For a Virgin girl craving for dick is normal?

[Anonymous]

hi everyone. I am Virgin and 25 years old i haven’t had boyfriend or had sex. I masturbate regularly but masturbation does not relax me. Masturbation makes me hornier and i want real person and have sex. At that moment i just want a dick to ride (sorry to say) to relieve myself and have pleasure. I can turn on from the guys that attractive or touched me. I think that i can separate sex from emotion because i just want the pleasure. Do you think if i do casual sex can i feel better? Many girls say that they can not separate sex from emotion i have not tried it so i can not say the exact thing. But i think i can concentrate on just my clit and pleasure. Craving for dick makes me emotionally unstable.

[SitBackRelax]

You have a very healthy sex drive. Nothing wrong with feeling the way you do as frustrating as it can be, which I completely understand and then some. It’s as normal for a healthy wired woman to crave a penis as a healthy wired man to crave having his penis inside a woman’s vagina.

There is no substitute for the real thing. I agree 100%. Masturbation will give temporary relief and release but it can build even stronger desire because the body knows it’s being tricked by not getting the real thing. There is a chemical release of satisfaction that both male and female can only give to the other during vaginal intercourse. But even then, with the real thing, it’s like a drug because both want to keep coming back for more which is by design to drive possible procreation of our kind.

Finally, there is a lot more to good sexual relations when there is emotions and love involved. Sex is after all the ultimate ability for two individuals to make that ultimate connection of love both physically, spiritually, emotionally, and become one flesh which is beautiful and fulfilling. Not to mention healthy, relaxing, and stress relieving.

[Asker]

I want someone to have strong emotional connection to feel loved and love him and have a healthy sex life. Actually, i am very caring person and i can gibi my everything to make someone happy. But i am afraid of have a emotional connection with someone than lose them that is why i think without emotional connection having sex will protect me and i will satisfy my sexual needs but never be emotionally damaged (i assume)

[Asker]

Give*

[SitBackRelax]

I understand your concern and even see your reasoning behind your methodology. But consider this for a moment, because I care... Sex with someone without initial emotional attachment for the purpose of releasing sexual tension would seem a good option up front but here’s the deal. Sexual intercourse by design will tie two people together and create emotional attachment anyway. At some point or another, one or both will start to feel attachment and will become emotionally dependent on the other. Intercourse and orgasm/ejaculation causes the production of oxytocin (the powerful bonding chemical) among many others. It literally causes an imprint onto the other. Women are even more likely to be imprinted on and become emotionally attached due to the very nature of your mental constructs. You sound like a very sweet and genuine woman who has a lot of heart to give to the right person. I’m just trying to give you the facts so you don’t end up getting potentially more hurt long run over simply just being sexually frustrated right now. Fulfilling sex is amazing but fulfillment comes with someone you know wants you and all of you, not just the object of you. You will find the relief you seek. Just stay strong in the moment. You are welcome to message me anytime with questions. I somewhat work in this field and therefore have some information and ideas that can help. I wish you the best :)

[Asker]

It is so bad that we can feel emotional connection ‘’just’’ via sex. I can not find any logic in that. I wish there was a way to prevent it. I want emotional connection but i am afraid of that at the same time. I do not know if i can open up to a person completely. I always heard that people can protect their feelings by just engaging casual sex, fuckbuddies, friends with benefits and so on. I do not find these satisfying because they are inadequate. But i envy them because they can protect their feelings but can have sex at the same time. Maybe they are mostly men who can. But i do not know. I think there are women who can do them too. I feel very complicated. I want to have a loving relationship but i do not believe that i could find or if i find i think i will vulnerable. But if i be vulnerable after ‘’just’’ sex too it is quite awful too… Is there a way to not feel this bond?

[SitBackRelax]

Unfortunately there is not a way to not feel bound to someone. Some people claim they can and you are right, they are mostly guys. But even guys can and must feel a bond. It would seem on the surface that they cannot but it’s only because guy’s brains function a little differently. Men can compartmentalize within which is why they are naturally wired to be able to love more than one woman at a time whereas women are wired to be monogamous in who they are bonded to. Questions come up on here all the time where women ask, “why am I having feelings for my friend with benefits”? Sadly the second part to their question all too often describes that now she has feelings for him, he is breaking her heart because he wants nothing to do with her other than sex. I know you are afraid of giving your heart and being vulnerable. We all face that fear and it’s so much more worse for people in their 20’s. I think it’s due to the mentality now days that says it’s ok to treat others as expendable so long as the other person has their physical needs met. But we as human beings are wired for love, acceptance, and belonging to someone. Devoid of that and sex is a major disappointment and even destructive. With love, sex then becomes the most warm, the most amazing, most satisfying, etc. With love, it’s easy to open your legs and be vulnerable by allowing a guy inside your vagina and your body to feel pleasure to the point of satisfaction because you then know he will love you after even more than when he started. Continued...

