Do alllllll men get tired of having sex with the same woman? Why is one woman never enough?

[Anonymous]

[MrOracle]

Men and women each have an instinctual reproductive strategy that we developed to ensure survival of the species.

Women are hypergamous - they seek the biggest, strongest, highest status man they can get to reproduce with, often going outside a relationship to get it. If that guy won't protect and provide for the children, they will seek out a lesser man who will.

Men seek to have sex with (and impregnate) as many different women as possible, which widens the gene pool and helps to reduce the chances of genetic errors or diseases. Even if some children are weak or unhealthy, others from a different genetic line (a different mother) will probably not have those problems, and are likely to survive to reproduce themselves.

These reproductive strategies are the reason that homo sapiens still exist while other humanoid species went extinct.

But, yes, this means that men have a strong instinct to spread their seed and to be attracted to variety. And just as you didn't ask to be hypergamous, men didn't ask to be attracted to other women - it's just in our nature.

This doesn't mean that men can't be monogamous, just that we have to sacrifice and fight against our nature to do so.

The problem for many women is that they aren't willing to make the same sacrifice and go against their hypergamy and pick a man based on his morals, values and life goals, but instead on his looks and status. Those are the men who are least likely to go against their nature and stay monogamous - the very things that make them so attractive are the things that almost ensure that they will follow their masculine instincts and sleep around.

[megabamse]

No, it's all about the trio. Physical and emotional attraction, and trust.

All these 3 things is connected together and if one does out then the two other will follow.

You need to have emotional attraction, physical attraction and trust the person.

If you jumped into the relationship without all 3 of them then the relationship is doomed from the beginning.

Also we need to maintain all 3 of them to keep the relationship going.

We need to stay healthy and fit, take care of ourselves, and do a bit of an effort, both need to.

We need to keep our mental health in order and healthy and take care of each other.

We need to build trust and meet half way on things we might not agree on.

All of have a direct effect on the other two no matter which one you take a close look at.

But there is a 4. One. Keep things interesting, learn, explore and be curious together. Have rutines. Share the responsibility, the chores, take some interest in each other's needs, wants, desires. Lastly and so ever important the 75-25 rule. Give 75% of yourself to your loved one, go full in 75% of the time. BUT even if it 1 relationship you are 2 people, so put a side 25% just to ourselves to do things just for "you" alone or with a friend, go fishing, girl trip or boy trip. What ever it may be. Because when we have some self care we recharge and feel happy and that will go back into the 75% and the Trio.

Sum it up. When you truly are in love, have the trio full out and have the 4. To maintain the trio then you never TRULY get sick of fucking that same person over and over again.

[Apple1996]

No there are good men out there that dont get bored.

Also all these guys in the comments saying that men have the urge to "spread their seed" to as many women as possible are just using that as a excuse to cheat.

If they truly knew anything about pregnancy/reproduction then they'd know that pregnancy is designed to make a man stick around to be there for the child. Even sex wise women get extremely high sex drives during pregnancy and have crazy pheromones that draw men in so that they'll have a lot of sex to bond with the mother. Men are literally designed to monogamous even more so then women.

[MrOracle]

"Also all these guys in the comments saying that men have the urge to "spread their seed" to as many women as possible are just using that as a excuse to cheat." No, it isn't. Women ABSOLUTELY follow their own instinctual reproductive strategies, and no one ever says a word, but when men do so, women always try to shame men - but this is absolutely an instinctual reproductive strategy, which is why you can see it copied in nearly all land mammals. I'm not advocating or endorsing cheating - I know that instinct CAN be controlled - but you're suggesting "it's just an excuse", and that's factually incorrect.

[Apple1996]

@MrOracle men that don't stick around to be there for the women they impregnated/and their kids need to be shamed. Nature made it for men to stick around. Pregnant women create pheromones/hormones that make men attract to them for protection. Not even just their own men but to attract other men as well.

