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Do guys feel nervous the first time they have sex with their girl?

If you haven’t had sex, do you feel nervous about having it? Do they even think about nerves or is it just automatic?
Do guys feel nervous the first time they have sex with their girl?
Yes, I’m nervous the first time
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  • Nervous of even kissing, only done that once nothing else yet, when a friend jump me & kiss me it was shocking, we was sit & talking& eating she put her hand on my face rub my cheek I thought I had food there and boom she was kiss me & then back in her seat

    I was like wow what huh, she said don't be surprised if girls want to kiss you as your good looking guy & really nice person, USAID but you took my first kiss & she jump me kiss me a lot I lost count at 30+ and then she laughed & said what will you say to people now? Laughing so naughty, it was so strange like dang fireworks going off & things I can't explain, she did want sex, she dropped her jeans on the floor sat on my lap & all I did was hug her, I told her I didn't come here for sex, I actually went there to see she was safe as she went on a date with a guy off tan app & I was worried, as he travelled a long way & guys who travel expect things... So I went to protect her &see she was ok, so I guess her emotions of me be her knight might hv made her feel extra, but all I did was hug her, she's my friend & I do love her too, but I'd rather be friends than sleep or F and then have the chance of lose them as a friend

    So as that was only September I'm still confused by her jump me, I told a friend in USA who said I'm a late starter and I'm a gentleman for not doing anything, but it did piss her off I didn't do anything she didn't talk to me for 2 calendar months & 12 days, Feb 12 after I gave her flowers & Chicago & cards but never did she reply to calls texts or emails or even for 25/12 NYD, so I really was afraid I had hurt her by not sleep with her, very scary & nervous to feel I lost a friend but I didn't know that a few days after that she was touched by her manager at work & she had to change jobs & move as she was afraid & she didn't tell me what was going on even though she knows I would have helped her,

    Friendship means more to me than 30 seconds F. ing (if that) & lose a friend

    But she did ignore something in me as now when I think if her I still get fireworks & I would really like to kiss her & hug her forever, & I did tell her, but sadly she said she's moved on since then, I will never feel that, but we are friends. Very confusing. I would just love to hug for hours & just feel her safe in my arms, but sadly never to be. But she's still my friend & that I'm truly grateful for as i care about her so very much, She's had crap boyfriends who hurt her badly & now I'm her only

    • now I'm her only male friend, so to me that's worth more than anything. :) She's a really inspiring lovely person so fun & cute, I don't know why her 2 ex both hurt her, why any guy hurts a girl at all, I never would, I'm very kind caring sharing & would never abandon anyone, so I many things I don't understand as I am kind & I think with my heart not my dick, so I guess I just care a lot about the girl as a person over using her for a quick time, in my opinion girls are amazing, wonderful, you have so much love & kindness & so many things most guys don't even see or realise, you all have to put up with guys disrespecting you yet you are the most amazing people. This is long won't post sorry.

  • It's not at all unusual to be a bit nervous with a new partner. You are both vulnerable and you never know for sure how someone might react to such an intimate situation. But it should also be expected and understood, and some leeway given. It usually gets a lot better over time.

Most Helpful Girls

  • I def expect both us to be nervous. I only ever did it with my ex and that was a regrettable 8 years ago. My boyfriend is a virgin and we’ll prob spend honeymoon night tryna find the hole or something lmao 🙈😂 he's only nervous about hurting me though. Like u know when it feels really good to a guy sometimes they wanna speed up while the girl may still need them to go slow. So yea

    • I agree with you a lot on most of what you said. The only thing that seems weird for me is the age you must of have been those regretable 8years ago... but well... I guess we all have our paths that we walk and I mustnt judge in any way.

    • @TonguePunch he pressured me daily for months so i eventually gave in like an idiot hoping he would stay faithful. But i was wrong. Ended up leaving him after some months

    • Oh... Im sorry that happened to you... a really shitty experience... I've recently adviced a girl not to give into her boyfriend pressuring her for sex... she was too young and their relationship was but 2 months old... told her he will wait for her if he really loves her... if he is fake... he will leave as soon as he realizes he won't get any easy sex...

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  • My man was nervous our first time even though he had had sex once before and it was my first time. He just kept joking to calm himself down and the nervousness for him went away as soon as he was in me

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • To be honest, i feel nervous everytime 🙊

    • I also enjoy trying to make her relaxe and trusting in me. Don't rush. Take your time.