[SitBackRelax]

You deserve to feel loved. Set the bar higher for yourself. You don’t need to make it out of reach but be reasonable to yourself too. You feel the need for sex and would love a penis inside you to the point you feel insatiable in your needs. I get it. Those are wonderful things which means you are a healthy woman. Now give yourself those things but also allow yourself the most wonderful foundational feelings to go along with the sex, love. You can have it and you can be happy. I have all the faith in the world you can be successful. I’m still here if you want to keep chatting :)

[Asker]

‘’ Men can compartmentalize within which is why they are naturally wired to be able to love more than one woman at a time whereas women are wired to be monogamous in who they are bonded to.‘’ i do not accept this because when you say it is natural, you can easily accept that when men cheat and say ‘’it is their nature’’ if one not want to be or can not to be monogamous so they shouldn’t promise to a woman. And i know women who love and can not decide between two guys. I do not justify any of them or cheating someone. It does not matter if they are women or men. But you are right that i read those questions and i feel afraid of having sex like that. It can be disaster for me because i do not know how to be loved and i did not have any relationship. But i always envy the ‘’thrill’’ of one night stands or flings but because they are risky i always have been far away from them. But now because of my sexual frustration i can not control my urges. I do not know maybe i am a very sexual woman. That is why it is hard for me stay like this. And i want to feel a man’s touch on my Body even if i do not love him. Because i thought that no one will love me, i lowered my standarts and thought that maybe if i find someone reliable and have sex with him i can feel better. I wish i was a man and not feel this bond :( there are some women who can control their feelings too.

[Asker]

Actually i have need of sex and i have the need of cuddling with a man too. I want to feel secure and loved. But i do not have faith that i can find this person. I wanted to suppress this feeling or get rid of this feeling completely. But it does not fade away. And i want some experience of sex because if i find a man that i love He can have experience and if i do not have i can feel bad. When you do not have past you can not easily accept to the others. That is why i thought that if i can have experiences i can feel better.

[bredtaleth]

As people say, it's better to have lived and lost than to never have lived of course. Of course, there are some weak-willed people who go into some kind of comtose state of sadness when they experience emotional loss, but that's another issue. Most people will be better off for the experience. Don't hold back because you're afraid of getting attached to someone. You need to epxres syourself and feel an emotional connection, so don't let your fears hold you back. You will likely never be with just one person all your life, and this is good, because people er different, and will help you learn and feel different things. Get out there and try it!

[prosmind]

You are now at the prime of your youth, sex desires and craving for cocks. It's very normal. I appreciate your candid thought that you don't mix up sex and emotions, meaning thereby that you need only sex. I believe that once you have dick (or dicks) regularly, satisfaction would be there.

[prosmind]

Thanks for MHG.

[bredtaleth]

I think you just need to try and see how it feels. Some casual sex might help you do that. At least, I think it's important that you challenge your perceptions of sex before it all becomes a warped idea in your mind. Then I'm sure you will see whether you really needed sex, or you just thought you did. And whether you're actually looking for some kind of emotional connection that just seems to have a sexual outlet.

[Asker]

‘’ And whether you're actually looking for some kind of emotional connection that just seems to have a sexual outlet.‘’ what do you mean here? I want to have sex and of course i want to have an emotional connection. But if i can not have the emotional connection maybe i can just satisfy my sexual needs.

[bredtaleth]

I am saying that you don't really know what you want. Exploring will help you figure that out. What you want is never just pleasure and likely not just emotional connection.

[Asker]

Yeah maybe i do not know. I do not want to regret afterwards but if i do nothing and wait nothing happens too.

[laura123iu]

i am a virgin too and i understand your position. if you have the sex, you're not gonna feel good after because you will lack the spiritual connection that comes with intercourse. try building a love connection with someone, if you know someone that is in love with you or find a guy that could love you to do it with and you will feel complete. the lust will get boring after awhile and you'll just feel empty.

[Asker]

I know that you are right that is why i waited for that long. But if i can not find the love this need will make me more irritated. Because of that i feel very complicated. Of course i want be loved or love someone but at the same time i need to satisfy my sexual needs.

[MarkyMark77]

@laura123iu thats good advice. u new to girlsaskguys? wanna chat? im also shocked a girl as cute as u is a virgin. thats impressive tbh

[laura123iu]

@MarkyMark77 lmao. thank u

[MarkyMark77]

@laura123iu wanna follow me and we can dm?

[laura123iu]

@MarkyMark77 im dating someone :) but i appreciate the offer

[summiter]

You won't know till you try it. Just find a kind, caring guy that will make it enjoyable and don't forget to use condoms every time.

[integrale77]

Go with whatever you want tinder is a perfect way to satisfy them urges it's a hook up app so feel free to just post what you want.

Just play safe make sure someone knows where and who your with.

[The_Maphio]

Thanks for telling us. You just lost a good amount of potential partners.
Jokes apart, if you're really up in arms for having sex, hook up with somebody you find attractive and see for yourself if it's as good as you thought.

