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  • Some might, yes. It depends on how much experience they have. Anyone who has been in more than two relationships, knows that sex doesn't = love. But people who are in love can have sex.

    Inexperienced guys and gals, though, might get overwhelmed by hormones and emotions after sex. They may fall into deep infatuation and mistake it for love.

    Infatuation is the greatest feeling in the world. It's the feeling that people associate with love. It's called "puppy love" or "teen love" when young people are involved.

    Kids have been immersed in romance all their lives. There are cartoons and animated Disney romances. Music is full of teen romance. Kids have entertainer heartthrobs. They fantasized for years about romantic love and having someone of their very own. When puberty strikes, they also think about sex.

    But teens don't have much life knowledge or experience. They imagine that everything they experience is the first time anyone experienced it. They are blazing new trails. Everything is new and exciting. And at puberty, they see sex as the last step to adulthood. Some who are very naive might hear the orchestra swelling in the background and think "I've finally found my Disney 'happily after' ending" after having sex.

    The thing to be aware of is, the human brain doesn't fully develop until around age 25. The prefrontal cortex is not yet fully developed. That's the part of the brain that helps you to inhibit impulses and to plan and organize your behavior to reach a goal. In other words, the brain isn't yet developed enough to understand what true love is. And neither sex nor infatuation are love. But they're glorious.

    So it wouldn't be surprising if some teens associated sex with love.

Most Helpful Guy

  • Sort of. I know that is not much of an answer, but it gets complicated.

    When I was in high school I was dating a gal I really liked. Things got hot from time to time and I definitely felt something for her. Yet, when we finally had sex - I was 16 - and I lost my virginity to her, things went into overdrive, so to speak.

    After we had sex for the first time I was sure of three things. 1) I was a MAN!!! 2) I was totally in love with my girlfriend. 3) She was the girl I was going to marry and make babies with and have a house in the suburbs and live happily ever after!!

    Some of that was just teenaged male hormones. Yet there was a part that was real. I cared about her and wanted to hold her and be with her. Even when it hit us both - since it was unprotected sex - "Hey! What if I got her pregnant?" it was less scary than I would have expected. Truly I cared about her and I was sure, even if she was pregnant that I would be with her and our baby and I would love them and take care of them. (It was a false alarm, by the way. She was not pregnant.)

    The bottom line is that it gets blurry. Yes, the sex was part sheer lust on my part. I was a teenaged boy after all. Yet at the same time I knew when we were having sex I realized that I loved her and I needed her and our sex was about those feelings and they brought them out to me.

    We actually continued to date through my sophomore year, her freshman year, in college. However, we went to different schools and time and distance gradually weakened the relationship. Still, it was real and the sex was not just about my animal needs but an expression of my feelings. So in that sense, I guess I did associate sex with love.

Most Helpful Girls

  • I've seen some adults that can't separate the two. They can't fathom that sometimes sex just feels amazing. Not always for making babies, not always for bonding with a significant other, just sometimes it feels great.

  • I think the opposite it true, they just like the sex and are not interested in the love part as much as earlier generations.

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  • Some do, but most don't, and many of those that do are naïve about it.

    For most men, sex and love are two different things, and while we certainly want sex when we're with someone we love, we ALSO want sex when we are single, even if we don't love the girl we're having sex with. We don't need to be in love to want sex or to enjoy sex.

    If a man loves you, he'll be more interested in your RELATIONSHIP than he is in just getting you into bed. This doesn't mean he'll have NO interest in sex, but more of his time will be focused on your relationship. If he just wants sex, he'll spend most of his time trying to get you into the bedroom.

  • It depends on their upbringing. I didn't know what sex was until I was 17, but I was also raised in a religious family, and sheltered, as well as missed the day in school they talked about sex ed, so make of that what you will.

    For most guys, many of them get exposure to porn at a young age, but many grow out of it, and become balanced individuals. Others become porn obsessed, some in-between.

    It depends on the guy himself, and his habits currently in the present moment. Generally speaking, the good guys are the ones with parents who kept them away from the porn, and disciplined them towards understanding how to treat women well. As for seeing sex apart from love, I figured it out on my own, as opposed to my parents, whom mostly refrained from talking about it, other than to avoid it, and focus on what's important.

  • For most guys did you because when growing up all they have is their parents for role models and guys don't like to be loved when they're kids they don't really understand that so we are not taught how to love somebody so when we get older the only thing we know because we never seen it is when you're in the bedroom for me I moved out when I was 16 and it was a eye opener the very first day because I had so much to learn I didn't know anything about love I didn't know anything about anything really so I had to learn it all on my own and even though I know how to love now but I Associated love with having sex to show her how much I love her to be gentle to be kind just the way I touched it was to show her that I love her so I think many boys go through this and they were in the same boat that I was in but hopefully they are aware of it like I was and to learn and keep learning would love is and how powerful it really is

  • No, I think teens associate love with sex. But I don't think they associate sex with love if that makes sense.

  • Most teens do

  • Yeah some do but a lot just want sex

  • I do not think they are capable of feeling love.

  • at that age it's more lust which is physical/sexual attraction over love which is a mental/emotional attraction.

  • Most people in general do, casual sex is actually quite rare.

  • Nope.

  • More than likely no.

  • Some do.

  • I didn't when I was in my teens.

  • No they think only sex and not love

  • Yes most of them

  • yes and no... Some do but for those who don't, most just want the sex and that is it. No relationship.

  • probably not, older adults have a hard timing knowing what love is

  • Lol of course not

  • Typically yes, you want to have sex with a girl you're in love with or have a connection with

  • Teen boys do not want “love”... they want pussy.

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