[Apple1996]

@MrOracle If it were true that men were spreading their seed to a million women then no baby or mother would ever make it through pregnancy or throughout the years of the child being raised. Humans would have gone extinct a long time ago if it were all men were doing was whoring around and not being providers/protectors

[AyaMya]

You're absolutely right! As someone who's studied biology. Both the female AND the male orgasm release Oxytocin, the literal bonding chemical a mother shares with her child. If men were "meant to spread their seed" why on earth would they receive a huge Oxytocin hit with the woman he ejaculates in? This is why men are attracted emotionally to a woman after sex rather than just the primal urge to fuck. The ones that wanna "spread their seed" are just emotionally damaged with attachment issues either from childhood trauma or social conditioning. Monogamy is entirely normal in the human race. As it is for many other animal species that raise young together for any lengthy period of time.

[MrOracle]

Look at the behavior of the men that women consider very desirable: a whole lot of them have a bunch of baby mommas. Look at Nick Cannon - he has about 50 kids. How many pro athletes have kids in every city? Men who CAN, tend to act upon their instinctual drive to spread their seed, and they have plenty of women willing to be with them.

[AyaMya]

@MrOracle so sorry to but into you guys conversation, I don't mean to be rude to you or @apple1996 Just wanted to state that this is a societal thing rather than biological. There may be some instinct to mate with multiple women, but in the primal essence it would be a group of women with mutual needs that were cared for and stayed with that one male AND each other. Functioning as a unit to raise children together as a group, with love and care. Like our closest genetic relatives. A man bonding with his woman/ women and assisting to raise and protect his children and ladies is the essence of how the majority of higher primates function. And in those cases the women are not in competition, but are in union. There are too, many land animals that function this way including lions! and even some entirely monogamous species that pair mate for life. The idea of spreading seeds to any available female comes from species where the males fight, often to the death or life threatening injury to compete for genetic superiority. Humans don't have that need for survival at all. And its usually men with money that are able to achieve this for the same function as the original, to provide for and protect his family. It's just all broken because we are no longer tied to our primal roots and the male often refers to the mating patterns of the incorrect species. Not all animals exhibit the same sexual dynamics and unnatural forces are responsible for this one, if we were to talk primal urges, monogamy or polygamy would be the closest matches to our genetic foundation. We are not related to ungulates and have neurochemicals that emotionally bond a man to a woman and potential mother to his offspring, unlike species who are nomadic breeders.

[Reorx]

So it's all men's fault & women are just delicate flowers that aren't even responsible for what they choose... What a crock:/

[sheikalana]

I wouldn't say tired but I believe that after some time they start wondering how would it feel like to have sex with X, Y and Z. Imagine eating your favorite food every day even if it's your favorite? After some time you would want to eat something different right? That's normal and just because they have those thoughts doesn't actually mean they're going to do it.

[Leapfrog00]

The only time I ever get bored with sex is when a girl wants to do the same sexual positions all the time and never tries anything new. I like to explore a girl's body, find out what she likes, and find out what I like.

If she's OK with trying different things and letting me explore her, I never get tired of her.

[Asker]

No no I totally agree def should each taking initiative to keep things fun and spicy but be honest even with that a super freaky kinky girl.. more kink doesn’t get your mind wondering about that hot girl you see across the street or driving by you? What fun you might have with her?

[Leapfrog00]

I guess sex is different with every girl. Maybe that's why guys like a little variety. I'm an extremely kinky guy. I like to kiss her body all over, suck on her ear lobes softly, kiss her neck, lick her nipples, suck on her nipples while moving my tongue across, cum on her nipples, eat her out, licking her clit and the flap around her slit, cum on her pubic mound, cum inside her, play with her ass, stick my tongue inside her belly-button, kiss her feet, suck on her toes, cum on her toes. I'm a freak! lol I love to role play. I love to do all this while she's wearing a short skirt, black nylons, black panties, and black boots. I like bending her over and lifting up the skirt and sliding it in, doing doggy style while pulling her head back and kissing her neck at the same time. Yeah, I wasn't kidding when I said I was a freak!

[EricSummer]

No, that can't be. I always prefer having sex with the woman I'm with, not with any other woman. So far I've not got tired of having sex, either.

[Anemone978]

I think so.. that's why I kind of don't care anymore if I find someone or not...

[Gramkabir]

@anemone978 But I think generalizing all men is not fair. There are men who are dedicated and passionate about one girl even though some of them are not happy.

