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Ok so last year I was dancing with a guy (pub manager) and got very drunk. We got cosy and started kissing. Eventually he lead me to the upper rooms and took me from behind. I was pretty drunk and wasn’t sure if I wanted it or not but didn’t want to upset him so just let him go. He didn’t have a condom I found out since he bent me over the sink and took me from behind.
He left and I left and passed out at home. Woke up and didn’t know what to feel about it honestly. I didn’t say no but I didn’t really want want it and because I was drunk I feel he took advantage of me especially since he didn’t even use a condom and came inside me (Fortunately I was on the pill)
Was I taken advantage of or am I just overthinking it and getting worked up over nothing?
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12 64In the United States that is legally rape. I think Australia has a similar statute, but you will have to check that.
In my opinion sadly he probably did take advantage of you. You were drunk and vulnerable and even though you didn't say no and didn't really want it didn't matter to him. Also he didn't wear a cond is another advantage he took. Honestly he just took you as a girl just to have sex with kinda like a one night stand thing. Don't feel too bad or be all worked up about it though sometimes it happens that way. Maybe if you think your gonna drink too much have one of your girlfriend's there to be with to make sure you don't get taken advantage again.
He took advantge of you
No he didn’t.
If you got drunk around guys, well that's really a risk you take. Whether or not it was taking advantage, he could of claimed being drunk just the same.
I'm not sure I understand the question. You got drunk and had sex. There was implied consent. You weren't so drunk that you couldn't make a decision. When you sobered up you had "buyer's remorse" as many people have in the past. Who took advantage of whom? I think the question is moot.
He did take advantage of you, but I don't think it was rape since you never expressed any lack of desire.
It depends how drunk you were, but you gave pretty decent indication that you were making the decisions. Looking from his perspective, what should he have done in your eyes?
Worn a condom for starters. I didn’t even realise until I felt his cum drip out of my vagina.
Did he say he would or did you ask for one?
I don’t know honestly I was very out of it.
Are you an adult? Than take responsibility for your actions. He did not take advantage of you.
Being that you were able to stand upright and had your eyes open. He didn’t know your level of intoxication. Plus you were coherent enough not to want to hurt his feelings.
Since you didn’t get pregnant nor end up with an STD. Be more careful the next time you start throwing back the alcohol.
Just remember. There are guys out there that would take advantage of a corpse, let alone a pretty, young intoxicated woman!
Why are men so awful that they would fuck a corpse? Men and women both get horny to the same level? But why are men more likely to fuck a corpse
@ISFPCaramelPrincess That is the mindset of some men. For some reason they seem to attract the most women?
I think you allowed it to happen so it was consent
In all honesty, you never told him no, and from reading this it also didn’t seem like you gave him any SIGNS that you didn’t want it. BUT you also were drunk, I don’t know how drunk the dude was but considering that he busted and then just left I’d say yes he took advantage of you. I’m sorry to hear that.
No, he didn't take advantage. The only thing I see wrong is the condom issue since that should have been made clear. Thing is you were both drunk and things naturally progressed from dancing, flirting, kissing and eventually sex. You being unsure means you should have said something. It's not a guys responsibility to read your mind. Chances are he was drunk too and might also have woken up with a little regret but that's just how it goes if you're having drunk hook ups.
I'd recommend you take more responsability for yourself before palming off the blame for your own drunken mistakes
I'm afraid he did, you were drunk and didn't consent. But you didn't say no so it wasn't really clear for him.
The condom part bothers me, with the risk involved.
yes it looks like it
Umm yes that’s rape.
Why would you care if you upset him? Do you work there? That would be even worse. For him.
Because I don’t like upsetting people. It’s a character flaw. I have a hard time saying no.
I get it. I mean I guess it’s your decision. Wonder how many other girls he does this to…
Well, yes, it was rape, because you didn't want it, but he did it anyway. The Q is what do you want to do about it?
If you're thinking of pressing charges, I'm afraid you would not win, because you were drunk. It would be a He said; She said situation.
It seems like he did take advantage of you. But at no point you said no so he might not even know he did.
Still it doesn't change the fact that he did took advantage of you. Please try to be careful of people like that in the future.
I mean you’re not exactly spending time with morally correct people.
You were taken advantage of, Just because you felt okay about it doesn't make it right.
Would you recommend that for other Girls to do?
If the answer is "No" then it's wrong.