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Like is this attractive to men? I have to ask because I’ve seen it time and time again where a guy would be the most emotionally attached to a crazy ex, that I would typically assume they would find as off putting behaviour but they don’t, because they’ve not got over them in years and still reach out on occasion or answer their texts.
I’ve acted crazy with a guy before too, and although he did consider cutting contact multiple times he never did. That being said, overtime I did get less toxic overtime with some good communication and boundaries between both of us. Once I discussed going on the pill and he told me he wouldn’t want me to do that, that he didn’t mind wearing a condom. I asked why, and he said he didn’t want to mess with my hormones. I asked why it mattered to him and he told me “I don’t want you to change. You’re a good kind of crazy, but I don’t want you to get crazier and I also don’t want you to get less crazy cuz that’s boring”.
I’ve seen it in a lot of cases though, men seem to get bored with women that aren’t crazy in some way (I don’t mean domestic abuse crazy by the way, more like mind games or getting upset over seeing them talk to other girls after a breakup and actively trying to ruin their relationship or getting too involved with things that don’t include them in their life).
I'm honestly really interested in hearing what you guys have to say so please let me know, and girls don’t be afraid to share your stories of being the crazy girl that had a guy that kept running back to her.
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no we’d love to find girls that aren’t crazy but that like finding big foot or the Easter bunny 🤣
Yeah that’s not true, normally when guys say it’s most girls they’re the issue lol
@dolemite58 is the common denominator making all women in his life crazy
@Apple1996 I don't know what ur talking about 😇
Yeah right you ain't no angel 😈
@Apple1996 my point exactly lol. I get having one or two crazy exes but to make a claim that it’s pretty much every woman … yeah it’s defo the common denominator causing the issues 🚩🚩
Fuck no. Men aren't women and aren't attracted to crazy or bad women
The opinions say otherwise lol. It seems to be a similar case as women liking bad boys. Not all of them want bad boys, and not all men want crazy women but some defo do.
They'll fuck a crazy woman, but they won't commit or date a crazy woman. Men dont like the same things women do
Not sure why you feel the need to generalise all women at your big age but sure
Generalisations are more consistent than individualism
I depend upon person i think.
Straight men are tit suckers. They become a baby while they suck then they become crazy offending later
Like I’ve seen in a meme, the mental instability goes right to the hu-ha and that’s why love you lol
I don't
I'm embarrassed for you. Any high class man would not want a nut job as a girlfriend. Dusties like mentally unstable women.
I’m embarrassed for a woman who goes Anonymous to say things they clearly wouldn’t say otherwise. I’ll take you seriously when you’re not a coward 🤭
Asker ur anonymous and a retard who deals with dusties bc you're not good enough.
I didn’t go anonymous for cowardly reasons though. Seek therapy, you need to work on your miserable life instead of worrying about complete strangers. Good luck
Child… you’re literally leaving hate on the anonymous feature. It’s ironic that you’re talking about “high value” when we can see you’re not a high value woman, no confident woman who respects herself talks like you do. You scream insecurity and here you are trying your best to make me look bad. You’re projecting. Maybe if you get off GAG you might just find that high value man you want because I know you’re not living the life you want. No self awareness whatsoever. It’s pathetic. Like I said, sort yourself out.
Ur anonymous for cowardly reasons and he still ur still a dusty magnet
Hmm… yeah, no. You came over to my question to be the miserable 🐄 you are and hid behind anon so I wouldn’t know your identity. Don’t think you’re in the position to criticise others. Try getting a man, if you’re even capable of it boo 😂
If he was raised by an abusive mother maybe. But it’s extremely dysfunctional either way. Never will end well.
Guys who are hung up on crazy exes are actually suffering from psychological abandonment issues. This usually stems from not having a healthy relationship with their mothers.
Also men are less likely to seek out help or talk about “mommy issues” especially around their romancé interests. It’s considered pathetic for a man to have these problems and a huge turn off to women. So most men internalize it.
But I can tell most guys are not turned on by challenge as much as vice versa. Fuck no. Women are already naturally a pain in the ass. So if you intentionally act this way it will ultimately backfire when a guy has moment of clarity. In that money he will cut you off and never look back.
It’s not worth it to be more difficult than you naturally are as a woman (no offense but shit testing is very real)
*in that moment
You’re right about emotional abandonment. The guy I was with had a history of being obsessed with the most toxic b****. She wasn’t abusive… well I would say she was emotionally abusive for sure and very narcissistic but she wasn’t physically abusive or directly argumentative. Then he met me. He’s now my best friend and nothing more but he also had abandonment issues when he was little, literally had no one really keeping an eye on him. His mum was bipolar and addicted to drugs but she did get clean for her kids, and his step dad was verbally abusive towards him. His dad wasn’t in the picture until later on, he was in prison when my best friend was little because he had attempted to murder his mother with my best friend and his sister in the house but in a different room. When we were dating he admitted he had mummy issues, although I could be toxic by inserting myself in situations with his ex girlfriend that he was still contacting when we were never really official and I attempted to tell the ex’s fiance over what she’s doing (didn’t succeed cuz no real proof and the guy is a doormat), I am very nurturing as a person and affectionate. He told me no one’s given him the attention I do, and he’s never opened up about things the way he has with me.
