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Sexual Health I do, but I’m biased because being on the pill did nothing but lower my libido, make me depressed/angry all of the time, and weight gain. My body just doesn’t respond well to artificial hormones, so I clearly wasn’t one of those women who boast about how they experienced nothing but benefits from hormonal contraceptives. Haha.
If a man could take the pills instead of expecting me to, that’d be awesome for me. What I don’t understand, is women who claim that we “can’t trust” men to take the pill everyday. Doesn’t that depend on the individual’s sense of responsibility? Not to mention that there are some women who lie about being on the pill, in order to manipulate a guy into fucking them raw and conceiving a baby.
Do you think men should take birth control pills?
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47 122They absolutely should, birth control should always be a shared responsibility. Lastly, using two highly effective contraceptives is better than relying only on one.
Exactly! What’s with some people insisting that the responsibility of birth control should only fall on one person? So then if it fails, it would be 100% that person’s fault?
Personally I'm a fan of the doubling down concept. Guy wears condom girl on birth control. If the girl can't for some reason they can try switching. I don't see why one sex should be responsible for birth control.
One shouldn’t hold the sole responsibility for birth control. Some people are just chauvinistic idiots. Lol.
No. The chemistry would suppress libido and performance.
Not necessarily.
@MlleCake. How so?
Wouldn’t that vary among men? The pill suppressed my libido, but not other women’s.
I'm back with Not necessarily. Describe how a male pill would work.
That would make a lot of sense to me
If there was a male birth control pill that worked and didn't destroy the guy's health with side effects, most guys would be taking it.
Look at how many random guys decide to go get a vasectomy.
Not really but the man you have sex with should care enough to take caution in preventing pregnancies. In my opinion that guys who don't care aren't worth the risk.
That’s true.
They should, there's men who refuse to use condom in this situation they should use birth control pills.
Yep. Either use a birth control, or no ravishing.
And women?
@Jeddah Women use one too, but it doesn’t HAVE to be the pill if her body doesn’t react well to the hormones.
@Jeddah They aren't the one refusing to put condom on...
Easy walk away
@Jeddah What if the man refusing to wear a condom is your husband?
Sue him in court
Alice, don't talk about s**t you don't understand. Male contraceptives are essentially chemical neutering.
@Benedek38 Of course go around saying I'm stupid. This is so nice... Female contraception is all about chemical and are very unhealthy too.
"Of course go around saying I'm stupid." Never said you are. Being possibly misinformed isn't the same as being stupid. I don't think you are stupid. "Female contraception is all about chemical and are very unhealthy too." Absolutely. That1s why I advise women against it. And that should be a point of reference for you when I say this: male contraceptives are MANY TIMES more dangerous and destructive than female contraceptives. So much so that male contraceptives can't be taken orally, lest it destroy the kidneys, because it has so high concentration. Think about that. Also think about this - only 75% of the test group was satisfied to some extent with the contraceptives they tried. 25% registered severe, often long term side effects, and some of the members of the test group became impotent for several months. One guy became permanently impotent. Another guy killed himself. Is that the kind of chemical you want your current/future boyfriend/husband to take?
@Benedek38 I wouldn't want my future boyfriend/husband to take to take any of those chemical stuff, I don't take it either but I think it can be a good alternative for those guys that refuse to use condom. They're the one refusing to take it so why should the girl be forced to use birth control? In this case it make more sense for the guy to take it since he refused to use a condom. I was just saying it's good in that ways after all chemical pills, etc... are unhealthy and better avoided.
"They're the one refusing to take it so why should the girl be forced to use birth control?" Nobody said girls are forced to do it. There is no rule that dictates girls have to take contraceptive pills. "In this case it make more sense for the guy to take it since he refused to use a condom." No, in this case, the guy would be insane to use it, knowing its catastrophic effects. Not having sex is also an alternative to condoms by the way. "I was just saying it's good in that ways after all chemical pills, etc... are unhealthy and better avoided." Ok, let me put it this way. There is a contraceptive option for you. Say, a pill. There is a 1% chance of you becoming permanently infertile every time you use it and have sex afterwards. That means after taking said pill only 50 times, your chances of becoming infertile are 40%. It would take roughly 400 uses for you to completely destroy any chance of you ever having a child again. Not to mention it would destroy your body. Would you take it?