[Anemone978]

@Gramkabir I'm not really generalizing men the problem is more mine... that i'm not good enough for someone to be satisified in the long term.. so i'm just not bothered about it anymore.

[LazerBean]

No, only hoe men have that problem.

[Asker]

Well based off these replies I guess there’s a handful of men that would not cheat but from the sounds of it every man wants to have sex with other women they just refrain or don’t get the opportunity

[LazerBean]

No, all of those are hoe problems. God men just want one woman.

[horndog112]

I just want to get pegged

[BadApple69]

Lol the old joke is: take the most beautiful woman in the world and out there is a guy who is tired of fücking her. That is the reality. That doesn’t mean that your guy will be unfaithful. Just that at some point he will be bored.

[ZackBan]

Monogamy is a social construct not a biological one.

Men can pull off Monogamy the same way they can pull off a handstand. Doable but not a natural state

[asphaltrhymes]

I probably wouldn't have a relationship for more than a couple of years maybe for that reasoning. I wouldn't know, I'm about 30 almost and never been in one to know how "boring" it gets, if it even does get boring. Lol. 👀

[OfMiceandMen]

I am a one woman kind of guy, I would rather work to achieve perfect sex with one woman than semi-perfect sex with a bunch of women.

[Asker]

This is awesome ! Love it

[boggboss]

Nope been with my fiancé for 5 years bot bored of her

[Asker]

Beautiful love it !

[slatyb]

No, we don't, but it's natural behavior.

[jshm2]

Only if it's the sex alone keeping them together.

Some guys are with a girl for her money, others for her status, etc etc.

[Finchie40]

Because in the beginning she wasn’t bitching and complaining but after some time she starts to bitch and complain and nag and make him feel useless and worthless , always comparing him to someone else , criticizing him and belittling him etc.. she does it so much that he feels unloved and barely wanted. by her , so he notices the girl standing behind her with the big smile and the sparking eyes wanting to bring him happiness I tell you Girls’s all the time , stop being selfish and stop comparing your men , value him respect him don’t make him your punching bag , He loves you but isn’t sure if you Love him

[MementoMori777]

Perhaps men that jump into relationships for just sex but I know my future wife is going to be my only form of happiness and and sex isn't the only thing I'll want from her, I can also say that the love will most likely keep the sexual intercourse fresh.

[FilmGuy93]

Nope. And the trick to keeping a man interested is to keep yourself in good physical shape and actively exploring your sexuality. Sex is supposed to be dynamic and evolving.

[Nikki1989]

Men lack self-control, so if the opportunity to have sex with another woman, most will do it. No only that, they will make endless excuses for why they do it.

[EpicSnail]

My unqualified guess is it depends on who they are dating. I have dated many women I was not into, because when I am actually attracted to a woman, I am terrified of rejection so I never make a move. So obviously, none of those relationships were satisfying for me, so I was always looking for someone else.

But maybe if you find someone you love, and settle down with them, it's just not worth the effort to pursue other women, and you just enjoy what you have.

[Ben487]

One woman is perfectly fine for 'most' men, but those guy that get the looks, that know they got it going on... well they exercise those options. If you want a hubby that is highly sought after then I'd say no, one woman will never be enough and why would they be. Those golden penis guys can always find new freaky girls that will give them what they want. Those guys wanna have fun and i don't blame them.

[Mr1derful]

No not at all for me. In fact I prefer it with the same woman! Been with the same person now about 20 years! We just know each other inside and out and how to make each other extremely happy!

[bolverk]

If that is what you think about men then you are dating the wrong type of guys. The vast majority of guys will have had a very limited number of partners or are monogamous.

[David4358]

its not that we get tired of it. Its just nature has instilled the instinctual desire for the males of pretty much every species on this planet to try and reproduce with as many females as possible.. humans are no different with the exception we have intelligence to try and repress that instinctual desire

[Asker]

And we’re naturally supposed to be naked not clothed and shit outside lol? We adapt as humans.. and get used to what life is today and the reality of society and so forth

[David4358]

and our natural instincts are to eat food so we survive but we also know that over eating is bad for our health so we keep that natural instinct in check.. some are just better then others at doing this, just like the desire for sex with others

[Asker]

Love this reply you got me ! Good insight