Do guys feel nervous the first time they have sex with their girl?

Question

If you haven’t had sex, do you feel nervous about having it? Do they even think about nerves or is it just automatic?

LoveToHug · Accepted Answer

Nervous of even kissing, only done that once nothing else yet, when a friend jump me & kiss me it was shocking, we was sit & talking& eating she put her hand on my face rub my cheek I thought I had food there and boom she was kiss me & then back in her seat

I was like wow what huh, she said don't be surprised if girls want to kiss you as your good looking guy & really nice person, USAID but you took my first kiss & she jump me kiss me a lot I lost count at 30+ and then she laughed & said what will you say to people now? Laughing so naughty, it was so strange like dang fireworks going off & things I can't explain, she did want sex, she dropped her jeans on the floor sat on my lap & all I did was hug her, I told her I didn't come here for sex, I actually went there to see she was safe as she went on a date with a guy off tan app & I was worried, as he travelled a long way & guys who travel expect things... So I went to protect her &see she was ok, so I guess her emotions of me be her knight might hv made her feel extra, but all I did was hug her, she's my friend & I do love her too, but I'd rather be friends than sleep or F and then have the chance of lose them as a friend

So as that was only September I'm still confused by her jump me, I told a friend in USA who said I'm a late starter and I'm a gentleman for not doing anything, but it did piss her off I didn't do anything she didn't talk to me for 2 calendar months & 12 days, Feb 12 after I gave her flowers & Chicago & cards but never did she reply to calls texts or emails or even for 25/12 NYD, so I really was afraid I had hurt her by not sleep with her, very scary & nervous to feel I lost a friend but I didn't know that a few days after that she was touched by her manager at work & she had to change jobs & move as she was afraid & she didn't tell me what was going on even though she knows I would have helped her,

Friendship means more to me than 30 seconds F. ing (if that) & lose a friend

But she did ignore something in me as now when I think if her I still get fireworks & I would really like to kiss her & hug her forever, & I did tell her, but sadly she said she's moved on since then, I will never feel that, but we are friends. Very confusing. I would just love to hug for hours & just feel her safe in my arms, but sadly never to be. But she's still my friend & that I'm truly grateful for as i care about her so very much, She's had crap boyfriends who hurt her badly & now I'm her only

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

It's not at all unusual to be a bit nervous with a new partner. You are both vulnerable and you never know for sure how someone might react to such an intimate situation. But it should also be expected and understood, and some leeway given. It usually gets a lot better over time.

DizzyDesii · Accepted Answer

I def expect both us to be nervous. I only ever did it with my ex and that was a regrettable 8 years ago. My boyfriend is a virgin and we’ll prob spend honeymoon night tryna find the hole or something lmao 🙈😂 he's only nervous about hurting me though. Like u know when it feels really good to a guy sometimes they wanna speed up while the girl may still need them to go slow. So yea

simplecountrygirl · Accepted Answer

My man was nervous our first time even though he had had sex once before and it was my first time. He just kept joking to calm himself down and the nervousness for him went away as soon as he was in me

StrangerByTheDay · Answer

To be honest, i feel nervous everytime 🙊

djmzes · Answer

Yes of course
But it depends. If the girl is mature enough, she will not lower you even you did it wrong cuz she knows that sex is learning process and so it takes time. But if she is just a teenager and not grow up, then she will be upset and disappointed and even shamed you.

But anyway I am virgin I do not know so yea

DianaWest · Answer

Wow, I thought girls were more nervous. I would be terrified, but I am not letting a guy get anywhere near me until I lose 20 pounds. Maybe by the time I'm 40?

LazyLemonade · Answer

There's always the idea that guys will underperform and guys are sometimes worried they aren't good enough. Whether it be lasting long or being able to make the girl orgasm without having her fake it.

However in the heat of the moment, if sex just happens, then there is less anxiety. If you say hey Friday we bang, then there's time to be anxious.

pingiluv · Answer

Guys are always nervous unless they are some kind of Casanova then they aren’t lol

Naruto_Uzumaki · Answer

I've never had sex but I would be really nervous

Nexovous · Answer

I've not even had sex yet and the thought of fucking it all up still scares the shit out of me every time i get close. Fck actually trying the act, i'm too damn afraid to take a one night stand even if it's practically thrown in my lap because i'd fck it up!

hemadesouza · Answer

But but. I was told a guy cannot get an erection when he is nervous in bed. All these guys are liars! Burn them!!! Burn them all!!

19magic · Answer

Tbh I'm normally more worried the second time, lately the first times has all been spontaneous and good then I'm like what if I won't be able to compare to that and it's also planned as well so like do it again this weekend etc so it kinda loses its magic

ZanyInternetName · Answer

I was nervous, not because of the act itself but because it was with a guy. Nonetheless, saying I wasn't nervous would not be the truth, hence I voted as such.

Weapon77 · Answer

Of course! lol Girls are too

Christpaquin · Answer

Yes because you don't know if they are still hot naked.

If you haven't talk of that you don't know if she like rough or slow.

Maybe sex is boring, maybe you can't orgasm (sorry big turn off for me if it happens really often and that it's not related to me).

azzntittiz · Answer

Yes a lot of them do, I've met a few.

summiter · Answer

I have had sex many times since my first time. But I remember it like yesterday. I was way nervous. Was I going to cum too quickly or not at all, would I be too rough, could I get her to an orgasm... Way nervous but it was fun. We ended up doing it three times that afternoon. She was not a virgin. How bout you?

Bukhuni · Answer

I felt so nervous I couldn't cum for hours..

i1T2daty · Answer

I felt nervous the first time I had sex with myself

AndyGillard · Answer

Absolutely. Especially if its someone we have feelings for.