You can’t fix him not is it any woman’s job too. He needs to get intensive therapy for this. I have “mommy issues” and it hasn’t been easy. Mine are a bit more sneaky. I was raised by a very clean cut but extremely controlling mother who placed her “image” above everything else. She saw me as extension of her reality and how she wanted people to view her vs. an independent person that she wanted the best for. Not to say she never cared about the latter. But it was a big second place. She continued this controlling behavior well into my adulthood and when I was 100% financially independent. I finally recognized it and drew a very clear boundary with her. While I don’t blame all my relationship issues on her she did have a major detrimental impact with how I interact with other women. I self sabotaged a lot of good opportunities because I was confused on proper way to interact with women in my romantic life.
Anyway I do NOT recommend trying to replicate the “craziness” to keep his attention. Even if it works it’s very toxic and temporary. He needs professional help to resolve this. It’s not going to be easy for him. He was damaged for no fault of his own. But he can improve but it’s going to be very hard for him to do this on his own.
Yeah he’s been in therapy for years and years now. He’s in a better place now than he ever has been in life, but he does deal with dark thoughts that are overly critical about himself. He often picks on himself and I’m sure that comes from growing up with his step dad. That’s as far as it gets though, he deals with that on a bad day but he’s doing very well, honestly. Got himself a job that pays 6 figures which is a huge achievement for someone who grew up in a trailer park with the parents he had. Lol I’m not trying to be crazy for anyone. I’ve been myself the whole time and his ex can’t come anywhere near me, in terms of character and morals. I’m a good person and well intentioned, I can say that with confidence but she can’t. I would never want to be anything like her, or be like her to get a guy. I don’t feel bad for her but equally I know women like her will never be satisfied in life. I don’t believe she can be faithful to anyone and that misery of feeling unsatisfied with everyone is truly deserved in my eyes. Hopefully her delusional husband wakes up one day but she is a very good liar, honestly. So I can’t say I completely blame him. I don’t need to have his intention, we are now best friends and any romantic feelings I had for him are gone. I’ve known him for 4 years in total. It’s really sad how a lot of parents don’t seem to care or maybe don’t realise how much they influence their children. Children are the most innocent people around, closest things we have to angels in my eyes, and bad parents can ruin and break them so easily. It’s heart breaking, I hope I can be a good parent to my future children one day and love them unconditionally.
I have to forgiving to my mother. I was the oldest in the family and she parented by how she was parented (not well) But when my mom tried to criticize and control me when I was a fully grown independent man I got pushed to a breaking point. It’s all about her image and not what makes me happy in life. That’s why I drew a very firm boundary (never call her). I am surface friendly and respectful when I see her at family events. I told her years ago I wanted a direct and private conversation with her. But until then there would be s boundary. She’s too scared to do it. Which sadly proves my suspicions right. Anyway good for you being patient with your boyfriend. That can’t be easy at all. I never told any of my ex gfs the truth about my “mommy issues”. I just felt pathetic to admit that. I thought they might quickly dump me over it.
He’s not my boyfriend, we were never really official but I no longer have any romantic feelings towards him although I love this person a lot. He is my best friend I can relate to some of what you’ve described with my own mother. You love them but have to love at a distance unfortunately. I’m glad your at peace with everything
Just a warning no man calls a woman he is friends with or even friends with benefits his “best friend”. No. He might call his wife or long time girlfriend that. But no straight man will ever call a female friend “his best friend”. No. Be careful about your semantics there. Very common young female mistake.
I’m 26, and his other female best friend is married and in her 30s?
Yeah he definitely has mommy issues. She must of knowingly and very skillfully manipulated him using the mommy angle. She probably picked up on his insecurity well before he even mentioned his mom. Then she utilized it to manipulate him and he developed an unhealthy subconscious obsession for her. Reason being she (seemingly) filled an emotional void in his life. That’s why is hung up on her. She most likely touched a very deep nerve with him. To a more limited extent I am semi guilty of that with some of my exes. One used as an emotional cushion for my insecurities because I never had a mom who was good at that. Not to say my mom had her motherly moments but in her mind: First thought: how is this going to make me look if people see MY son dealing with this. How will this image be impacted? Second thought: I’m concerned about my son. If the issue was something that didn’t have much impact on her “image” then she could act motherly. But if her image was in danger her reaction would be how I should be behave to make her look best.
Anyway tangent aside. Your friend got unfortunately manipulated by an opportunist and/or a crazy lady. He needs deep psychotherapy for this. If he doesn’t get help this will happen again and the consequences will be worse. I feel sorry for him. Really do.
Hell no. I’d nail her in bed because she’s probably crazy in bed. But as far as a serious relationship, no way.
No, we don't. But most of us are forced to tollerate it.
I'm sure uneducated, unruly men might like crazy women, cultured men do not.