For people who are sexually aroused by receiving pain: do you perceive the pain itself as pleasurable, or just the accompanying sexual arousal?

[mistixs]

I really hope this question makes sense xD

[CocoBat]

Pain is more of a neutral feeling for me, it's just association I guess, I like surface level cuts, shock collars, being held kinda tightly, being pulled by my collar although that's not that painful, having nails pressed on my skin, biting, and things similar to that, the only kind of pain that feels somewhat pleasurable to me by itself is electric shocks, the rest I think is just nice because I associate it with other things, not sure though, it got me to think about it, I never really did, and I don't know how I got into things like knives, there are some more explicit things I like, but for that it's basically the same story, I'm not satisfied with my answer and I'll keep thinking about it and if I got more I'll respond to myself


(Please do not ask to pm me, I am already afraid of answering any kind of sexual questions because on my last account I kept getting responses, getting happy I got responses and got to talk to people, and then it's just some dingus going "haha ok interesting pm me bb")

[net_man7]

I share a lot of those kinks. Love the collar use too

[CocoBat]

I reeeaaally like collars in general

[CocoBat]

Well it's actually hard to find ones I like :T

[net_man7]

You're into shock collars?

[CocoBat]

Yes, they're quite nice

[net_man7]

They're loads of fun! Do you wear the leash too?

[CocoBat]

I quite like to yes, mostly just while actually doing stuff, I keep a collar on lots of time though

[net_man7]

The collar must make you feel safe:), are you more of a slave or sub type?

[CocoBat]

Yes, it makes me feel safe, I like being owned, it's a uh... hard to explain I guess, kinda like playing as a pet, like I'm still just me, just sub, and keep a collar, and do some pet-like things, I have a boyfriend and such but always when I talk about this kind of stuff I'm afraid of attracting unwanted attention even though I'm not particularly afraid of talking about it otherwise

[net_man7]

That's totally fair, does your boyfriend own you?

[CocoBat]

Mhm, I used to feel guilty for it but he really likes to take care of me too, I try to give back still, I would not feel too great being entirely useless

[net_man7]

Yeah it's good to have a good dynamic that allows everyone to feel good

[CocoBat]

Sometimes I still feel a bit useless I guess, I don't like feeling like that, it comes from myself, my boyfriend is very caring and appreciates the things I do, but my view if myself is somewhat ruined :/

[CocoBat]

Eh sorry for kinda drifting off topic

[sixxx]

Wow you are a masochist type. I love to play with pet masochist role play too.

[CocoBat]

Mhm ^^

[net_man7]

So what are his rules that you have to follow?

[CocoBat]

I do not have many actually, I usually ask for things before doing so and listen well, we do things like... I'm not allowed to take any snacks/candies and such for myself, he gives me them when fit and when I'm being good, I'm not supposed bite (I know biting may be really weird but I like biting for some reason, even before I got into pet play), I'm supposed to keep my collar on which I have no problem with, and there are a few personal things I would not like to mention

[CocoBat]

@sixxx I am sorry I have no interest in that, I have a boyfriend

[sixxx]

Wow that's nice, just imagine it makes me feel thrilled. I always want to play with a pet masochist sometimes. However not all girls like it. It's just nice, sometimes it's embarassing but if both parties enjoy it and play their roles, there will an exciting moment that is hard to describe with words.

[sixxx]

@CocoBat No I am joking. Don't take it seriously.

[CocoBat]

@sixxx uh oki, sorry for misunderstanding... a lot of times people dm me after saying such things and try to get me to talk dirty or something, I'm quite afraid of that, it's not very comfortable

[sixxx]

Just ignore them if you do not have an interest. As a man I would say we are jealous of ur boyfriend cuz he has a girl like you. However I will not go so far as to force someone, but I do like to tease someone. So be careful of the teasement that random man gives you.

[Nik1hil]

Thank you cocobat for writing down your perception beautifully to something we common people find difficult to understand.. B

[CocoBat]

Huh? I don't think I did particularly well

[Emraaan]

Pm me😉

[CarpetDenim]

@CocoBat I wouldn’t recommend giving guys like these more details when they ask for them over and over again. They’re just perverts, I can guarantee you that they’re all already getting off just from the extra details you’re providing them. Please be careful and definitely do not pm any of them. @Emraaan @Nik1hil @sixxx @net_man7 I’d also like to point out to each one of you, if you haven’t already noticed, that this girl is 17. I don’t really care that she’s almost 18, as of right now she’s still a minor, and although she doesn’t seem too uncomfortable answering your questions, your intense fascination with her relationship and her sex life is very suspicious and honestly pretty creepy at best. All of you are adults, and I don’t think it’s too demanding of me to ask that you act like adults and refrain from this kind of flirty/sexual interaction with a minor.

