Does you current ( boyfriend/girlfriend, hubby/wifey ) know your past love and intimacy. what have you hidden?

[michaelbernad001]

[WhiteSteve]

A little, I guess. She knows I had one serious girlfriend (or at least thought it was serious when I was a teenager, lmfao), and then I kind of dated around for 7 or 8 years before she and I met. I’ve referenced them or told stories that involved them when relevant, and I’ll speak fairly freely of the serious one. She has a few ex-boyfriends and it’s the same deal. We both say our most serious ones from our mid- to late-teenage years were the only other people either of us loved, and we both consider a different kind of love that was just very intense because of our ages at the time, and we just kind of laugh at it all now. It’s not like we’re pining for lost loves, lmao, we wouldn’t go back to them if the opportunity was there. Shit, one her best friends from back then ended up marrying her old boyfriend, they have kids now😂 I think my ex is still married to the guy she went with after me, and they have a kid too, who must be like 20 now, holy shit, where have the years gone?🤯 But anyway, my lady and I have been together 15 years, that stuff is way in the past, all from our youth, so it would be foolish to get hung up on, not that it’s really anything crazy to begin with. I mean, the alternative is to have just stayed with some person from a long time ago who turned out to be wrong for us, all just to say you’ve only slept with one person😂

[WhiteSteve]

One thing I’ll add though…we don’t really discuss sex with previous partners, unless it’s something weird/funny. Like she had an ex who was of Italian heritage, and he had some sort of thing about what you do and don’t do sexually with your main lady, freaky stuff is only for your “goomah”, your mistress. I don’t know if that’s meant to suggest that he had one, he didn’t really sound like the type, it was more about the pedestal he put my girl on. He wouldn’t allow her to give him blowies and he’d only have sex with her in the missionary position. She also told me he was a premature ejaculator lmfao. But it’s never like “oh, so-and-so used to do X/Y/Z to me, and it was so good. Could you do that?”, that would be weird.

[Anonymous]

I've hidden this, sorta. She knows I want to give her oral, make her cum repeatedly and slurp her juices but i didn't go into details that much, trying to decide whether or not to send this to her🥵

I can just imagine her laying on her back with her knees bent and out to the side as I slowly make my way towards the target between her legs, keeping eye contact until I'm there. Then I shift my finger slowly and gently to find her clit and when I do, I wrap my arms around her thighs to pull her in, I make eye contact with her one last time before I start kissing her there.

She let's out a deep but quiet moan as I do, which makes me happy as I start to lick her there as her moans get deeper and louder.

I then open wide to put my lips around hers and begin to suck gently while simultaneously licking the insides of her vagina. Her moans get more intense and louder as she puts her hand on the back of my head and I pull her in to get my tongue as far in her as I can get it.

She squirms and rubs her boobs as I do this, and the louder she gets, the faster I lick and the more I pull her in. Of course I'm hard when doing all of this, but I pay less attention to myself and more to tasting her delicious vagina and making her go wild. Her moans are the most beautiful thing I've ever heard, to know this feels amazing for her makes me go into a euphoric high, amazing.

Finally, her moans turn into squeals as she squeezes my wrist. I know her delicious body juice is going to come out, I won't let any of it get on the floor, I want to drink it, all of it, give it to me!

I took in as much as I could but some still leaked a bit out of her vagina, I quickly slurp it up as she pants after the orgasm and lets out another moan. I make eye contact with her as I go back down to do it all over again

[Anonymous]

My former spouse repeatedly asked me over the years we were married about other men I'd been with. I never entertained it and thought it was weird of him to ask about something that was of no concern to him. I was not with those people. I chose him as my spouse. What did it matter what size they were or how they performed sexually? It was creepy.

So, kept everything hidden, unless it was comical. And that was a rarity.

I don't want to know about past lovers of my partner, what their bodies were like, whether they were multi-orgasmic, or had the biggest, bodacious booty or tits in the world. What good does this do? Whose ego does it stroke?

[Intothevoid666]

The amount of women who see no problem hiding that they are whores is disturbing

[RandomGuy1030]

@Intothevoid666 its the only way they can get committment for the 5 or 6 years. Enough time to grab the semen and the child support

[Opinion Owner]

This is not about being a whore. Where did THAT come from! You're telling me having 3 other relationships makes someone a whore? I didn't discuss this with him because I could tell he was trying to compare himself to these others. THAT was what was creepy about it. I was married 17 years. And because I was disabled, the Social Securty due to me provided 60% of child support. The apartment I managed provided 30%. We had joint custody, so the child support given to me was tiny: $120 a month: and NEVER increased for the 16 years he paid it. I asked for $30 more a month when our son hit his teen-age years and he refused. Said, he'd go to court over $400 extra dollars a year. An electrical engineer working for NASA!

[Intothevoid666]

Why is it not his business? It weird and creepy that u feel like u can’t share that. U have 0 right to tell him what does and what doesn’t matter to him in a relationship. If he wants to know he deserves to know. Can he hide whatever he wants from u too?

