Do you agree, the question "is my penis size big enough, is a flawed question?

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I see this question a lot on here. Yes I understand men have questions and some of you worry that you are not big enough.

But I just think it's a flawed question to ask, and here's why.
1. Men seem to forget their genitals are not the only one that comes in different sizes. Women are the same. We have larger vaginas, and smaller ones and avg size ones.
Not every woman wants big.
Not every woman hates small.

And yes most women will prefer avg penis.
Why because we are all built differently.
I have a friend who once told me she is so tight that it hurts (when wet) to put her finger inside. So obviously she will prefer a tiny penis to small sized penis.
Stop grouping us into one mind, one vagina and one preference.

2nd reason it is flawed a lot of men who think, or actually do have a small penis go it's small why try.

I'm sorry but that is a get out of trying victim card.

No matter your size, if you don't attempt to 1 up your stroke game, and take the time to learn what your partner wants, you ain't pleasing your partner.(same goes for us women) stop pretending size alone determines
if you can please a woman, and realize skill is like 80% of pleasuring your partner, and size is like 20% important.

3rd and most importantly sex is like 5% of a relationship. I would rather have a good man with a tiny penis who loves and respects me, than a guy who is boring, but he got this big ass dick. Be a good man.

4th a lot of guys really only look at it as i don't like being smaller than other men, but if you really are concerned about our pleasure you would realize too big is far worst than too small. Too small, you can change your technique, penis sleeves and foreplay can help you finish us.
If ya too damn big what can we do? Not like we can shave the sides down, or chop a couple inches off of it. There's no magic penis shrinking cream we can rub on it. Ya too big, ya too big.

So stop asking if ya big enough and ask what can I do to please you with what I got.

MCheetah · Accepted Answer

No. I disagree with almost everything you've said here.
And not to be rude, but I'd bet money I've had sex with more women than you have.

Point 1. MOST women's vaginas are six inches deep. Yes, some could be as narrow as four and some SSBBW women who weight 400+ pounds could be as much as eight. But like, 80% of women's vaginas (if I had to estimate/guess) are six inches deep.

Point 1.5: It's been scientifically proven again and again and again and AGAIN that most women want a penis size that is at least seven inches long and six inches in circumference. Anything over 8.5 apparently hurts women because it "hurts the cervix" and anything under seven is not at all pleasurable for women (which is why 90% of women fake their orgasms and cannot climax through penetration).

Point 2. Mine's is only 6.5" so it falls into this category here. I've been noped out of bed twice for being too small, before we even began. I've been told by just about every woman I've been with that I'm too small and they pretty much all said they wanted seven inches (with some of them even pointing it out on the measuring tape I had, just to be sure). I HAVE tried to please women before. I've been complimented on my love making skills.

However, none of that was through penetration. They didn't say it, but I can tell they did NOT like the penetration. I know how to do other things though, like oral (which is what they liked the most, even though I personally hate giving oral) and I know how to massage women and I, most of all, know how to communicate with them, as I've never gone into sex blind and just "winged it." I actually DO try to please my partners. But NONE OF THEM have ever liked the penetration.

I know damn well my size is too lacking for them to be into it. I'm too damn small. And that's fine. I hate being short in height far, far more than having an inadequate penis size women don't like, anyway. I don't like being too small either, but I'm not with enough women for it to be THAT big a deal, for me. Women reject me on a lot more things than not being properly equipped to please them in bed.

So I've accepted my penis size is not big enough for any women out there who were to sleep with me. Fair enough. Guess I have to rely more on (sigh)... Oral.

I'd say sex (with the goal of pleasing women) is more like 60% skill, 40% size. If your junk is too small, no skill in the world can make up for it. It'd be like being a 4'10" man trying to get into the NBA. Possible, but highly unlikely.

Point 3. "Sex is like 5% of a relationship." To YOU! Sex is minimal TO YOU. You sound like a decent women, but women want more than that. Granted, It's not MUCH higher to other women, more like 15% of value.

But here's the thing: Women don't care if you're good at sex or not, as much as they care if you have the potential to be. Women want perfection, basically. A guy can be a good man and have a small penis, or be short, or be chubby, and a woman will look at him like he's deformed and disgusting. But if a guy has a decent sized penis, like 7", or is tall (over six feet), or in great shape, she will value him more, regardless of his personality.

In other words, women are shallow. And many men are shallow, too. So a compassionate guy with a small penis is a bigger dealbreaker than a guy with a big penis who's bad in bed. Women will always treat the "more gifted" man as a fixer-upper, than the guy who can't ever be "fixed." THAT is female mentality for you!

Point 4. " ... too big is far worse than too small."

First time I EVER heard a woman say this! If a guy is five inches, compared to a guy who is eight inches, I've only ever seen the girl choose the eight-inch guy... Like 100% of the time. You are the first one ever, besides maybe my ex fianceé, to claim you'd rather take a tiny guy who can't get the job done, over a guy you just have to do doggie style and reverse cowgirl with, instead of missionary. I WISH more women would take a guy with a tiny dick!

razelove · Accepted Answer

The premise is flawed. What you're packing in your trousers is irrelevant to finding and getting with women, but can absolutely affect keeping them. Whether you have a python or a mealworm, you need to be able to communicate and convince who you're going to get with that it's a good idea. If you're repeating a pattern of them leaving because of your dick though, that can be quite discouraging.