[Asker]

Why i lost my potential partners 😂 yeah, because i will lose my virginity i hope i can feel better

[The_Maphio]

Being a virgin or not doesn't really change one's character nor does it empower them in any way. It's a personal choice, even though I really don't get why rejecting one of the best pleasures in life.

[buddysboy16]

Have you ever tried using a dildo? I know it's not quite like the real thing but it can be a good substitute in the mean time that might also satisfy your cravings

[HellGeist]

Normal. But Women who engage in casual sex diminish their ability to pair bond and have successful relationships in the future.

It's up to you what to do.

Honestly, just find a good dude and make him your boyfriend and you'll be fine.

But if you jump into the Tinderella lifestyle it comes at a cost.

Whether you can afford that or not is strictly up to you!

[Asker]

Men can do when they need of course women can do it too. I will not have plenty of casual sex of course it is not healty at first. I just want to satisfy my sexual needs right now asap.

[HellGeist]

Men and women are very different. Knock yourself out! And hopefully not "up."

[Asker]

I do not think so everyone is different

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

It's okay to have a guy and have him play with your pussy and that might take care of your horniest

[Asker]

It can be the best thing for me

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

@Asker Hey we like playing with pussies hahaha

[KatherineJ]

Totally normal.

[Ironic_Method]

Very normal. Sex can be fun and amazing, but also dangerous and painful. When you do start having sex, you'll figure out more of what you like and don't like and what is fantasy and what are actual kinks of yours.

Enjoy and be safe when you decide to go for it.

[Luopio27]

If you feel you are ready, whats stopping you from hitting tinder or the local night clubs. It should not be hard for a woman to get sexual attention from such places.


Make your move.

[Asker]

Do the person i will have sex with accept me if He knows i am Virgin?

[Luopio27]

No man can speak on the behalf of all mankind. There are both girls and guys who get turned off by that but then again there are those who want to. Maybe you should go on a date, and see if the chemistry works. In that process its easy to find out what his preference is not just for casual sex but starting it with Virgin.

[vald9inches]

How big of a dick do you want?

[moviedude714]

Normal and natural feeling

[Asker]

Should i have a casual sex to satisfy myself for my first time?

[moviedude714]

If you're able to acquire it then sure why not, it's socially accepted by most of society that the average woman can access sex a lot more easily than the average guy can, probably because women don't have to be the ones to pursue it

[Asker]

I know but i want to remember it good

[yuviii2012]

Will u marry me and can I quench your thirst?

[IHateBeingaMan]

no shame in feeling this way

[LegendaryIcon]

yeah

[OddBeMe]

I’d say you should try dating first and see how you feel. The worst thing would be to jump into casual sex if you’re really an empath and get really hurt.

[Asker]

Yeah, actually i am an empath. But i am afraid of commiting to someone than lose them. If i just have sex it will be easier to break the connection i assume.

[OddBeMe]

That shouldn’t be your first concern. And as a guy, having sex could just increase the feelings and make breaking up even harder. Again, just find a nice guy you’re attracted to and go on some dates. If you feel like having sex, do it.

[Asker]

Yeah because i am Virgin it will be better for me if that guy cares about me. Thank you for your opinions :)

[OddBeMe]

Good luck. Be confident.

[Rudon00]

Imma virgin too and it is exactly how I do feel often.

[Asker]

How do you deal with it? It makes me irritared to feel like this way.

[Rudon00]

The same way you do at times. I desire a person with emotional connection in order to have sex. I'm demisexual and I believe you are the same. I do get horny very frequently because I'm at my sexual peak and desire sex. However since I'm not having sex right now due to not having a partner I masturbate Very often to compensate for my lack of sex.

[Asker]

I do not know how to feel. When i am stressed in my life i feel hornier. Maybe by thinking this i run away from my actual problems. I sometimes think that i will never be loved that is why i thought that if casual sex is better. I masturbate too much but it makes me hornier in a weird way i do not understand how it can happen.

[Asker]

And why did you think that i am demisexual?

[Rudon00]

Yeah I know what you mean. Having a stress day does trigger sexual arousal for me and similar to what your experiencing masturbating does make me more aroused that usual. I have to at least do it two types to actually feel sexually satisfied. So you seek out casual sex huh? Are you afraid of emotionally bonding with someone? Have you ever had a boyfriend?

[Rudon00]

Is it possible I can PM you?

[Asker]

Yeah, people are not reliable in this age. I think that if i bond with someone i will be vulnerable. But i do not know the feeling of being loved, no i have not had boyfriend. ( i always do one type masturbating can it affect?) have you ever had a girlfriend

[Rudon00]

No I do not have a girlfriend. And you are a lot similar to the way in what I'm feeling and going through. I reference that you may be demisexual but I see that you are afraid of the emotional ties. For me its the opposite. I cannot have sex with someone I do not have an emotional tie with. Hence I'm very careful with whom I enter into relationship with. For me I masturbate because I crave that emotional connection with the opposite sex.

[2021biguy]

Of course it's normal.

[Waldoe]

"Go for it" if it's not right for you, you can Stop