[Nik1hil]

@CarpetDenim Jeeze.. I didn't started a conversation.. I just thanked her.. To helping me understand something that I got stuck understanding in last time.. When I across this topic.. Which was, first I was confused that why would someone want to be a miserable slave... She made it clear for me that The bond is more like human make with their Pet animal's.. Which psychologically makes sense.. Like we love our pets but Dogs go Zoomies and way more happy then we are when we see each other.. I just thanked her... Then I was on my way... Don't care what you say denim.. I had an empty backpack of intension..

[sixxx]

@CarpetDenim I could not do PM due my level. Moreover I have no interest to do things only one sided. I would prefer both sides enjoy it. If you somehow have a bad experience because from your past, do not use your judgement based from your experience to all of the people at here. I have admit, I like to tease people. But I never interested to force people or do things one sided. Besides she might not be 18 and I might not be adults. You can't trust everything that you see and you know at here without verify it. So in short stop assuming everything by yourself and make it sounds like you are true and others are false. I do know your good intentions to protect girls as u re also girls. But it's just not true by directly accuse others are false while you do not have anything valid proof at all. Not to mention all of the people do not have a grudge or do anything bad at you. So no reason for you to directly attack other people at here. Hope you understand my point of view.

[CarpetDenim]

@sixxx Your best defense is a pathetic “She could be lying about her age.” Really? That’s all you’ve got to say for yourself? I’m not just trying to protect her because she’s a girl and I’m a girl, I’m a moderator. I would do the same thing if I saw a bunch of adult women perving on an underage boy, because it’s creepy and that kind of behavior is prohibited on this platform. Just leave kids alone and don’t pry them for intimate details about their sex lives, dude, that’s all I asked for. It doesn’t matter if you’re “just teasing,” it makes you look like a creep.

[Nik1hil]

@CarpetDenim I agree with you on this one "Lying about her age or not, doesn't matter." If it says 17, and you still go forward then question here is what your action speak about you..

[sixxx]

@CarpetDenim whatever you argue and you think about me, I do not care. If @CocoBat also thinks the same as your thinking yeah ok, sure go ahead. You are right then. But I do not think @CocoBat has the same thinking like you @CarpetDenim. Besides I do not really care she is 17 or adults. What I do care is do we share the same interest or not no matter what the age is. As I have said, I do like to tease people. If she has an interest and enjoy talk about it for both parties then good for me. If she does not have an interest then fine with me too. I do not force her to talk about it. In short I hate it somebody out of nowhere just interfere with my personal problem while I myself never once disturb you nor do I mad at you. And you just suddenly give your judgement and make it sounds like you are the truth and others are false and everybody should listen to you. I would admit that's the type of person I dislike the most.

[CarpetDenim]

Yikes, imagine thinking age doesn’t matter and that it’s okay to sexually flirt with a minor 😬 You’re just digging yourself into a deeper and deeper hole, my guy.

[sixxx]

Ask @CocoBat to confirm. She is the one who starts this topic. I just respond it and curious whether we share the same interest or not. That's all. I do not asks her too much , others are also the same. Nor do I even PM or request anything else. You are free to give other people advice and suggestions but you should not just directly attack other people and accuse them out of nowhere. That's no manner. Imagine you were in my position, what would you feel and what do you think? If you still do not understand my point of view and my thinking, that's it. I have nothing else to say to you again. That just means you are just a stubborn girl that judge and attack others based on your bad experience or feel insecure about men. I don't know for sure, it's ur problem. Not my business too. My job is to only tell you your way of doing things are not right.

[chrissykerdock]

that's a very good word to use arousal... I've been spanked with a paddle and a hand... also been whipped with a belt up to 20 lashes... after you've been whipped you'll never love giving a blowjob so much in your life... and your aroused with your senses heightened I think... suddenly you don't mind being on your knees for him and swallowing his cum... it's actually a gift from being whipped... and being whipped itself isn't bad... if you get spanked your ass will be bright read and hot you can melt ice cubes on it it's so hot... same with being whipped... I hate to say it arouses you very much... you feel totally alert alive and submissive... if you want to feel submissive try getting whipped with a belt 20 times.

