Does having a child ruin your sex life?

[anon1903]

i think so

[Screenwriter]

Nah. Children aren't in the same developmental stage forever.
When they're babies, they are pain in your sex life. But babies have to be fed and changed on the regular and they rob you of sleep.
But by the time they're 1 or 2, they're sleeping through the night. STILL, children have a habit of interrupting you at the oddest times and hours and they drain your energy because they have ENDLESS energy.
Adults have to plan date nights where they hire someone to babysit, like a grandparent, that allow you to go out and be a couple together.
By the time they're in grammar school until they're teen-agers, kids start having their own lives and are less and less involved and interruptive of yours.
You'll turn around, and they'll be heading to college and finding their own people to repopulate the planet with. Childhood goes by like a flash!

[Lyndsielee666]

Meh. I waited almost a year after both kids to have sex because it hurt like a bitch. Didn’t ruin much though

[ChrisMaster69]

Nope.

you just have to be like sneaky teenagers again.

We still managed to go to parties, munches, and other stuff.

we did have the advantage of good babysitters and great friends.

being out of the country for about 6 months of the year, kills your sex life more than kids lol.

I think after having a baby, our sex became more mature and less reckless, for example sex in public is not really responsible attitude for a parent lol.

a lot of couple just lose the fun and the focus, you just have to think sneaky teen at her parents house.

try role playing and dressing up, then trying to explain why mummy is dressed as a princess, nurse, nun etc.

[ohshee]

So are you talking about the girl because it comes out of her vagina are you talking about overall man women having sex
Or are you talking about a single woman that has a baby
So if you're talking about a single woman having a baby and has the responsibility of taking care of her child I'm sure that it could maybe if you talkin about overall man or woman no I at least for me it didn't and I was taking care of of my kid because I would hear I said before she went but when they get older and wants to come in the room all the time yes that does kind because they just open the door walk in

[DizzyDesii]

Seeing that i created something so beautiful would make me wanna fck even more to make more beautiful babies lmao

[loves2learn]

Nope! It does not. We have 2 kids, you can always find a way.

[anon1903]

Mind giving others some tips on that, hon?

[loves2learn]

Sure! You always have to wait 6 weeks after birth, no way around that. But you can be intimate in other ways like showering together and oral sexy on him.

After that, just be creative. While baby is napping is a great time. When our babies were tiny they slept in a bassinet by the bed. They were tiny and also asleep so they didn’t know.

If you have a kid in your bed, sneak down to the guest room or shower (bring a baby monitor).

After the kids go to bed is an obvious time. Invest in one of these just in case a kid gets up, so they can’t walk in on you: https://imgur.com/a/YzS47bG

Turn on a movie or some video games downstairs for the kids, go upstairs, lock the door, I wear just a dress so if the kids happen to need something I can just stand up, help them and they won’t think anything of it.

I’m happy to answer any other questions. But we have sex every day.

[anon1903]

Helpful. Thanks!!

[Tstrbrainer]

But what happens when kids wake up during sleep and cry for their mother?

[loves2learn]

It happens sometimes. You get up, tend to your child and pick up where you left off after they are back to sleep. When my son was 4 he came running downstairs screaming from a nightmare, my husband intercepted him, comforted him and returned him to bed. He didn’t think it was at all strange that his dad was naked. 4 year olds walk around naked all the time. Young children are in innocent. Older children don’t require such immediate care.

[Tstrbrainer]

Oh. During childhood, people sneak from parents, and during adulthood, they sneak from children. 😅 Some children can be worse. They might demand the presence of their parents

[Tstrbrainer]

You are lucky if your children don't disturb you

[loves2learn]

Kids have to sleep sometimes. Even when we had a kid in our bed we were able to successfully sneak to another room while they were asleep and return when we were done undetected.

[Tstrbrainer]

Cool.

[Tstrbrainer]

Must take a lot of patience and effort, but still you guys manage

[loves2learn]

Got me there, @tstrbrainer I am a very patient and driven person. Lol Being a parent is indescribably amazing. But it doesn’t mean your sex is over. If you let it end your sex life you didn’t try hard enough.

[Tstrbrainer]

Yeah. It's wonderful as long as you are able to balance everything together as a family

[iseekpinetrees]

So far it happens less but it's still good. My vagina got less sensitive. So it's harder to feel his dick. That part is annoying.

[summiter]

I don't have kids yet. When I do I guess we will have to get a bit more creative on when to have sex.

[TheCunningLinguist]

If you are not organized and careful, yes.

[Elliegirl]

It’s changed it a little, but it’s far from ruined!

[Almost10inch4funlol]

No not for most or everyone would only have one kid 🤔🤷🏾‍♂️😂😂😂

[slatyb]

Not necessarily,. Infants do demand a lot of attention but they grow out of that phase pretty quickly. You can continue to enjoy an active sex life but you have to make it a priority.

[Agape93]

Probably

[0112358]

For some yes others no. In my marriage there was a gap in drive before kids but after kids things headed toward, and eventually became, sexless.

[0112358]

People are focused on logistics. Where there's a will there's a way. The question is whether there's. a will.

[MillenniumBill]

Once a couple has a child, they know the innocence is over. Subconsciously, responsibility really drains passion out of you like a vampire.

[anon1903]

My point exactly.

[exitseven]

It certainly changes it.

[chukio]

I believe it does since the child will not have a firm (dad) figure to ask for guidance or learn. But it does not ruin your sex life because there are others in the same boat as you.

[BobbyC65]

Not having a sex life can ruin your life two. When there are no kids involved or around.

[Nalix]

It certainly does make it more difficult.

[MysteriousDarkness]

Some people it does and for others it doesn't.

[oncpl]

I believe one should wait for at least 5/6 years so that both enjoy sex without child interference

[kellytheman]

Yeah I think so because you might not have the time to do it.

[anon1903]

Or the energy ftr

[kellytheman]

Yeah I am pretty sure if I had a couple rugrats running around it would wear me out including work.

[Meldrum]

Nope, not in my case. My wife had a cesarean so, after she recovered, we continued to enjoy healthy sex life.

[Glasgow55]

It did for my first wife and me. After our first was born, she lost interest in sex. We stayed together for a further 20 - 25 years, but it was just for the kids. Our separation and divorce became more and more inevitable. There was no physical contact for the last 3 years of our marriage. It was awful, and I started paying for sex.