For those who have had sex with 10 or more, do you feel the more you screwed, the more experience you gained?

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I’m one of the few who would prefer to end up with a man who gained experience through rounds/hours/days/wks/months/years of making love to the same person  or the few people that he had something meaningful with. I’d take that anyday over someone who feels they are more experienced because they have run amok. Heck even my virgin ex knew wtf to do in bed just from some internet research and pornwatching. And I bet some hoes are still sucky in bed despite having circled the block.  I can’t say Im surprised tho since its probably hard to learn when you continuously start over with a new project rather than just building up the same one ... So I’m just curious to know what is it thats being accomplished when you run through a lot of men/women?  Is it an ego boost? Is it about competition? Is it about trying different things to become a jack of all trades? Or is the whole point just to get a temporary fix when in dire need of sex without overthinking the rest? And sure, what you do is your business, but I’m specifically questioning those who feel the need to brag about having a high count? #FeelFreeToList #HowManyLaysDoesItTake

Lliam · Accepted Answer

I never felt a need to acquire lots of notches on my bedpost. It was no thrill for my ego to try as many women as possible. In the end, they may look different but all have the same physical qualities. With one night stands, there is little difference because all you know about them is physical.

I preferred relationships and infatuation. That being said, I went through several girlfriends in my life because I didn't want to settle down and get married. I didn't start thinking about that until I was in my mid-30s.

I did gain experience by having sex, beginning with my first time when I was 16. I experienced a lot of pleasure, too. Beyond that, I liked those girls and we had great times together as friends and companions. Mutual infatuation is one of the greatest feelings we can experience. I even remained friends with some of them after we went our separate ways.

I learned through experience because porn wasn't available as a tutorial. I'm happy about that. So I don't regret a thing.

After all my girlfriends, one finally taught me what peak sex could be. We virtually lived together for over a year. I could never have imagined how transcendent sex could be. Nothing could ever surpass that. I will be grateful to that girl for the rest of my life. I still love her and will never forget her.

So here's my thing. If I hadn't tried different girlfriends (not one night stands or hook ups), what are the chances of my having found that one particular lady? What are the chances of finding that special person your first time out?

And that's what I say about people who think they are only supposed to have one sex partner in their life. If they do, they have no idea how good sex can be. They're just settling and telling themselves that they have great sex. That's fine. Whatever. Good fr them. But for someone like that to preach about the virtue of only having had one partner is a joke.

I see zero value in virginity, purity and low body count bullshit.

I don't care if a woman has had 10 partners and been fucked 5000 times. I actually prefer that kind of girl because at least she was out there trying to find the right partner and giving it her all. She seizes life and doesn't give up. She also doesn't have sexual hang ups. To me, that's what a normal, healthy girl is like.

I would be more concerned if she had been with 200 guys and been fucked 500 times, because that would indicate a different set of emotional issues.

AimeeKyle · Accepted Answer

Having a larger number of partners was never a goal, conquest or competition. It just happened over time. I had several “longer term relationships over the years as well.

As for obtaining more experience due to the larger numbers….. the most education/knowledge came from the ones I spent the most / longest time with.

Not to discount the others, I am a giver/very observant and did pick up some perspective from all of their perceived likes/dislikes as well.

Aerissa_Jade · Accepted Answer

I'd rather have the same person a thousand times than a thousand people, but there is something to be said about the first time with a new person.

I can't say you learn more with more. You just learn how things work with a new person, which can be interesting.

I imagine some people, like the whole newness thing with others and would rather do that, but I'd rather... teach my man to be really good and he teach me what he likes.

No two people are alike, so experience seems less relevant, because what a guy learned with one girl, usually doesn't work with others, or what a girl learned on one guy may not work on the next. Sure there is a possibility but some people learn a way to do something and think that is the best and therefore don't want to change.

So having too many can make someone harder to teach.

Apple1996 · Accepted Answer

Have only been with one person but I think it's possible to gain a lot of experience with few partners considering that people change over time. Like the sex I had with my husband at the beginning of our relationship is completely different then the sex we have now. Also have gone through a lot of different phases together so always trying out new things.

Seems Iike people that have had a lot of sex partners are the ones lacking experience (especially men) since they don't take the time to learn what gets a woman off like those the type of dudes who have never been trained on how to eat pussy. 😆

MrOracle · Answer

A lot of things you only learn by having sex with the same person over a long period of time, BUT there are also things that you only learn by having different partners. I don't necessarily mean dozens or hundreds of partners, but a few.

God_of_Thunder · Answer

I learned more about the specific person/people I have been with.

Once you have the basics down, the only thing that's really left to learn is the individual tastes of your current partner, which may not necessarily apply to your next partner.

I have 'only' been with 11 women, over the years, but nothing that I learned from any of them, beyond the first couple, would necessarily make me a better lover for the next. I am primarily a "relationship guy," so the longer I spent with each partner made me a better lover for them.

It takes time to learn the specific preferences of a new partner, and you can really only do that if you devote the time necessary to learning those preferences.

I feel like it's better to do so, that going from person to person. Sure, you've always got the basics, and that'll cover you, but it can be so much better when you learn to do exactly what that specific person likes.

Felinegirl · Answer

Yup. Although having sex more often matters more than having more different people.
And from experience, there isn't a lot of correlation between how many partners a guy has had and how good he is in bed.

lilyanony1 · Answer

I slept with the amount I have because guys aren't very good at being honest when they're in their early 20s.
They will say they want x y and z because it sounds good to get laid. In some instances I've had guys wait a month before a kiss, and a further 3 month's before sex and by then they may have met some of my friends, but they run because their intentions was only to get their leg over.
What it has taught me is that it does not matter what I Do they will still do what they want.