[broken_heart_at_48]

I'm not really into receiving pain but I'm willing if she's into it so I like how my wife gets worked up when riding me and hits me in the face both open and closed hand. I've showed her wear and how she can punch me in the face fairly hard and it not really hurt of course when she getting into it her aim isn't very good and the more excited she gets the harder she hits I don't mind because she gets a little animalistic and yeah.

Now she likes to receive light pain and I enjoy giving it so it works out pretty good she also like being degraded during sex our regular pet names for each other hers is hooker or bitch ( her choice) and she likes to call me daddy. So she likes pain for the pain I like her going crazy so I'll take the pain because she makes the sex better if I let her punch slap scratch and bite she also likes to try and yank on my ears I really don't like it but you know

[curioussheikh]

I voted E. I find the pain itself to be unpleasant, not pleasurable, but the sexual arousal is pleasurable. However, I am not a masochist when it comes to physical pain, I am a sadist when it comes to physical pain. It's emotional pain that brings out the masochist in me and it really dominates my sexual interests, the arousal in the anticipation of receiving emotional pain completely overwhelmes me and when I am receiving it, it's like I am living on an insane level of sexual gratification. Though the moment I climax, I start to feel really bad about my own emotionally masochistic interets and it seems to deeply harm my self-esteem but that's another topic for perhaps another time

[Boppy]

I'm pretty sure that last part you mentioned is why after care is so important.

[Stacie3]

I can get aroused by a small amount of pain associated with sexual activity and the more aroused I am the higher the pain tolerance is.. but at that same time if the threshold of my pain tolerance is crossed it can kill the arousal real quick. And in order to get it back we have to momentarily switch over to a more sensual type of foreplay.
I guess it as they say.. all fun and games until someone gets hurt 😂🤣

[razelove]

Pain doesn't stop being, well, painful just because you enjoy it. It gets kind of... muted if you're with someone skilled and go into what's called subspace.

[singhharry]

Always pain can't be pleasurable. depends on person mood. Some like pain some dont like. If the partner while intimation is in wild mood than he or she will love pain. But when they means to romance and just wanna spend a lovely time while intimating than they will not love pain. They will go for polite sex. Like applying chocolate on body , etc.

[Jjpayne]

I'd need some time to experience sex and pain before I'd be able to comment

[CarpetDenim]

The pain itself is unpleasant and, y’know, painful, but the infliction of pain in and of itself is an expression of the power and control my partner has over me, which I find incredibly arousing. If that makes sense.

[redpanda_]

I enjoy pain when I have sex, slap me and choke me and I'm a very happy girl.. Spank my ass and I'll get giggly, or slap my pussy and I might squirt.. I get off on it HUGELY.

[jmzero]

It depends on what version of pain. For example. I find pain from electricity to be pleasurable. Pain from a paddle or switch is unpleasant but the aftermath is pleasurable. Heat from flame is unpleasant both ways.

[mistixs]

How is the aftermath pleasurable?

[jmzero]

From paddles and switch. there's this heat that builds under the skin. Also with paddle and switches but especially paddle, all the nerve endings get hyper sensitive so any touch afterward is far more noticeable

[leonidas69]

I feel like you're asking what turns on a masochist?

Pain is not sexual.

But some masochists can't get horny without pain. So I don't know how you want people to answer your question. It's such an individual experience with other individuals that to get a majority answer would take actual study and a huge, targeted population.

[sixxx]

Some people are just masochist and enjoy the pain. It's not normal though. But it's just their role like in kinky stuff or bdsm stuff.

[ThatGuy133]

I’m not a fan of getting off on pain.

[NorthwestRider]

I love being in pain in the bedroom

When my fiancée makes me her bitch, it is a huge turn on hehe

[Daniel3035]

Both really.

[DanOh2018]

Both, like poking a bruise

[BoxySama]

I am not into the pain leak ink, but I do understand how actions could cause excitement

[BoxySama]

The pain kink*

[Ttam69]

I like the power transfer you feel at the mercy of another person, but I'm not enjoying the pain itself. I'm willing to go through that pain for the enjoyment of another, that is the gratifying part for me.

[Kelly6]

I see pain as pleasure

[farhaan7]

I feel pleasure giving pain

[Maninderdeepsharma]

I love pain. I love if a girl dominates me by trampling my stomach under her high heels. Standing over my body in pencil heels for several hours. Lol

[EnglundUberAlles]

I prefer inflicting pain to receiving it. But pain and pleasure are transmitted through the same nerves, the brain just interprets them differently. So when you're sexually aroused you interpret the pain as pleasure, as long as it doesn't become too intense.

[DJZest]

All I'm wondering is how you excaped your mistresses' clutches and got out of the lesbianity education dungeon.