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Do you enjoy giving/receiving pain during sex?

I have come to consider as time passes that maybe I am just a masochist, I have a CNC kink.
(warning!! Graphic detail)
I fantasize often about painful sexual things being done to me and one thing that I fantasize about- is that person not only hurting me because I have this fantasy but because they actually enjoy causing me this pain. Like watching how I handle it. That means spanking me till I beg them to stop, pulling my hair to make me cry out in pain, pushing into me and holding me as a struggle. (sorry this is so graphic)
I get really embarrassed to say this to anyone, even my boyfriend in real life. I also don’t want to ask for this from anyone and I feel that if they actually had the urge they would just do it. I shouldn’t need to express to the right person.
just trying to figure out how rare it is to find someone who wants to give me pain like this? Do you genuinely enjoy giving someone sexual pain like this? Do other people feel this way? Lmk.
I often enjoy inflicting pain during sex
Vote A
I sometimes enjoy inflecting pain during sex
Vote B
I never enjoy giving/receiving pain during sex
Vote C
I sometimes enjoy receiving pain during sex
Vote D
I often enjoy receiving pain during sex
Vote E
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  • I'm going to give you some thoughts based on my experiences - hopefully they'll be useful to you.

    What you are talking about falls under the category of BDSM - which is a triple abbreviation, that stands for Bondage & Discipline, Dominance & Submission, Sadism & Machoism. What you're going to find is that people who enjoy BDSM know it, and tend to be actively involved in it, even if only on their own. And people who don't enjoy this kind of thing generally can't be made to enjoy it.

    In the BDSM community, the shorthand that is used is that you are either "Kinky" (interested in BDSM) or "Vanilla" or "Normal/Mainstream." You clearly have some kinky desires - nothing wrong with that, and you've got lots of company. But, it seems obvious that your boyfriend does not. That's unfortunate for you, but I'm sure you didn't check for that when you got together. If this relationship doesn't work out, that's something you need to add to your list of characteristics to look for in a guy, because if you want that, you need to find someone who is already that way - you can't change other people.

    Also, I will mention that the things you are desiring are VERY common in the BDSM world, and part of the reason they are so common is because they are all, in relative terms, pretty tame as BDSM goes. I don't mean that in a bad way, I just mean that you aren't going to shock anyone in the BDSM community by wanting those things - most women in the community do too. The ladies in the community will totally understand these desires, because most will share them, and even if they don't, they are friends with other girls who do. I also don't want to imply that there's any pressure to go farther or more extreme. You could if you wanted to, but many people are comfortable with just the basics, and never feel any need to take it further, and most people in the community are just fine with that. Discussions of desires and consent are normal and common, and boundaries are largely accepted and followed - and the exceptions are often expelled by the community.

    New people to the community - female submissives especially - often feel like they're a kid in a candy store where everything is free, and many experience "sub frenzy", where they want to try everything at once, and push every boundary one after another, they rush in to do so - and being a new female, there are plenty of men who will welcome them... but not all of them can be trusted, and it's not a good idea to rush in, anymore than it would be to try to eat your way through a candy store. Take your time, find some local women in your area who can mentor you, and build trust with any partners before you jump in with both feet, and chances are you will have great experiences. But resist the urge to get into a frenzy, because then you won't be cautious enough and you could get hurt - in one form or another.

    I'm happy to answer questions here, or privately if you prefer (you can message me here).

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  • I'd like to add to a really good answer you have received from Mr Oracle.

    There is a a big community online that you can explore the BDSM world if that interests you, it's called FetLife, it's kinda like Facebook and it's free.
    I assume Mr Oracle is part of that community, based on his insightful answer.
    I do also have a profile there.

    Feel free to DM me here if you have any questions

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  • I must have missed this question first time around.

    I've been in to BDSM real life type for about 20 years.

    part of that has involved a lot of edge play, CNC etc.

    With Edge play and CNC it gets a bit hardcore at times, however this is very much down to the Sub, my ex was very much in to pain, bruising, etc.

    Some of our role plays were very rough and very much in the spirit of CNC.

    I can’t go in to too many details lol

    but yeah it’s common but not that common.

    happy to chat further.

  • I have never been much into causing pain. Light binding with like a silk scarf or non nerve crushing handcuffs and hair grasping whilst in doggy an occasional spank thats the extent of what I do.

  • Does that mean you're giving me a free pass to force myself on you if I ever see you in real life?

    • Not really, if I liked what u looked like could be fun to do in a more intimate setting as role play and with a safe word tho lol

  • A & E.

  • I like pain during sex

  • its like fucking rough and i love it a lot

  • C. Not my thing.

  • I am a masochist and enjoy painful sex

  • I voted C, no pain, giving or receiving.

  • Getting some pain isn't the worst but I don't think I could give

  • not really my thing. I follow this girl on twitter that likes being punched during sex and it freaks me out lol

  • I love pain to my penis. Its fun to administer pain to a girl who wants it too! 😏

  • I would spank you and I like taking cock like a woman does if that counts for anything :)

  • Never sex is pleasurable not painfull


  • never eiter way

  • I like that if it's too light and comes from love.

    Besides, I'm afraid to discuss my thoughts with anyone...
    I haven't discussed it with anyone at all, and I don't feel like anyone understands me.

    Can we discuss the details on telegram
    @alqudah1997

    Please make my dream come true. 😂😂😂

  • Yes as a guy with a small cock thats all i can expect. chastity or femdom or humiliation sometimes electric shock to my dick

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