to finger me." And then he said "but it's not fair that I can't finger you while you're teasing/rubbing me." Then he started getting his hand further down my pants. I said "no" again and then he asked me why. I replied saying I don't feel comfortable since I hadn't showered yet after a workout and was worried about a potential smell. Then he said "it doesn't matter/I don't care" and started fingering me anyway. I felt somewhat disrespected afterwards. While I didn't ask my boyfriend if I could touch his penis, he's made it clear in the past that he is ok with me touching him outside his pants whenever I'd like (in our own privacy of course). I never touch his bare penis without his own willingness for me to do so and I'd stop if he ever said no.
In addition to this, I've made it clear to him that it's going to take me a while to be ready for sex (I'm talking 3+ months). He respected this and TOLD me he's perfectly fine with waiting until I'm ready no matter how long it takes. Then when things get really hot and heavy between us, he tries to convince me to have sex which goes against what he originally said.
Does any of the above count as sexual assault? Should i break up with him?
Did my boyfriend sexually assault me?
Anonymous
1 2
What Girls & Guys Said
11 23Without you playing with him this is a clear case of sexual assault. In this case it's harder. It would be like getting my dog really excited to go on a walk and the locking her in her crate and leaving. You are essentially initiating sexual contact and think that he shouldn't respond in kind.
Don't start something you are not willing to finish.
I think you're being retarded, but you do you
I think that he should break up with you. You weren't honest with him and neither of you are on the same page. A relationship needs to be mutual, and you're denying him equal reciprocation.
He has already raped you no means no. but your playing with fire he doesn't respect your boundaries.
And did it anyway. Do you like playing with his cock? If so just make it clear you just want to play with him but at least make him cum. . but here's what gonna happen he's not gonna be happy with just that. based on his actions. So far the next time he may just force himself in you
Not really, but no does mean no. You touched his penis first don't forget. Have a discussion with him and tell him how you feel.
You should both break up with each other and you should stop dating until you have matured
In my view, it does
And I would break up
But, it's just ME
No.
You sexually assaulted him.
Yes, if you say no; and more than once it is sexual assault. Don't just dump him report him to the police.