Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health Do you believe it’s ok to have a sexual partner outside a marriage if your sexual needs can’t be met with your spouse?
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In this situation, there are massive combined interests including children. Divorce over 1 aspect would be ridiculously irresponsible and harmful. The relationship is healthy and stable in other aspects. Yet a persons sexual needs are a huge aspect of mental, physical, and emotional well being, causing a painful distress in the affected partner that cannot be repressed. The sexual dysfunction did not occur in the beginning of the relationship but is a concrete aspect now. What are your thoughts and opinions? There has to be some room for personal fulfilment in a lifetime committed relationship right?
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What Girls & Guys Said
7 30it's a discussion to have with your spouse
If it's an open marriage, why not?
No, extra marital sex is wrong
Yes of course
you only get one life dude and your pecker stops working even before you die. Do what you gotta do!
Nah im out if it gets like that
Interesting question.
At one stage, my long-term-relationship partner/wife told me: "Find someone else to have sex with..."
Then she added riders: don't get STDs and don't make her pregnant.
When I spoke to her and asked her what she had said much later, she sought to deny or play down that she had ever said that. Or tried to make it seem that I had "misunderstood".
The other issue is that we know sex makes a couple feel close. What if I start liking the woman I'm having sex with as a "fill-in"?
Too complicated.
Better if spouses recognised their "duty" to each other, and just gave their partners the sex they needed. I know most modern day women dont see things this way.
In my opinion no. I have sexual issues and my wife isn't going to leave me because of lack of sex. There are other things we do to keep the relationship healthy. Ironically people can be married, have a good sex life and be still miserable.
No , absolutely no
mutually agree on an open marriage or divorce her.
Yeah as long as you're open and honest about it
I don't really believe in that, getting separated is fine.
Sometimes when a woman shows zero interest in sex it's because she's already cheating though.
Sometimes. After talking to him, I’m confident that is NOT the case. I was uninterested in sex for a few years and I was not cheating.
Okay or not, I'm looking for a lover. I'm in a sexless marriage and I need to have sex.
Pm me if you want help sorting through this. I’ve been in a sexless marriage too, I was utterly uninterested for a few years, we turned it around. Sex most days now.
@loves2learn I've followed you but you need to follow me for us to PM.
Hang on. I’ll find you.
@Anon - I sent you a message.