@Benedek38 It really show you aren't a girl especially in my country. Guys are very bratty here and would use emotional blackmail to the girl until she take the pill for him because if she doesn't take it he would leave her for another girl willing to take it. So yes she's forced to take, girl who are in love especially if young would feel forced to take it just to keep their man. Then he's a complete assholes. He refuse to take the condom then he the pills. If the guy want to have sex with his girlfriend he would pressure her into it until she say yes. I don't understand, I already told you pills were shitty and I wouldn't use it so... ?
"would use emotional blackmail to the girl until she take the pill for him..." etc I'd make the case that you dodge a bullet by letting such a guy go - do you REALLY want a manipulator in your life?
@Benedek38 Personally a guy like that I would just dump him but majority of girl in my country would just do what the guy said.
Then maybe French girls have to be more responsible for their life choices.
@Benedek38 Most of those girls are very young under 25 so it's normal, everybody need time. It's the guys who really are the problem, they got no respect for anyone and like to use the most "weak" / insecure girls.
I am. not condoning the actions of those guys, but saying they are the problem is wrong. They are PART of the problem. I tell you to jump in a bottonless, dark pit. You do, and you break your limbs. Am I the one at fault? Or were you also to some degree responsible for doing somethibg totally stupid? If you can't tell whether a guy wants to use you or not as a 20-25 years old, you have issues to work on.
@Benedek38 I guess most girls in my country have issue then.
It's the woman that would get pregnant if the man forgot to take the pill. Since pregnancy is a major undertaking for a woman, it's very understandable that many women want to keep the responsibility 'in house'. It's not anti male, just common sense.
However, within a stable long term relationship, she might well want to pass responsibility to the man.
No no, I understand that it would be common sense regarding casual relationship. However, like you said, I’d trust my own husband to take his pills. Why marry someone that you don’t trust?
Perhaps because even within a trust relationship, different ambitions sometimes exist. There are times when he may want a family, she doesn't. How many times do you hear it just happened, perhaps I just sub consciously forgot.
Well, there are many methods of contraception for women... not just the pill... talk to your doctor. There's a think they can put inside that will prevent fertilization
You mean the ring, patch, IUD, or implant? I guess, but synthetic hormones don’t mesh well with my body period. Although, I guess the Paragard is an option.
I'd love it. No more trap women. Right now the only way you can do it is by surgically installing valves in your nut sack.
It would be nice to have a reversible method for men that does not impact his ability to reproduce in the future.
I'd love it. My partner and I have talked a lot about her getting off the pill because of how it's affected her hormones long term, if I could take a pill instead that'd be ideal.
Yeah but let’s hope the male birth control pill doesn’t have the same flaws that female oral contraceptives do.
Yeah but she's been on the pill for like 8 years, it's only right that I tag in if something comparable becomes available.
If it doesn't have any side effects that are or dangerous, sure. It will give us more control over our representative behavior. She can't a kid til both us and her agree to get off birth control.
That’s true.
This is what god made condoms for.
Yes, but I was referring to if the guys don’t like condoms.
If they don't like condoms, don't fuck them. Simple.
God didn't make condoms. People that wanted to have sex and avoid babies made condoms.
God says your not supposed to waste your seed.. That means no sex unless a kid is trying to be made, no prostitutes, no masturbating 😂 yet I'm sure you and everyone else that references God does all or one of those
@heyyyyy69 Maybe *yours god didn't make condoms, but his Noodley Goodness did.
All hail the Flying Spaghetti Monster!
