Do some men like to be submissive?

[Anonymous]

This might sound sooo awkward but although I'm a virgin (I'm a female) I have noticed I tend to have a dominant personality in most aspects of my life and I am not afraid of taking initiative on many things, don't get me wrong, I'm very sweet, kind, funny, and soft hearted. So, I do have a boyfriend, I like to have control when I'm cuddling with him, but I don't want to scare him or make him feel like I'm too sexually driven, I'm usually more aroused than he is, for some reason which I don't think I understand. I can also be submissive to him when cuddling and I enjoy it. But anyway, my point is, I really like the idea of a man surrendering and being vulnerable to the woman he loves. Is it normal for a woman to be dominant? Are there really guys out there who actually like to be submissive and dominated by his woman? Sorry for such an awkward question 😅 Thank you all! 💜

[NamerOfStars]

In a broad sense, relationships don't actually work out with one person calling all the shots in every area, all the time. You'll switch off in different ways, places, and times. Sometimes one partner more strongly or more commonly assumes roles of leadership, and more frequently takes control; that's usually the guy, but not always. What works for you in the relationship you have is what works for you; it's really up to the individuals in question. It's only a problem if someone's feeling suffocated and powerless (because they're never allowed to control enough for them) or overwhelmed and fried (because they're never allowed to stop). So long as you're willing to adapt a little, you should be okay.

Sexually, it's a different story. Well, actually no; it's pretty much the same story. The idea of having your woman take control is something that appeals to a LOT of guys, if only for a while. Some more than others, and some to a bigger degree or for a longer time than others, but most would be willing to try it at least a few times, so long as you don't go TOO far overboard, at least at first; hold off on the heavier BDSM stuff until you've built up to it.

Very few men are aware of their own power to arouse; they see "sexy" as something that women are, and are used to having to do all the work in initiating sex, since they don't see themselves as being attractive. The thought of being sexually desired is a new thing to a lot of us. Desires for control, both seeking it and relinquishing it, are perfectly natural, and probably a lot more common than people are willing to admit.

[Leavesbound]

I love when a girl is dominant in the bedroom. She knows what she wants and isn't afraid to issue commands. I'm particularly fond of when a woman presents a body part and orders me to lick it. Outside of the bedroom I prefer we be equal though if she is better at something than I might simply defer to her on that or other things she's better at.

[Hawner]

Girl, that is as natural as it can get. There are "delicate princesses" and "tough Amazons", just as there are "soft poets" and "fearless warriors". You just have to find the one compatible for you.
So, don't worry, I personally find your personality very attractive. 😉

[slatyb]

It's all good, and yes, there are guys who like to be submissive. There are a lot more submissive guys than dominant women. That doesn't mean their fantasies are your fantasies.

[Kaneki05]

Of course and i am one of those men. Sadly sub men are rare and dom women are rare.

[Finchie40]

Yes, but it depends on how dominate she is , if she is overly dominant then it’s a turn off , switch roles usually works best

[Dargil]

Far more often bad.

[DJB72]

Yep. Definitely

[exitseven]

Some do I suppose. I don't think I do.

[Ripper_E]

Yes, I can be submissive. I have a dominant personality, but I can be submissive for a woman if that's what she enjoys. It's really hot anyway.
Women being dominant is normal. Not sure how common it is, but it is normal. You are not the only one.

[Phoenix98]

Meh.

[Browneye57]

Couples generally trade off being dominate sexually.
You have a LOT of mumbo-jumbo going on there. Too many excuses, way over analyzing.

[Massageman]

The wisest woman will learn when he DOES want to hand you the controls, and when HE wants to keep the lead for a bit. I don't mind it a bit. I have the rope all cut in nice, manageable hunks.

[Gray-Wisp]

As long as the male is (or at least capable should something arise) fulfilling the man's duties and the female is (or at least capable should something arise) fulfilling the woman's duties then there isn't anything wrong with that as long as they don't do anything to destabilize society or take away from the other's relationship purposes.

[Iron_Man]

No I can never allow myself to be the bitch of the family to be controlled by the woman and to be dominated sexually that will never happen to me ever

[NorthwestRider]

Bring submissive is fun hehe

[AmeerX]

Actually, most guys in marriages are submissive. They surely bring money but that is it. They don't do anything but be wife's slave. Very common and not degrading in my culture.

[Baylist1000]

I don't know about others, but if it comes to me then yes, I fine with it.

[Jamie05rhs]

I don't see anything wrong with what you described.

But how would you feel if he did the same to you? Would you dislike it?

[JackofSpades]

I haven't had sex yet. But I enjoy fantasizing about both.

I'd like to find a woman that will experiment and play around with either one.

[Infla772]

It's definitely hot !!

[kellytheman]

I actually love being the submissive one in bed. I just like the feeling her overpowering me and taking what she wants and do anything to me to get it. I also like when she has that dominate demeanor and vulnerability that makes it hot also. It is completely normal for a woman to be dominant at times. I have noticed as women get older they like to be the dominant one. I wish more women I met where like you.