In terms of sexual experience I think I'm less enthusiastic now simply because I assume they'll run.
The guy I'm currently seeing we had sex for the first time last night.
But I wasn't able to cum and apparently I was too tight for him to get in.
We spent a lot of time doing alternative things, watching TV and chatting, stroking each others hair.
Whether that means he wants something more who knows.
But he was able to cum 2x...
Maybe my dysfunction is a good thing...

TrueConfection · Answer

I have NOT had sex with 10, but I want too answer anyway. 😋

I can't really count my first as "experience" because we were teenagers and it was only the one time (you know how that first time is for a girl).

Maybe someone who has had 10 partners, had 9 one night stands. I've been with one parter for over 20 years. Who has more experience?

ohshee · Answer

Well I agree with you. And for me that's what I believe in

But it didn't happen that way and I can't change my past but I can control my future
If you only knew how much passion I have inside of me and how bad I just want to hold on to some girl and make her feel the most beautiful intense thing ever but at the same time I know down deep that if I was to do that with somebody I know they are and I know if it's going to work or not and if it's not going to work then I'm not going to do it because I don't want to go through the bullshit that headache when it comes to an end since my last girlfriend which ended right before covid-19 I never wanted to go through that again and I knew that it wasn't going to work but I allowed it to happen

I like to be good at everything that I do when I do something I analyzed it because it can always be better always just because you think you know something doesn't mean that you know anything because everything changes I learned that a long time ago no matter how good you think you are how much experience you think you have you know nothing I know nothing is what I'm trying to say because there is always a way to make it better when you can do that with the same person it's one of the most beautiful things in the world and that's what relationships are all about you change it up every day you make it fresh every day you never do the same thing twice can you grow you just keep growing together every relationship that I've had that's what I've done but this relationship is different and each experience is different because you have to keep it fresh there's not just one way to do things in life there are many ways and I look at it as if it's my job to figure it out can you make it the best possible for my partner and for me it is what it is and I can't change the past only the future the present the moment

IMuser · Answer

Modifying Bruce Lee  I am not scared of the man who has fucked 1000 women once but scared of the man who has fucked 1 woman 1000 times

TheBootyChest · Answer

I think it would be difficult if the guy was spending so much time with one partner who wasn't as experimental. What if they were together for two years and did missionary most of the time?

Guy__ · Answer

With internet everything changes.

But imagine a guy who screwed 100 boring chicks, vs a guy who screwed 10 various outstandingly special women. The 100 boring ones could be all the same in bed offering no new experience...
So numbers sometimes matter. Is he so shitty that he has to find a new girl all the time? Or is he so good that new girls want to try him?

FriendlyDrugDealer · Answer

It’s not like I feel more powerful or wise but I definitely gain more experience and knowledge on myself and the art of sex with others. I practiced certain motions, techniques and ideas to the point I’m confident in my performance. The intensity or the pleasure has not increased unless the person I’m with is just that amazing

MrTuxedo · Answer

In my experience, no. It doesn't really matter with how many PEOPLE you had sex with, it matters how many TIMES you had sex. You learn something new each time you engage. Especially in the beginnings. Also, having a lot of sex with just one person gains you the knowledge for that persons preferences, which is a great thing.

As for more people you screwed, more experience you gain - In some sense, that is true, as someone can show you something you haven't seen before, but generally, you just depend on your own experience, which is based on how many TIMES you had sex, not with how many PEOPLE you had sex.

Skizza · Answer

I have definitely known guys and girls that were just out for notches on their belts or whatever women put notches on lol.(I guess I'm talking different nightly partners if possible.) And a high percentage of those people generally weren't interested in seeing their conquests very many times. Seems like even if they said the sex was good they didn't go back to the well often. I aquired almost all of my experience and skills from the three women I loved because we had countless hours/days /weeks/months of exploration and quality time and many rainy days and weekends with time to spare and we cared enough to do anything the other wanted ( within reason lol) and to offer a quid pro quo when we got what we desired. If you get all that from fifty one night stands then God bless you.. you might be one of the few. One night stands are definitely not wrong I'm not saying you are doing something bad Im saying there is something to be said for quality over quantity. Peace🙃

AvaOneLasTime · Answer

The more you mess around, the more exp. you gain, that's just true. I haven't slept with much though. So far 4 people. But had contacts with people who did sleep with more than 10 peeps.

And you may learn interesting things. Like: Bi girls may say girls eat pussy better, than boys. Until boys start taking it seriously and start learning.

AviatorTom · Answer

It's a learning experience. The more women you're with, the more you learn that no two women are alike. What one woman likes may be disliked by another.

humanearth · Answer

In my 20s I was part of a few orgies of 10 or more people

Yes they can be fun and very enjoyable, but they lack something I crave. I crave intermediacy with One On One.

That's something you'll never get in group sex setting

Anpu23 · Answer

I've certainly had many partners. Only three or so actually taught me something specific. As for why, it was more about just variety then anything else. Perhaps a bit of an ego trip but more about differnt...

Kabluie · Answer

The reality is quantity isn't something we all can control either. Some people may only ever get up to 1 year or so in relationships so when you get to say 30+, aside from hookups between or during, you're already beyond that 10. Nonetheless it's always sex experience, but also experience in relationships, dating, and what not. Some partners don't like anal, maybe you had a partner for years that required condoms. Everyone is unique and brings different things to the table.

DrHonesty · Answer

More partners = more experience

magiusX26 · Answer

yes. short and simple answer

VikingWarLord · Answer

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