Does confessing your kinks attract or scare away potential partners?

[purplepoppy]

We've all seen those guys on here who ask "mmm can I eat your bellybutton fluff?" Then the next day they're asking "why am I single?
But on the other hand, I've noticed people with extreme kinks seem to be very good at finding each other.

Guys complain they can't complete because they're not rich enough, tall enough, beardy enough etc but I reckon if they just came out with their kinks they'd vastly up their chances.

For example when you start a new job or are introduced to new people just come straight out with it "hi, I'm John I'm the one who likes spanking." People openly state their preferred sexual pronouns so why are you scared to state your kinks?

Sure, some people won't approve but those girls who share your kinks will instantly put you top of their list.

[DaveLondon]

To further support this point, you're only looking for 1. So getting 10 rejections from people you're not compatible with anyway is fine. But getting rejected by the 1 because your hedged your bets is not fine.

[Anonymous]

If those kinks are nasty then yes I guess.

[Anonymous]

It just puts things into perspective if he's your ideal partner. Which wouldn't make you feel ashamed of anything