  • Yes of course
    But it depends. If the girl is mature enough, she will not lower you even you did it wrong cuz she knows that sex is learning process and so it takes time. But if she is just a teenager and not grow up, then she will be upset and disappointed and even shamed you.

    But anyway I am virgin I do not know so yea

    • R you seriously virgin?

    • Yea I am

  • Wow, I thought girls were more nervous. I would be terrified, but I am not letting a guy get anywhere near me until I lose 20 pounds. Maybe by the time I'm 40?

    • Hahaha why is this me lol

  • There's always the idea that guys will underperform and guys are sometimes worried they aren't good enough. Whether it be lasting long or being able to make the girl orgasm without having her fake it.

    However in the heat of the moment, if sex just happens, then there is less anxiety. If you say hey Friday we bang, then there's time to be anxious.

  • Guys are always nervous unless they are some kind of Casanova then they aren’t lol

  • I've never had sex but I would be really nervous

  • I've not even had sex yet and the thought of fucking it all up still scares the shit out of me every time i get close. Fck actually trying the act, i'm too damn afraid to take a one night stand even if it's practically thrown in my lap because i'd fck it up!

    • Don't stress too much. If you're with the right person you can't do anything wrong. Your partner should have patience with you just like you would for her. If you don't last very long then who cares! And there's always around 2...

  • But but. I was told a guy cannot get an erection when he is nervous in bed. All these guys are liars!
    Burn them!!! Burn them all!!

    • My first time ever, I couldn’t. I was too nervous! It wasn’t until a week later that I actually was able to get erect. You can be nervous, but you have to relax and calm your nerves, and it’ll still work. As a side note, I would respectfully request that I be left out of the whole burning situation when you burn us all... ha ha

    • Burn all men or only virgins?

    • Don't listen to rumors over real dudes willing to share their opinions! Girl, your giving us a bad name!

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  • Tbh I'm normally more worried the second time, lately the first times has all been spontaneous and good then I'm like what if I won't be able to compare to that and it's also planned as well so like do it again this weekend etc so it kinda loses its magic

    • Does size matter if you love a guy?

    • Umm, if you love a guy no size doesn't matter, but I don't see the relevance in my opinion. I was just saying when you're both so sexually frustrated until you having sex then comparing that night to something after that, I'm going to be a lot more tamed than the first time having sex it's just the pressure of it all

    • Thanks for that. My ex dumped me because im 6in length and 4.7in girth. She said she missed her ex dick

  • I was nervous, not because of the act itself but because it was with a guy. Nonetheless, saying I wasn't nervous would not be the truth, hence I voted as such.

  • Of course! lol Girls are too

  • Yes because you don't know if they are still hot naked.

    If you haven't talk of that you don't know if she like rough or slow.

    Maybe sex is boring, maybe you can't orgasm (sorry big turn off for me if it happens really often and that it's not related to me).

    • What do you mean “you don’t know if they are still hot naked”? Can it really change that much? 😂

    • A fucking lot. I slept with a girl that had 34D but it was more 34B when she removed her bra with her pads. It wasn't fitting with her body, if you had no boobs, sorry but you need an amazing belly, almost with abs otherwise it sucks. She had acne on his ass and it looked like she had one with her pants but she was flat. She had nipples the size of her boobs. She didn't have that but she could have stretch marks or things like that, it could be everywhere where skin is hidden. You don't have these issues with guys, only small dicks, if they had a surgery or something not normal.

  • Yes a lot of them do, I've met a few.

    • would like to ask you Qs.. can you pm pls.. i can't

    • @BigProblem It's one of those again, you don't want to ask anything, just trying to be creepy for no reason.

  • I have had sex many times since my first time. But I remember it like yesterday. I was way nervous. Was I going to cum too quickly or not at all, would I be too rough, could I get her to an orgasm... Way nervous but it was fun. We ended up doing it three times that afternoon. She was not a virgin. How bout you?

  • I felt so nervous I couldn't cum for hours..

  • I felt nervous the first time I had sex with myself

  • Absolutely. Especially if its someone we have feelings for.

  • Always. Being a heavy guy without the biggest equipment means I'm pretty self conscious so the first, second and maybe even third time are daunting

  • Thanks to tv we’re just afraid we’re being evaluated the entire time rather than enjoyed.

  • I felt nervous. As an activity that's new, I think it's natural to feel nervous the first few times.

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