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Girlfriend barely wants sex and it is getting to me. What should I do?

Quick 'catchup' my girlfriend had a friends with benefits before me. She lied about not talking to him which I found out was a lie. We have been together for 2 years now.

I can not stop thinking about the fact that my girlfriend used to have a friends with benefits but is "never" in the mood for sex with me. We have sex about once a month (we are both 25 years old). For me it is not enough, and I can not stop thinking about the fact that it feels like she wanted to have sex with him more than she wants me.

How should I deal with it?

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  • If she is not showing any interest to you, and if she is not with you certain evenings/weekends - quite likely she does want sex often but it's currently being satisfied by a higher quality partner than you. You are still around only for stability and convenience as a plan B who's already commited to her exclusively while she aees if she can trade up in the short term or not. If you are ok with that deal - continue on. If you don't want to be a cuck - ditch her.

    If you feel like she is genuinely just not interested in sex eith you but NOT cheating - I would show some ideas lile bubble bath, or go workout with her together - anything that will get the blood pumping and make her feel really beautiful about herself, and yourself. This will likely be the solution if perhaps she is just not feeling 100% the past few months - or if something else is on her mind.

Most Helpful Guy

  • Focus on yourself. What can you do to improve your mental state? What can you do to improve your health? Do that and you will be better for it, feel better about yourself and in return you will send out a better energy to people around you and you will enjoy life more. Next or at the same time. Look into what does she like in life, what is attractive to her in form of fashion , style and action. Do things together. The safer she feels, the more her needs are mett and the more she feels heard the more attention there will be.

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  • I understand that would feel very bad and the fact she is still in contact would bother me. Anyways I recommend talking about it and that you need more sex... if she doesn't give more I would say break up..

    • She cut contact with her old friends with benefits after I found out. I talked to her about it a year ago. It is a on and off problem.

    • Oh well that is positive... but personally I would break up.. because people don't have the same sex drives. You need to find someone with a higher sex drive or else you will always be frustrated about it...

  • Maybe she's cheating on you or she just doesn't love you anymore, is it the sign of a failing relationship

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  • Talk to her about it. If the problem doesn't get solved (within say... A few weeks or so), then you are probably not compatible and should end the relationship. You don't want to have to deal with it for the rest of your life.

  • Break up and find somebody you are more compatible with. Why is this even a question?

  • Sorry to hear it. Sex once a month to me is not nearly enough for a 25 yr old guy. I'm sure masturbation helps but as you know sex is way more fun. Have you talked to her about it? Is she just a friends with benefits or a true girlfriend? Do you two live together? Maybe start going out on date nights and doing fun things and see if sex follows it. What do you think?

  • she doesn't have burning desire for you like she does with the other guy

  • Get a new girl. Be done with her.

  • Try to talk it out use a lot of "I feel" statements with specific behaviors and try to reach some sort of understanding.

    Otherwise breakup with her

  • Get a friends with benefits of your own.

  • 25 years old you should be having sex almost every day. Dump her.

  • Have you tried talking to her?

  • Do you guys live together?

  • You know exactly what is going on, and you know exactly what to do with her.

  • I guess that she left you because you're in small and you could not please her like you should have done for her so she found a Man that could make her please and pasure her like she wanted and needed

  • Need to have a serious talk if you plan on staying with her. Females are emotional beings so there could be something on her mind that she has not shared with you that keeps her from being intimate. I encourage you to have a talk and allow her time to share what's on her mind. Best of luck man.

  • Have you talked to her about it?

    • Yea. She cut contact with her old friends with benefits and talked to her about it a year ago, it an on and off issue.

    • probably worth discussing it a little more often

  • I assume you feel tempted to break up with her

  • chop your dick and balls off and ram it up your ass then ram it down your throat but make sure it has your shit on it when you do

  • I'm afraid you are the fall back guy. It's common for friends with benefits to end badly for the woman because she would only enter into a friends with benefits arrangement with a high quality guy she wants a long term relationship with and hopes for a long term relationship with him while for the guy the girl he has a friends with benefits arrangement with is not good enough in his mind for anything serious and will dump her when he's ready to meet or has met a woman he wants to get serious with.

    As for the not wanting to have sex with you I've been through that with an ex. At first she was all over me and then it just became a chore to her, she have sex with me but had no intrest in cumming with me and wouldn't let me eat her out, turned out she was fucking another guy behind my back for a year, obviously orgasming with him.

  • Stop being a fucking pussy and dump her. Move on. Find a girl who matches your appetite. You're sounding like a whiny little bitch.

  • Once a month for your age is way too little, especially if she had it often with another guy just for sex , tell her you’re going to leave the relationship and she can be your friend with benefits to get sex more, maybe she just sucks for relationships. It’s not going to get better until you leave her and wants you back

  • She is still having sex with friends with benefits so you should find someone else.

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