Yes, and no. I think everyone who hasn't the sense and willpower to keep it in their pants should take responsibility for preventing unwanted pregnancy and the transmission of disease and infection. In reality, the only way to all but guarantee perfect results is through abstinence. It seems too few people are adult enough to practice abstinence. Ironic that the only people mature and responsible enough to have kids are also the only ones mature and responsible enough to abstain from sex.
A wise man
Abstinence until marriage, or abstinence until a relationship? Because I’ll do the latter. The former? Eh...
Abstinence until you're prepared to accept all the possible consequences of sex. Relationships and marriage are completely beside the point where birth control and prophylaxis are concerned.
So, no sex until you are financially stable and move out of your parents’ house.
Willing to have babies, miscarriages and/or abortions, okay with the risks of STDs & STIs, willing to accept responsibility for all of the above. Financial stability also has nothing to do with it. Lots of poor people raise happy, healthy, well-adjusted kids. And if you look at the child rearing stats, multi-generational and extended family homes actually tend to produce better results than single parent homes by far, and in some ways exceed two-parent families. So, leaving your parents' home is only a factor if you're not close to your parents or they're otherwise unable or unwilling to help.
Actually, a good friend of mine is having an on-going conflict with her mother because she decided to have a baby before finishing college, moving out, or even having a job. So, you need more than just an extended family. Also, financial stability is pretty relevant since babies eat A LOT, in addition to the fact that they grow out of their clothes pretty quickly. You need money to finance these things.
Not as much as you think. I know exactly what it takes to raise a child. Again, many poor families still manage to raise happy, healthy and well-adjusted kids. You're trapped in a capitalist mindset. Break free. Our species boomed for eons before capitalism and industrialization. What they want and what we need aren't even related issues.
Why shouldn't both take responsibility? Given that it's not 100% anyway, everyone should take personal responsibility.
Both take responsibility. If the man uses the pill, the woman should use her own birth control. In my case, I’d use the Sponge.
It's a discussion between two adults as to how safe they want to be. I found put the hard way that the pill isn't always effective. I always use condoms now. Will do until i believe i have the rifht relationship and the right time.
That’s true. Also yeah, women do put too much faith into birth control pills, even to the point where my former therapist tried to discourage me from getting off of the pill because “barriers aren’t as effective”. Okay, but why should I put synthetic hormones in my body if they’re preventing me from having sex in the first place by lowering my libido? Then again, I guess that’s why it’s “more effective”. Lol.
I'm not saying you need to (but then your question is expecting men to put chemicals in their bidy to suppress sperm production). You have a choice to insist you partner uses protection. I would think a condom and another barrier method you could use, sponge for example, would be very effective
I didn’t say that I expected them to use pills. Just that it would be nice if they could, because I don’t want to get back on them. Also yes, the barriers are very effective. They’re only trivialized by women who insist on pushing oral contraceptives solely because they didn’t get any side effects.
I''m afraid we will get another baby-boom rapidly.
Why is that?
I am sure they will forget frequently to take the pill.
What's wrong with condoms? I'm sorry, but I'm not going to lower my testosterone levels, as that would seriously mess with me.
Nothing. I’m referring to when guys don’t want to wear condoms.
If the person doesn't want to wear a condom, and you can't take the pills, don't have sex with him! Find someone else instead and move on! It's that simple.
This is just a hypothetical discussion, not something that’s atually going on. Lol. Calm down.
Sure! But there is no real problem here.
Yes they should have equal responsibility
Don’t agree
Yes... of course.
I wouldn’t trust my boyfriend to take them
Why not? Is he forgetful, or did he joke about wanting to make you his baby mama? I’ve heard of both before. lol.
Both.
I think he tried to set me up once
Omg. Yeah, I don’t blame you then.
I’d rather get an implant
I hope that works for you. I personally would not want any more synthetic hormones in my body.
I just got off birth control about 2 weeks ago.
How do you feel?
I feel less bloated and I’ve lost weight
Yeah, the implant might make those symptoms return.
I’m it sure. I’m considering getting the copper one
The copper IUD, you mean?
Yes the copper iud