Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health Does the "daddy" role play suggest father-daughter issues?
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I've slept with 4 guys in my life, 2 of which were virgins and 1 was basically a virgin (only one other girl at a much younger age), and every time I tried to drop the "daddy" roleplay with them in bed it ended up becoming really awkward and I would just drop it. One of them even made it a point to tell me it was weird that I did that and asked why I did, I just said I wanted to try it, and he said he felt better off with me not doing that. The most recent guy that I am messing around with is totally fine with this whole roleplay thing, but coincidentally comes from a kind of messed up family in which the father situation isn't the best. My father never hurt me in that way, but was also never around. I'm trying to find out if this is a normal correlation or if it is normal to have that type of roleplay even if you had a heatlhy, positive father-daughter relationship growing up?
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2 27I dated a girl for a while, she was 20. I was 10 years older than her. Her father, a two-faced monster used to beat her, she was terrified of him.
Anyway she wanted to be tied up, spanked, completely controlled during sex.
I didn't have an issue about the age gap, but was concerned that her issues had become connected with her sexuality, and I found it difficult to "indulge" (not the exact word I want) her interests, feeling guilty. Note that it wasn't my thing, but I'm open minded and would have been happy to oblige in different circumstances.
It was quite a long time ago, but I wonder what you all think about a situation like that:
Basically, her interests were what they were and if she liked it, OK.
OR, was this reinforcing/replaying earlier abuse?
The problem with the second conclusion is that any "unusual" sexual interests are then automatically assumed to be the product of something sinister. That is what's happening on this site, with a pathologizing of issues, with the attendant guilt that ensues. (obviously a generalization). But clearly from reading here it is causing some people to be upset and questioning their motives. And possibly their partner's response to it, like me.
I don't know the answer, apart from "it depends on the individual"
P. S The girl and I split up after a short time and stayed friends.
thats an eye opener because I have issues in my family with my father and i like the daddy kink..
oh, yeah, def.
If I were to ever do it (back in my sex days) it wouldn't have been so much a "Father/Daughter' type of roleplay, but rather an "Uncle/Niece" type of thing
Ok I'm pretty sure it has something to do with daddy issues after all because I've never been very close to my dad and he went to prison, and the whole daddy thing doesn't excite me but it doesn't disgust me either. Now my uncle was my farther role in many ways and we had a very close bond. And you saying the whole uncle/niece situation really grossed me out.
It's normal to like it even if you don't have a messed up background. Are people with a messed up background more likely to enjoy it. Maybe?
There's also an understanding issue. At your age I would have found it really weird. Now I like it. Partly that's more being comfortable with who I am but partly it's better understanding that "daddy" is not typically an incest fantasy it's something simpler.