Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health Do you think lying to someone you're seeing and telling them you love them to get them to do something sexual is a form of rape?
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I'm not talking about whether you could prove it in a court of law (it would probably be very difficult to prove). I mean strictly from a moral viewpoint.
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26 93If a woman can’t accept male human nature to say things under hormonal-sexual-instinctive-horny duress, rather than hating on them, women that think that way should just avoid them. Why broadcast all the rape-culture hate when women can just go their own way? I say no, for the intelligent woman that understands the man.
If someone is taking advantage of a situation then it becomes complex.
There are definitely cases where someone takes advantage of the fact that someone else is crushing on them.
Before sexual liberation, women were taught, warned by their parents to be aware of their instincts and the predicaments that could cause them. Today, all of that is removed and women can roam and have sex with anyone they choose without social retribution of any kind. The responsibility has been completely shifted from the woman to the man because there are no more “checks and balances” in the female decision tree for whom they will sleep with. They are now wide open without any training or responsibility. The predatory rape claims, even morally has put the entire onus on the male. It is not a good situation for the innocent female or male. Agree with you...
No. They are still choosing to have sex. Can't claim rape just because you're gullible.
More than just gullible...
Maybe, but it's still not rape and should not be seen as anything like it.
I truly believe in informed consent. If someone must lie to have sex yes it's a type of rape. On the other hand if it was going to happen anyway and the sex wasn't conditional then no it was a lie.
That's totally fair
It's scummy and manipulative, but it's not rape.
Interesting question... guess you could argue it's mental rape in the sense the lies got them to willingly have sex with the liar - so I see that moral view - wonder if there is a better word than rape as that is the physical act and crime involving an unwilling party. That said... I can't think of another word at the moment...
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Yes it is rape. 😶
Not in literal sense tho.
No , that diminishes what rape actually is in reality.
Nope. If you're an adult and you've given your consent for sex then it's not a rape.
I wouldn't necessarily say rape, more of a form of sexual harassment i guess because even tho it was a lie it was still consensual. Its a really shitty situation to be in but I wouldn't call it rape
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It's deceit not rape... not illegal but probably would share similar emotions for the victim to rape
An obvious difference is a victim killing their rapist is viewed a good thing by general society but killing a deceptive snake would be viewed as too far
No. That's manipulation. Anyone who disagrees is ridiculous.
In a way, it sort of is, yet they are complicit in the crime too because they are doing the humpty hump promiscuously outside of marriage and so are not treating the whole thing as sacredly as they should be.
Not like that
No more than a girlfriend/boyfriend using love as a tool for financial gain does it make them a prostitute. Do I agree with either? No. Do I consider a man or a woman a prostitute or rapist in either example of achieving an end result? No. Just a user of low character.
Interesting. I'll have to think about that one. I was very romantic when I was a teen and in my early twenties. Saw things through rose colored glasses.
A large number of teens and twenty-somethings tend to romantic (in their own way of course) and see things through rose colored glasses. Definitely think on that. I mean, if love can be use as a tool (a means) to just justify an end - sex, then sex being the means to justify an end - financial gain, could equally be argued as, “rape” ‘and’ further as prostitution. The question is less a moral question a more an ethical question of character/behavior and whether this activity or “ coercion” should be classified/labelled as something which carries with it criminal penalties. Which then the act of coercion itself must come into question which would have very broad reaching ramifications. Everything from a parent using coercion to effect a certain behavior from their child to law enforcement using coercion to effect an arrest... and definitely politicians using their silver tongues to get themselves elected or continuously re-elected... and those are just the more visible examples. One can really run down the rabbit hole with this, which is part of that broad reach.
Good question. I've never thought about it like that. Seems too much for lying. I'd just be straight forward
I don't. You still got consent. How you achieved it doesn't matter.
Nope
Wait no not sexual sorry
Yes, lying to someone to get them to do sexual things with you that they would not otherwise do is manipulative and a form of rape
I agree
no it's lying not rape, as you just litterally said xD rape is if you "forcefully have sex with someone"... why is this word so hard to people. not everything is violence. not everthing is rape. words exist for a reason. and the reason is to distinquish things and to structure the world.
No. No, I don't. That's pretty messed up to even think about equating the two.
Not messed up
Pretty messed up
Fraud yes, rape no ( if the other person believes the lies and agrees to sex ).
Which is still not what people should do.