Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
Ok so last year I was dancing with a guy (pub manager) and got very drunk. We got cosy and started kissing. Eventually he lead me to the upper rooms and took me from behind. I was pretty drunk and wasn’t sure if I wanted it or not but didn’t want to upset him so just let him go. He didn’t have a condom I found out since he bent me over the sink and took me from behind.
He left and I left and passed out at home. Woke up and didn’t know what to feel about it honestly. I didn’t say no but I didn’t really want want it and because I was drunk I feel he took advantage of me especially since he didn’t even use a condom and came inside me (Fortunately I was on the pill)
Was I taken advantage of or am I just overthinking it and getting worked up over nothing?
What Girls & Guys Said
12 641st thing, every man goes there to drink for Fuck.
2nd thing, every man expects every girl that goes there know the 1st point and expected to be Fucked.
3rd thing, if you don't know the 1st two point, you are not supposed to goes there.
90% of time alcohol is made for increase sexual activities.
It is a heaven made for man.
Just let it go. Sex regrets are common after drunk sex. Here in the US, you could say you didn't consent and sue and have him arrested and make some money. Where you live I don't think you can do tht and you certainly should not do it in any event.
You took as much advantage of him as he did of you.
Wait what? How did I take advantage of him? I’m Confused.
You probably had as much pleasure as he did. That really is not taking advantage but since he used that term I just thought I would refer back to it and try to make you understand that everything that happened was symmetrical.
Definitely took advantage of you
If you were too drunk to consent them it constitutes rape
No, it does not constitute rape.
you both took advantage of each other.
You are not overthinking. If you did not want to have sex and you did not consent, it was a sexual assult. Sorry to hear that. :-(
You got your self that drunk not him
you given him pussy and he used it well.
No. Alcohol makes people do things. It’s your fault that you was so drunk you couldn’t think. Grow up and get over it.
I mean you don’t have to be so harsh you know :(
Sorry. But I just wanted to get my point across. People are quick to blame others for what they do drunk when in fact it’s alcohol and their own faults.
@titlover01 Yup
Yeah, you were taken advantage of a bit, but you were also responsible for the situation. How was the sex, by the way? Any interest in doing it again?
No. You put yourself in that situation. YOU were alone, YOU got drunk, YOU were cognitive enough to know he was taking you up to a private room. YOU knew you wanted it, this is the reason you didn’t say no. Did he take advantage of you.. probably not as YOU were in control of the events that led up to it. You and women who have this mindset of after the fact trying to blame someone else when you CLEARLY know what happened and remember asking if a man took as advantage of you has to stop. This is how false sexual assault and rape allegations come about. Rationalizing it all. The point is, you set yourself up in a position to do all of that. Take responsibility, learn from it and don’t make the mistake again. But can’t stand when women will try to hold men accountable for shit.. but logically will refuse responsibility for there actions when they have something done that they think they didn’t want…
You're as innocent as guilty I'd be if I got drunk and murdered someone.
Instead of blaming him, reconsider your drinking.