Hon, if porn makes BJ's seem more degrading, then, sweet Jesus Christ child, I sure hope more men are watchin' that porn and takin' notes.
I WANT degrading. I WANT to get down on my knees, and feel them chafe against the cold hard floor. I WANT my hands behind my back, like a good girl. I WANT one of my husband's strong hands full of my ponytail, and the other one tight around my throat, as he uses my mouth like a cheap fuck hole. I WANT those tears to well up, sting my eyes, and run in mascara-streaked rivers down my face.
I WANT to feel that gag reflex, over and over and over again. Right around that most sensitive part of that boy's head, squeezing that shit like no pussy ever could.
I WANT his load straight down my throat, no chaser. If I gag on that, too, I WANT him to make me clean up my slutty mess, like a good girl.
Hell yeah I want. I want I want I want. Me me me me me. You wanna be considerate? Gimme what I want.
Good thing I married a boy who gives it to me, exactly the way I want it.
Exactly the way I need it.
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NO WAY!! My husband LOVES the bjs I give him. In fact, I do it daily, sometimes several times a day because I think he's got a great penis and I thoroughly enjoy pleasuring him. I think the biggest problem women have with bjs is that they take the term blow JOB literally. It should NEVER be a job!! It turns me on to give my hubby pleasure like that. It's all in YOUR outlook on it that counts. It's only degrading if that's what YOU feel when doing it. Giving one another pleasure is a beautiful thing... NEVER degrading!!
Is your husband white or black?
@Rick-Lewis he's white. Why?
Would you have dated a black or Latino guy?
I don't see oral as degrading, but rather sensual and sexy... I mean, he's putting his most vulnerable body part between her teeth after all! And she gets a very intimate connection to his body - the taste and feel of him on her lips and tongue.
Unless it's violent like some of what you see in porn, of course. That can seem really demoralizing and sad.
Blowjobs are about as degrading to women as going down on a girl is degrading to a man.
Honestly I'd see it the other way. The person giving is the one in control. They have their partner exposed to them. They are effectively controlling their feelings and emotions and however is this degrading to that person?
I think the porn damaged person is the one who views BJs as degrading due to how they are (sometimes) portrayed in porn. Can't remember ever seeing a porn actress not be into it though. Obviously mostly an act but if the message sent out is " As long as you're both enjoying it and not hurting anyone you can do whatever gets you both off", I am all for it. Good lesson Porn! Thank you.
Porn blow jobs, with the gagging and whatnot, so come off as there being a distinct passive/dominant role.
In real life, I have never even been attracted to the thought of making a girl suffer, for doing me what I see as not only a huge favor, but also a sign that she likes me and finds me attractive enough to want to do Something that, even when its awesome for both parties, will make your neck sore, and really be kind of a lot like work.
No, I don't feel like I'm degrading the women who does that to me, honestly if I knew she hated it, I would probably have troubles staying aroused.
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I don't think so. Some women actually enjoy it very much, and there is a way for men to give women oral as well. It's a sexual act that usually benefits one person, but it isn't unheard of for the one giving to enjoy it as well.
no, guys see bj's as something a girlfriend will do for him cos she wants to make him happy which means she cares about him and likes him. its not degrading. degrading would be giving a bj to a guy you are not dating (unless that was your question)... dont do that!.
It depends on the circumstances and the guy's attitude wether it is degrading or not. If done in a fun and sexy manner, I don't see it as being degrading, and I don't think most women would think the same. I've never treated a woman poorly in regards to receiving oral sex. I have seen some porn where it was done in a demeaning manner and I wouldn't want to participate in that.
No I don't find it degrading/view her less in anyway. I do think the stupid facial shots are degrading and repulsive to me.
i think its hot as hell n a big turn on... because YOU have the control... his orgasm depends on you... n my reward is when he moans n bucks n blows his load in my mouth...
One of the hottest answers I have seen on here. :-)
i speak the truth lol
I did a bit until I learned how much women actually like to give them. I didn't realize it before, but, looking back at some of my exGF's when we were young, they certainly would bring it up on their own in fantasy discussions. So, now, if women genuinely want to give BJs, then more power to them!
I see it as a privelage and honour
No, I see it as a means of affection; considering she's doing that to please you. What's degrading about a woman choosing to please you? I don't see it.
I don't care, it's hot as fuck.
Yea, I can see it degrading. I feel the same way when a girl wants me to put my head between her legs. That would make me feel a bit weak. Not sure why so many guys do it.
Do you see "eating out" as degrading to the guys?
Guys usually like pussy as a lead up to sex, and u can't gag on a pussy anyway. Bjs are more... messy and personal. But I could see if a guy thought eating pussy was degrading if the girl just demanded it from him.
@KawaiiPie67 For those of us who have a "fetish attraction" to giving oral, nothing can be more personal/intimate. And the half cup of fluids (there are 3) that are involved, especially if it is her-on-top 69, make a tablespoonful of semen seem like nothing. And breathing during this can be an adventure. Her asking for oral is like my saying, "Would you like some of this Dutch Chocolate?"
A blow job is another type of ORAL sex, I don't see it as degrading, however more dominant sex that includes the penis being showed uber deep and having the girl gag for air that is a no-no. Why? I don't know in my mind that's just bit fucked up.
Blowjobs are only degrading if the guy is shoving his shaft down her throat and making her gag.
Do u find him giving u oral sex degrading to him?
No not at all! We just see it as something that brings us immense pleasure
It's NOT degrading when the girl initiates it.
It IS degrading when the guy demands it (with the voiced or silent "or I'll dump you" -or worse- threat.)
I think lots of guys like to see her sub, so in that sense they probably like making her their bitch. So in a roundabout way, probably yes. But I also agree with u that it's not degrading, because women can feel Dom when giving bjs. So it depends on ur pov.
i find it degrading to me to kiss a women whos given other men blow jobs.
no, nothing two consenting adults do in bed is degrading to anyone
If the girl loves it, it can be empowering for her... she's in control and he is totally at her mercy.
not when i'm doing it to him as a treat.
which is how it is 99% of the time
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