StevenG95 · Answer

Always. Being a heavy guy without the biggest equipment means I'm pretty self conscious so the first, second and maybe even third time are daunting

NathanStrat · Answer

Thanks to tv we’re just afraid we’re being evaluated the entire time rather than enjoyed.

PillowThief · Answer

I felt nervous. As an activity that's new, I think it's natural to feel nervous the first few times.

Carolynn · Answer

I think it's automatic. You will automatically do whatever your body and your heart and your mind tells you to do. It's not a spectator sport. Hopefully you're not going to get graded on it so just be natural. Like I said it'll come to you.

DevikaButts95 · Answer

Yea of course.

passinby · Answer

I feel more anxious excited bliss and I think there is some adrenaline in play. I don't think it is so much nervousness but being highly excited and being in a cloud state. I mean there is nothing better than exploring a new woman and the, I think, endorphins that go with it. Once she accepts me sexually, such as a caress of my groin, any nervousness that might have been is gone and it is all automatic for me from there. Some first sexual encounters I only remember flashes, frames, that are permanently burned in, and I don't drink, drugs, anything.

sawno · Answer

I will probably be nervous the first time, i expect it to be imperfect and awkward so if its anything better then that it will exceed my expectations. And if its like that then ill use the oppertunity to explore her and do better next time.

davidrees · Answer

Definitely some nerves before the first time, especially if I'm super in to her, it's important that the sexual side of our relationship works as well as the non sexual side.

One night stands - not really an issue, we're clearly both just scratching an itch.

Ninja99 · Answer

I haven't had sex my first time yet and the thought of it alone makes me nervous.

slatyb · Answer

I'm a little bit anxious the first time with any new partner.

Iwearyouwell · Answer

Since I found my sexuality in my twenties I haven't had that type of experience. If you want someone to respond to you physically take them where you want to go along the way discover what it is that keeps them interested in going with you. People respond positively to confidence most of the time as long as it's kind and thoughtful and you remain a gentleman she will let you turn up the gentle and go places that you never thought you two would ever go just hours before. Let your horses run free just be sure she's able to ride with you comfortably

airylnovatech · Answer

Yes, it is.

icedragoom · Answer

Having sex for the first time is a scary experience at least the first time cause you don't know or at least for a guy any way we don't k ow if we are hurting you how long we can last and don't know if we are even good at fucking

Cricket74 · Answer

God yes! How can I put it in without hurting her. Foreplay. Is it too much. Do I treat her delicately or rough. How the hell does it go in. Where the blasted hole? Let me tell you all guts are a wreck the first few times.

Rich_Takeover · Answer

I personally don't feel nervous

Dargil · Answer

Sure. You want to get it right and getting it right is guesswork.

Uhhhhi99 · Answer

My boyfriend was he couldn't keep a stiffy until we did sexual stuff more and more

andreasderjuengere · Answer

With age comes 'routine'. Not saying that there is no - call it - curious anticipation.

mike5150 · Answer

Yeah it is pretty natural reaction

pervertedjester · Answer

Excited and thankful mainly.

N23SA · Answer

yeah

opurba · Answer

Let them fuck shabuj only.

aaaae2e · Answer

especially random hook ups lol becuase hed be nervous cuz ur new to him ig

Meninist · Answer

When it was like my very first time ever, a little bit anxious and I had a weird thumper like reaction in my leg.  It passed the more I had sex.

Chaoseverywhere · Answer

not really nervous, more like let's go already

VSM25 · Answer

I am still a virgin, hope so that situation may arise soon so that I can answer this question with honesty and do justice with answer 😅

EStephenchikov · Answer

I was 16 when I fist had sex and the woman I was with was a 39 year old so I think nervous would be an understatement, she was patient with me though and taught me things as we progressed. Magnificent woman, very few have ever come close to comparing to her.

Synttacks · Answer

I was nervous my first time but only been with one girl so 👨‍❤️‍💋‍👨🤷

winterfox10 · Answer

I'm never nervous about nearly anything... so in my case; no. I don't get nervous. I am sure many guys do though, because that would only be natural.

LeeKenz · Answer

Yes.

MLGbreezy · Answer

Of course lol we wanna make you feel the best we can and most of all not come to quick but being so nervous usually ends up being most guys down fall

RenegadeSailor · Answer

Nope, I take the reins and get the job done.

owens97 · Answer

ur question is different to the description so ill answer both. yes i was nervous the first few times i ever had sex but now im not nervous at all and its probably the place im most confident actually

DamnSam · Answer

Depends on the girl and the situation (will she be my girlfriend or only an ons) But normally not

_dardorsama_ · Answer

Yes of course we get nervous at our first time because we always afraid if might screw things up or ejaculate too early  Some would even lose their erection from it

seekingknowl65 · Answer

Nervous because I want to pleasure her and make it a good experience for her.

genericname85 · Answer

obviously every first time with a new girl makes us nervous, cause everyone likes different things and you can't be 100% sure if you can please them.

kitty71 · Answer

I think it could apply to both genders why it only has to be the woman. Now do guys feel nervous when they bang a virgin even if they are not virgin

Riddler1412 · Answer

If they're not drunk, then yes.

Hungry_Shark · Answer

Everyone feels nervous first time they do something.

AllThatSweetJazz · Answer

Of course there’s nerves.

Zenurus · Answer

I'm not nervous. But after my experience, I know what I'm doing and how to notice how and to what the one I'm with responds to.   Having fun, safety and respect =)

MasterAetos · Answer

I'm still a virgin, but I just know I'm going to be a nervous wreck, but it will be a shared nervousness because you're both seeing each other naked for the first time, and being vulnerable.

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