Not at all. My then girlfriend and I lost our virginity to each other when I was 16 and she was 15. Grant that we were both virgins but, contrary to what you her about most first times, ours was an amazing experience because we git lucky and had the time and privacy and the risks of getting caught were minimal. Most of all, we meant something to each other.
My current girlfriend and I have lived together for 12 years and have three children. Neither of us was a virgin when we started to have sex and we have, to this day, what I think, - and she does too unless she is just humoring me, which I doubt - is an amazing sex life.
However, I did date a few virgins and while I won't tell you that they are prominent in my memory, one was. She was, in her sex, a bit insecure to start, but she compensated by being open to different sexual experiences. More importantly, she tried hard to make me feel like a man and that she wanted me and needed me. It made for some incredible sex and the night she lost her virginity to me still remains in my memory.
Put simply, it is not about your virginity. Rather, it is about the attitude and manner in which you - when you decide to do so - decide to lose your virginity. Virginity is just - in strict scientific terms - just about whether or not you have been penetrated. It is about as interesting as a medical book.
Rather, what matters is your attitude toward sex and most of all, to the man you decide to share your naked body with. Approach that in the right way, and the rest will take care of itself.
Was the first time painful for that girl? And also did she bleed? Everyone told me they bled their first time either a little bit or lots and that they had lingering pain for one week to around a month. My mum bled so much that she had an infection and needed medication for it. They said that it depends on the thickness of the hymen. My hymen is really thick and I can’t even see a hole unless I stretch it a lot, then I can see a tiny hole. I am nearly 22 and it is still this thick! But then all the women I know lost their virginity after marriage when they were between 18-24 and they all bled.
Well, that was a while back, but as I recall she did bleed a little bit, not a lot. As far as the pain, she did experience some but I was gentle and it was a very loving sex where I penetrated her slowly. I remember her whimpering a little bit and I recall saying that I was sorry or words to that effect. However, I remember her words exactly - "No don't worry, I want you inside of me. I want this." I've never forgotten those words. Anyhow, this is something that you have to decide what you want and when you want it and with whom. I wish I could give you more or better advice, but for something like this, I think a woman would be the best one to advise you. The only thing I can say is that every woman is different, but every woman - or almost every woman - has experienced it. All have survived it - your mom's situation being somewhat unusual. My only advise then is participate, rather than anticipate. The experience of sex, when you feel you are with the right man in the right moment, will be the most special amazing thing you have known. It will make you feel like you have never felt before. Maybe not right away, but eventually - and you do not want to scare yourself away from that experience and that moment. Sex is, for both men and women, at one level an act of total vulnerability and total giving even as you satisfy your most base animal instincts. You don't want to frighten yourself out of that experience.
I doubt most men would see it as a negative. Most men would either see it as a positive, or be neutral to the concept. To provide you with what I think men would think of as the pros and cons of it: The cons of being a virgin would be that you're inexperienced and would need to taught. You might be more shy about certain things, and it would overall take a bit more effort. Also, in a dating type of scenario, you might put out a bit later than a woman would if she was more experienced. The pros of being a virgin are that you won't be comparing the man's performance to other men. You're guaranteed to not have an STD. And, perhaps a big one (whether accurate or not), it's a common perception that your vagina would be tighter (and thus more enjoyable to penetrate). As for my personal opinion, I don't particularly care. I don't think that not being a virgin makes you impure or a harlett or something (lol). I'd probably view it as a positive. Not a huge positive, but a positive. Unless that meant that you were going to be super reluctant to have sex and make it take a lot of effort. If I had to guess the numbers, I'd say that, like 45% of men would view it as a positive, 30% of men wouldn't really care either way, and 25% would view it negatively.
But don’t men find the shyness attractive? I heard a couple of years ago that men find shy women to be more attractive because it seems so feminine and it’s confirmation that she is really still pure and untouched. They also went as far as saying that a woman’s shyness is a woman’s jewels. Of course in time she will lose the shyness as she gets comfortable with the one man she wants to be with forever and gives her virginity to, but it’s natural that it would take time. Wouldn’t it make men feel better knowing they are the only one to ever sleep with a woman they want to marry? Also, isn’t this the kind of woman he would want raising his daughters?