[Opinion Owner]

@Intothevoid666 Yes. He certainly CAN. withhold It is up to HIM to determine what HE FEELS IS IMPORTANT to me to know about his past relationships. I TRUST HIS JUDGMENT. He should trust mine too. And some relationships in my past aren't worth talking about. If they are, in my opinion, I will tell him.

[RandomGuy1030]

Dude plenty of females straight up lie. They lie so hard to feel good they believe their own lies. Its insane but hey theyre females they dont need to be sane or honest

[Opinion Owner]

@RandomGuy1030 I have never felt the need TO LIE. I simply say, I don't feel the need to talk about X, or X didn't matter to me, or remembering the X relationship is hurtful and one or several of those things is completely true. Yes, I'm sure some women lie. I don't know why they're lying. But if you feel they are, then I would figure that you are with the wrong woman and you should end your relationship. The vast majority of people, men and women, DO NOT lie. Especially in a long-term intimate relationship. And, I also figure, the truth will out. You can't keep lying because you can't remember all the lies you've told in the past and you'll eventually get caught in the lie. This is why I don't lie, but say, I don't want to discuss it and give real reasons why. And if a man is asking for specious reasons, "Was he bigger than me? Was he a better lover?" I never indulge someone on such questions. Can of worms you cannot close back up. What if the answers are "Yes." How is that bettering your relationship. It ends up hurtful and stupid and is best avoided at all costs.

[NZGirl07]

Never hid anything at all from my partner. It is best to have everything out in the open. I saw a video once and it said that you should 100 % tell your partner everything, because if someone is still willing to marry you even with all your baggage that's a true relationship. I agree.

[Screenwriter]

Some details aren't worth knowing and are hurtful to reveal. No need to hurt a partner in the name of "total honesty." That damages a relationship. Sexual relationships that aren't the one you're in aren't "baggage." Details about former RELATIONSHIPS and why they didn't work out are important. But sex is isn't, unless someone is abusive during it. If George was awful in bed, that's a detail not worth revealing and seems mean to recount. If George was cheap, critical and gambled away his paychecks, those are relationship killers. The bad in bed is a nail in the coffin, but not the main embalming.

[NZGirl07]

I think it depends on the relationship. My partner and I shared quite a few details, we both have jealous tendencies and just wanted to be aware of the past. It put our minds at ease and made our relationship stronger. If it doesn't work for you, that's all good.

[Screenwriter]

I understand where you're coming from in your relationship. Makes sense. In general, I withhold unless it's essential and bolsters my current relationship.

[Aerissa_Jade]

Yes, I spilled everything, well told him everything... rather get it out before we got too serious, than have it come out later and then we end up divorced.

I have hid nothing from him, although I did find out he hid some stuff from me... and that pissed me off.

[Emiliamazing]

Yes, no hiding

[JustAnj]

We are each others firsts, I have had past sexual experience but not sex until I met him and he knows about all of it.

[Beatrix7]

yes my he knows absolutley everythinh obout me as i do him things we wpuldnt tell anyone

[susie22]

My boyfriend knows all my prior history with guys, and I know all his history. We both agreed that we would have no secrets.

[katiesmuff]

My husband knows most of it!

[Weston_PhD]

What about the other stuff?

[katiesmuff]

@Weston_PhD Not sure

[Lliam]

Why would my wife and I talk about former relationships? We don't reminisce with each other about former lovers.

We both got married late in life. I was 42 and she was 40 when we tied the knot and we've been happily married now for over 25 years. We had both lived full lives. Why would I go into detail about every girlfriend I ever had, beginning at age 16? And the same with her. Everyone has their own memories from past experiences. But the past has no bearing on the present. We are who we are now, not who we were 40 years ago.

My wife and I tell each other stories about our pasts. Some of them are about going places or doing things with former partners or groups of friends. But we don't talk about love or intimacy we had with others in the past. I can't imagine why such a subject would even come up.

[Seinna]

He doesn't know everything but I'm not really hiding... he just really doesn't care, we never had a proper conversation about it so we both just find out from random tid bits mentioned here and there.

[RobT312]

With my current girlfriend I have hidden nothing.
most of the stuff people may consider kinky has happened with her

[erandal]

He knows most things except the true number of men I have had sex with.

[Intothevoid666]

That’s predatory

[Gent207]

I'm a fairly open book if you can read multifaceted gibberish lol

[LazerBean]

Both virgins with no emotional baggage. Just the way we wanted

[TransAm85]

I been w/my husband almost 12 years. He knows everything about me. I met him when I was a hooker/stripper.

[Snsl153]

Well, since I don't have a current boy/girl/theyfriend, I can't really answer. However, if I did I would certainly not keep past relationships a secret.

[EmmaMary]

There is absolutely no skeletons in either my husband's or my closet.

[SimpHunter007]

Press X to doubt.

[NathanDavis]

no secrets

[DonkeyDan]

Yeah she knows everything, well everything I remember myself. I'm not into hiding anything.

[DermalPunch]

I ain't telling him 💩.

[AviatorTom]

My SO knows most of my past and I know most of hers. We don't intentionally hide things but I'm sure there are some things we don't know... and that's okay.

[exitseven]

She knows most of it. There are a couple of things I never told anyone.