If you're too big, you'll be taken as a novelty, she might tell her friends, they might want to ride, but few if any of them will be interested in a relationship. I'd imagine with guys who are small it's about the same, only when telling the friends they're facing a greater barrier breaking into that circle rather than a lowered one.

I do agree with you on one important point though, a lot of women are insecure about their labia and vagina. Regardless, women do break up with men for having a dick they feel is too small, and they'll also break up with a guy who they feel is too big.

https://journals.plos.org/plosone/article?id=10.1371/journal.pone.0133079#:~:text=Women%20preferred%20a%20penis%20of,%2F12.2%20cm)%20sexual%20partners.

I just wish they had a larger sample size for that study to produce a bell curve and be statistically significant. Also in different regions/countries to see if there are any significant differences. There are so so many studies on "how big are men's dick, what is the average?" but so few on what it is that women actually go for. That's a mismatch.

LexiLuv91 · Accepted Answer

You can find flaws in every question. But this one is definitely over used by far. If you want to worry about size, go for it. But worry about it as an individual and stop making it a public or group issue.
When it comes down to it, "does size matter" is a very individual and very varied opinion as it's a criteria type of question. Ask the individual you are seeking to date.. Not a group with different opinions. That's like asking "do you want pepperoni on a pizza" in a group. The answers will be varied. The only factual bit to it, is it shallow or wrong for some to prefer big ones? NO. Is it weird for some to prefer small ones? NO. Is this question extremely used up and make some women want to snatch up all the big and small d*cks of the world and throw them in a river? YES.

mandyfire98 · Accepted Answer

I think deep down men don't even want a woman's opinion on it even if they ask for it. This goes beyond just penis size. What they are really asking is am I good enough period. Do I measure up at all. The whole penis size thing isn't even a huge concern for women, it's only men who care. So do they really want to know what we thing about it or do they secretly want other men to judge them or praise them for it. How many times have we answered this question and it never matters it keeps getting asked. Maybe it's because it's not really women they want approval from.

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

Love it, great question.

I've often joked about two things in regards to this, first is... when it comes to the toilet seat, should it be the mans job to put it down when down or the woman's job to lift it up when done? There isn't a right or wrong, its whatever you agree on or if you don't care.

The concept is the same with size, is the man too small or the woman too large? it is silly to think it is one sided.

Reality is it doesn't matter, it is what works out and average is perfect, for me at least.

Even when I did hookup's, I didn't want to see it or care, it was never a deciding factor.

Emiliamazing · Answer

Fantastic points and I’m willing to bet a lot of other ladies agree! This is really well thought out. I’m hoping that all the guys out there, and women too, take these valid points into account.

Bambalicious · Answer

Some men feel insecure and want to make sure they please their partner. My husband was like this. I kept reassuring him but he was on the smaller/thinner side so he felt insecure. He bought this water pump suction thing at an adult store. Over time it adds length and girth. He’s now (after almost 2 years) 2 inches longer and 1 1/2 inches thicker. I highly recommend it.

Daniela1982 · Answer

I don't know if it's flawed or not, but there sure are a lot of guys who like talking about their dicks here.  What guys think they have What they really have

DataOrganizer27 · Answer

Yes!!! Too many guys worried about the size of the boat that they aren't perfecting the motion of the ocean!

ohshee · Answer

Yeah first of all I would never even ask that question I would even think about that question I will do everything within 10 to 15 minutes and when we start making out I will know just by the way I put it in if everything's going to be okay or if I'm going to have to go slower no I won't ever ask that question I'll wait until the end results that will tell me everything and by the way I can't believe it finally I forget what you said is very end but I've been waiting for a girl to say that for so long any question or any answer that's what I keep trying to tell guys to do your homework learn how to use it learn about the girl if you can use very tip of her finger to get herself off and you should be able to do something with whatever you have quit thinking about yourself and make it about her and you will be fine

Billlewis · Answer

I think that the entire sexual experience is based on several things -- a sufficiently impressive penis, big, swollen balls, and the classic alpha male personality.

However, I'm firmly convinced that the perfect penis does exist:)

Smashingdoozy · Answer

Nothing but facts

Snsl153 · Answer

Yes, no more penis questions! If someone is worried about their dick, they should see their doctor about it.

NathanDavis · Answer

yeah, it is unfortunate... but that's how the saying goes “you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink”

I think that, whoever people are asking these questions, is not about their dicks but something in their minds... something is just twisted up there

DonkeyDan · Answer

Brilliant and definitely all true. Personally I think there should be a blanket ban on those questions on this site.

20yearsolder · Answer

I want 100% agree, it's a flawed question

LiamSawyer · Answer

Very well said!

Bricealan · Answer

Good show, Msputiton!!!

Th3ft · Answer

Lol! Oh gosh the timing of this! Haha! Well said though! And thank you for reminding me of what is important! Like you said sex is only 5% and if you can't enjoy each other and communicate with one another then you don’t have a relationship.

bakajana · Answer

It's getting kinda annoying after hearing that so many times

UniquelyBasic · Answer

Its about finding the right fit. Even if someone is smaller or bigger than avg their is a perfect fit for you.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

Don't mind me, but I'm saving this question to link on the next penis size question I see.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Guys always worry about their penis size and the size of the penis all got to do with the blood flow to the penis, lack of blood flow can cause a guy's penis to appear smaller

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Yes, the only person it matters to is the woman (or guy) that he's fucking.

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