So, I was sort of explaining opinions that other men might have. Personally, I have no issue with women who are not virgins or are even far from it, but personally, I would probably see it as a plus. The idea of being a woman's first is very arousing. It also depends on the context. So, for a one night stand or a quick fling, some men might not like the idea of a virgin, because it would probably be more difficult and take more time to get her into bed, and she would need to be taught a lot of things, rather than just knowing them. Personally, even for a short fling, the idea of being a woman's first is incredibly arousing, so for me it would be a plus even in that context, but for some men (perhaps many), it would be a downside. But, in the context of a serious relationship, I think that many men would see it as a plus. Or, at least few would see it as a negative. Of course, a woman taking a lot of time before having sex is generally frustrating and irritating, but I guess it's more tolerable if a long term relationship is the goal. In the context of a long term relationship, a woman being a virgin would be an enormous plus for me. Being her first and her only. Teaching her everything for the first time. That would be fantastic (though not necessary). I also find shyness to be appealing. However, I can also be shy, so it's a little less likely that I'd end up talking to a shy girl in the first place. But, I would find that to be appealing if we did start talking. At least, if she gradually opened up to me. I don't know. I guess I'd say, men find a lot of different personality types and amounts of sexual experience to be desirable, so don't feel like you have to be shy or have to be a virgin to appeal to whatever man you want to end up with. But, I also don't think that most men will view it negatively. For long term stuff, it's probably a plus (though not necessary).
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!No it doesn't put me off if a girl/woman is virgin. Really makes me respect them. Cause any woman in 2 day society that is still a virgin. Well that saying they had some kind of self control. 2 abstain from having sex. Another is if a woman is a virgin. I look at that as a challenge. Everybody likes a challenge. Then again u have 2 think about her feelings. Reason being if a woman is still a virgin. Then if would be wrong 2 take her virginty. Just 2 be taken. The challenge 2 me would be taking the time 2 get 2 know the woman. Cause once u did then it maybe worth ur while. Remember patience is a virtue. Another thing 2 remember u can't miss what u never had. By them waiting 2 have sex. Then they don't miss it cause they never had it.
No man worth anything would ever be put off by this. The proper response is respect and honorable behavior. I would never be with a woman who was a virgin unless I intended it to be forever.
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for me If I am going to marry I will be so happy if my wife still virgin, it's another feeling being the first man to have sex with
I wish I could have the fortune of stumbling across men like you but I don’t think it happens!
but also if she is not that doesn't change any thing
Doesn't put me off I would feel honoured to take a girls virginity.
I'm also in the UK so if your anxious and wanting deflowering... sorry that's the solo lockdown talking.
Not a problem at all. I prefer a virgin but thats only a kinky fetish thing with me. I've had 4 or 5 virgins and made sure each one went away remembering her first time as a good one.
Marked.
A virgin doesn't put me off. I prefer an experienced partner, but if I was in love with a virgin I would be patient with her.
Doesn't put me off. If she's not a virgin, thats her past, If i am to marry her, her past becomes irrelevent to me, we have to build a future and move ahead in life not backwards.
It says if she is a virgin not if she isn’t one. Do virgins put you off?
Sorry. If she is one, that doesn't put me off.
Is it better if she is a virgin, for you?
Chill with me, I respect it sorta an honor if things go right If not cool give more respect
its not a bad thing, im sure some people would like it and others won't
i mean one sence in which it "may" put me off is the fact that she's probably not gonna have sex with me, cause she values her virginity so much xD so a big hassle to have some fun with her. if she's a virgin but totally open to having sex, then it doesn't put me off.
It doesn't matter, if you are virgin or not it just a layer of tissue some people like it some or prefer it's just you have sync with guy that's all it takes
No, not at all.
my virginity was broken four months before my 24, i did a little bleed, but didn’t feel severe pain, just felt the expansion in me when it penetrated me
not at all... an unvirtuous woman is a jewel in the snout of a pig or something like that...
Nope
My girlfriend was a virgin until 33. I don't care if I date a virgin. I just won't marry a virgin, so we'll be having sex before I propose
Some people mostly love virgin girls,
some rich guys even pay to sleep with virgins
Thats very true. I know of a girl who was 17 and a virgin and got 5,000 from a business man to be her first. They dated for nearly a year after that.
@olderirishguy A girl got paid 1M by a billionaire to take her virginity
@sarahr123 christ i wish i was a girl haha
No, nothing wrong if she is
Absolutely not!
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