Girls and guys, what steps do you take on a daily basis to prevent yourselves from being sexually assaulted?

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St37xy11 · Accepted Answer

Wow that guy has huge hands. Are guy hands normally that big?

Anyway, if I am meeting a guy for a date I always make sure to meet him in a public place. Also make sure to choose places far away from your house so that if things don't work out he can't stalk you by hanging out at the place where you guys had that date. Like hoping to see you there again. I never get in his car or go over his place for a very long time. Like I'm waiting for marriage so I have no reason to go over his place. I of course let the guy know I am waiting so I feel like he knows why I wouldn't be over his place unless it's like to meet his parents if he lives with them. But if he has his own place, yeah I'm not going over there. It's for a safety reason and also because I don't want to give him the wrong idea because I'm a serious woman. I feel like every guy will always try unless he is very respectful. I make sure not tell any private info for a long while as well. Like where I work (the specific building) and where I live until i know for sure he's not crazy lol. I also have a list of red flag questions to ask too that the guy probably won't realize are red flag questions.

When it comes to just living life and being careful unrelated to dating... I try to park my car next to the parking lot light if I am going to be walking to my car at night. If i feel iffy about walking to my car, i will ask a security guard/police man/ a trusted male co worker to walk with me. I have all the weapons on me except for a gun. I don't like guns because of a personal traumatic experience where now I am afraid of guns. Always pay attention to your surroundings and remember faces and what people are wearing in case you see a man or woman a couple of times around you in the store. Pay attention to if it seems like someone is stalking you. When you leave a store and start walking to your car always look behind you to make sure a guy isn't following behind you. Walk in a very fast pace too. Don't be on your phone and/or with headphones on when you are by yourself in any situation, like walking down the sidewalk for example. Never know if there is a guy hiding in the bushes somewhere or if he's walking right behind you. This is all I'm going to write though, its a small list but may help you in the future.

Aerissa_Jade · Accepted Answer

At home I have a dog, best security system ever... she tells me when someone is nearby.

I do morning runs at 6am in the dark each morning. It is so dark here, that I run with her. She makes very specific sounds if a man is nearby, vs a women or child or another dog/animal.

Mostly I hope that no one can really see me, cause its pure dark, little to no street lights but can't wait until it gets light this time of the year, have to be to work by 7.

I also carry a 2 million volt stun gun flashlight on my wrist, just in case someone grabs me.

I have taken a self defense course twice, if some poor soul decides to come at me from behind, they might regret it. Not saying they won't over power me, but they might not.

There is some very good self defense courses here, taught by police officers who by the time the course was over, I could drop a guy larger that myself.

As a last resort, I have a bra holster, like this.

https://www.flashbangstore.com/collections/bra-holsters/products/flashbang-holster

Flash bang, term meaning I flash someone while drawing and then bang. I have a M&P Shield I carry in it.

In places where I can't have my dog, I am very observant to my surroundings at all time, I won't walk and text or look at my phone, seems like a great way to get attacked. At stores I park very far out, this way it is unlikely someone will park next to me. As close vehicles means someone could potentially be hiding under their vehicle.

I do walk arounds of my vehicle to make sure no one has climbed in anywhere before I get in.

The big thing is ALWAYS be aware of everything going on around you at all times.

TheorionMage · Accepted Answer

There is NO better prophylactic precaution than to step outside of YOUR mindset
and try to see yourself the way a Predator would view you...
EVERYONE is 'prey' to SOMEONE, ... especially and even those, who are 'ambush' Predators.

Security professionals term this awareness a 'Condition Orange' mentality...
Deception is the greatest 'tool' in self protection, BUT... no ONE tactic
(save avoiding the confrontation) will spare ANYONE from potentially taking
SOME physical damage. With injury SOME folks cave and capitulate, hoping
their 'surrender' will placate the Assailant's aggression;
OTHERS unleash their "HOW DARE YOU!" ferocity and anger and forsake
their OWN safety. Assailants have been crippled by 'victims' wielding
a high-heel shoe or lacerated with car keys! (High heel shoe = ball peen hammer)

At PSU in the 70's I taught co-eds how to use a loosely-rolled COSMOPOLITAN magazine
to smash a concrete cinderblock! Or inflict slashing multiple 'razor' clay-coat paper cuts.

And, upon striking with gusto, if they were stupid enough to thereafter pause
to admire their handiwork as their attacker re-rolled the magazine,
they'd EARNED whatever 'payback' next occurred. ...'Probe'n time!"

beernbacon69 · Accepted Answer

As a guy it's something I really don't have to concern myself with in regards to myself, However, I'm 6'-3" and 220lbs and have significant training in hand to hand combat in the military as well as 3 years of Jiu-Jitsu and real world application of my training most recently as a bouncer.

That being said, it's a whole different thing for women and that just sucks that they can't be lax about it, because it can happen to them almost anywhere. As a guy the steps I take to protect female friends, family and co-workers are:
- walk them out to their car if it's dark out, or the area we are in is a bit sketchy.
- buy them pepper spray or teach them how to hold their keys to be able to defend against an attacker if they are alone.
- I did sign my sisters up for Jiu-Jitsu as well as a few girlfriends, so they have some skills to protect themselves.
- tell the women in my life to be careful and when out alone to always be aware of their surroundings and who is around them at all times. Don't get distracted by your phone or other things.

