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Sexual Health I am 25 and virgin. No one can understand my fear of sex, of pain, of having something inside me.
People take it as a joke because I look good and Im asked out pretty often and even though I am introverted with only 3 -4 friends, I am not shy and can talk about anything with anyone.
I want a family, I want children one day but this is ruining my life. What to do?
Fear of sex is ruining my life?
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11 44just stuff something in there so you aren't scared of that happening xD nothing can happen if you're in full controll, cause the secont it gets unpleasant, you can just stop.
the longer you wait with this, the worse the fear will get. that's a psyhological fact.
Find the right guy, build trust and a good friendship, time?
Find someone you really trust and work through it
Same thing here. I'm 20, still virgin. Where are you from?
Seek professional help. If you aren't able to overcome it yourself then there is nothing wrong seeking orof help. I mean a psychiatrist or a therapist who specialises is such problems. Otherwise you can date a guy and be up-front about this and take baby steps till you are okay with having sex.
Nothing to worry about. Get professional help and you'll be alright :)
I bet you will be able to do it like a pornstar..!
Well, this sounds like an inner demon that you need to face head on (no pun intended). But maybe start small and slow.
You should talk to a professional, you have no idea how much pleasure you are missing out on.
I would strongly suggest consulting a therapist.
I think you need to be talking to a therapist about this.
Just take it slow. Maybe if you find a guy who can help you explore it without hurting you.
See a therapist or you mighg have more problems
You need to overcome your fears somehow. Maybe by talking with someone you trust or through structured masturbation to learn to deal with your fears, you can overcome them.
Yea, otherwise it would be hard for have to have children, something that she wants.
When you're with the right guy you will overcome this. I made sure my girlfriend trusted that I did not want to hurt her when we first had sex. Luckily it was painless for her. Nevertheless if it had hurt she would know it was not my intention and it was simply a way to deepen our relationship.
dont overthink about it honey
first time he will put it slow for you ;)
it doesn't pain so much believe me ;)
I have 7 tattoos, broken multiple bones, been punched in the face plenty.. I survived. I'm sure deflowering isn't that bad. Unless you lose it with some random douche bag.
Maybe u cud use a dildo
Else open up to ur partner
She can, but it would be better if she would have her first time with a lover, not a dildo.
I suggest you get counseling.
They can help relationship anxiety.
Just try a small dildo you might start to enjoy it? You also might have a defect down there that makes it painful try going to a gyno just to get a check up if you havnt yet
I’m sorry to hear that. :-(
I’ve actually helped several women with this problem.
One a therapist! It’s not your fault.
There are several components to this.
You can get a sex therapist, but it will
be expensive. If you can DM me somehow,
I’ll be glad to talk to you.