It really does suck that their are so many asshole's out there that would do this to a woman, so I think it's up to all of us to watch out for those we care about.

bredtaleth · Answer

I generally don't worry too much about stuff. Life's too short, and if we have to consider or eliminate all risk, we will miss out. I think the best defense is to work on your confidence. From my impression, it really means more than any other factor. Many people experience sexual assault they weren't comfortable speaking up for themselves or felt unsure about actions they could take.

SecretsofKB · Answer

I know my exits and try to keep a clear path to one of them. Never get myself cornered. I try to sit with my back to a wall.

When walking, I have headphones in but not on usually. I regularly check if anyone is behind me. I'll call someone on my phone if I need to just so I'm talking to someone.

I do have a gun that I've practiced with a lot (and the proper permit to carry concealed), but that's not always a feasible option to carry every day.

I will lock the doors on my car as soon as I'm in. I check around me and my car before I even start getting in. I'll make wrong turns of I feel I'm being followed ( I never am but better safe than sorry).

Just basically being alert and observant of my surroundings.

WhatTheHeckkkk · Answer

#1 Not going out unless it’s for work, groceries, and gas lol. #2 I keep pepper spray and a knife on me.  #3 have my phone in hand ready to call.  #4 Keeping an eye on my surroundings.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

With our daughter one of the main things we drilled in to her was situational awareness, sort of reading what was going on around her, when with friends to Buddy Buddy each other.

Also with my ex girlfriend doing kickboxing, she was taught early various ways to attack first and defend, importantly how to get away.

How to use body mirroring to see if you are being watched etc. Street stuff I grew up with and learned since.

One of the biggest risks has been car jacking, as I tend to own cars that get targeted by car thieves, she needed to be aware when I lived near Birmingham, as a lot of attacks happen when parking up etc. not so much sexual assault but risk of violence.

TrueConfection · Answer

I'm living life on the edge in my tiny town of zero crime (aside from speeding tickets?). We even don't lock or cars or homes. If I leave town, I stay in public view and I park under a light at night.

ohshee · Answer

I read your question in the first thing that popped in my head was are you kidding me does this happen I mean do you really have to do this protect yourself every day because if you do that's no way to live and if there's other girls out there to that have to do this each and every day there's something that's really fucked up in this world and there needs to be a stop put to it are you just asking this as a general question or are there a lot of women out there did have to protect themselves each and every day from this happening if so something has to change this is wrong

dustybiker · Answer

Be aware of your surroundings for one. People who aren’t distracted make less of a target. I’m armed for secondzies. Third comes from lots and lots of taekwondo training.

Lionman95 · Answer

I actually don´t do any besides staying away from people that give me an unsure feeling in my guts.

Ms_Vanderquack · Answer

With ammo being as expensive as it is I will typically run dryfire drills every day. With my new job that has been a little hard to build a new schedule but I’m getting it figured out. I exercise every single day, although some days its only for like 20 minutes work keeps me pretty active during the day. I also have an app on my phone so specific people I trust can see my location at all times.

IAMNathanael · Answer

On the off chance someone decides to try me I've got a pocket knife. Thankfully I haven't had to use it.

RedStiletto88 · Answer

I always have my phone on me and let my boyfriend or someone know where I am, I don’t go to social events alone, I have taken some womens self defense classes, I follow my intuition about a situation, also I have pepper spray.

tastycannoli · Answer

When I go out in public I only go if there's some guys with me that make me feel safe

NathanDavis · Answer

as a man, that's not much of a worry to me

but I do take a series steps so I don't get murdered or kidnapped, tortured, beaten or trafficked

can't go into details about it but basically... it's awareness of everything and everyone around, at all times as well as keeping contact with others often, as a network

DonkeyDan · Answer

Its not something I really have to worry about much, but I definitely don't bend over in the gym shower.

Albino010 · Answer

I've never once thought about this.

shepardmaddison · Answer

I'm physically the opposite of strong, so I'm always a bit scared to be assaulted but tbh as a guy, I'm quite sure it would nit be sexually. But I try to avoid some places at some hours and I try to be with people... I can't do much more I think. How about you?

AviatorTom · Answer

I'm a fairly big guy, so the risk of me getting sexually assaulted is pretty low. However, I could get mugged or robbed, so I try to stay in large groups of people and avoid unlit dark areas at night.

HighValue · Answer

I'm big, strong, I know martial arts, and I stay armed so I am prepared to kill someone at any time. Nobody will get away with attacking me.

Agape93 · Answer

I never give out identifiable information online.
I'm always within arms reach of a gun. When I'm out and about in public, a pistol. At home it's either a shotgun or a rifle.
I have good locks on solid doors and windows.
I have two Rottweilers.
I always tell my people where I'm going, why and when I'll be back.
I avoid certain areas and situations, and be ready to fight to the death if I can't.
Etc etc.

Dargil · Answer

I likely won't have that happen but being mugged? I carry a side arm.

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