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Grinding on a guy for the first time?

So, I'm 17 and extremely inexperienced with guys--I haven't even had a boyfriend or kissed a guy. But, I grinded on a guy at a party. Well, actually, it was a YCMA function where over 1,000 high school students from my state act as legislators. The final night of our stay in this hotel, they hold a giant party with various activities like movies, karaoke, and a dance room. To set the scene, I'm dancing in a dense group of several hundred other people, the room is dark except for strobe lights, and a DJ is blasting club music. Of course, they're are teachers to monitor us to make sure we aren't crowdsurfing, but they really don't care if we are all grinding, twerking, or whatever. I've gone to this thing two other times, and have never been approached by another guy until this most recent time. I was dancing, which mostly consisted of swinging my hips and laughing with my other friends nearby as we acted a fool. I'm kind of near the edge of the group, near the deafening speakers, when I notice a flash of dark clothing behind me. Soon, this guy brushed against me several times before pressing his crotch on my ass, and then resting his arms lightly underneath my breasts. I initially freaked out internally because I've never done anything with a guy, and to suddenly jump into something so sexual was crazy. I went with flow, we matched rhythms, and we rocked out like that to several fast-paced hip hop/club songs. I was so nervous and hot that it all felt like such a blur to me, and before I knew it, this guy had a noticeable boner (I could feel it as we continued to grind). Then he did something I never expected: he occasionally began to dry-hump me. He would grab my hips and ram into me from behind a couple times before guiding my hips against his dick again. Is that normal when grinding? Could a guy cum while grinding like that? I feel kinda terrible that I've never dated a guy, but I've done something so sexual with a guy I never kept in contact with. Is that wrong?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • It's wrong, if you believe it was wrong, and shouldn't have done it, and if you wanted to wait for such intimate touching, in another situation. But it's done, so don't dwell on it. There was no real harm. Understand, that he brushed up against you several times, before putting his crotch on our ass. The brushing was his way of letting you know he's there, and getting permission. You gave permission by allowing him to brush and then plant. Of course he got a boner. Most normal guys will get a boner if they have their dick against a girls ass, while grinding. And yes, a guy can cum from that kind of contact. The issue is, for you to decide, are you OK with that degree of intimacy with someone you don't know. If not, then you, next time, you can turn to the guy brushing you, and signal it's not OK to plant his boner on your ass. It's a matter of what you understand is right and wrong. Just because "every" girl is letting guys press their dicks against their ass, doesn't mean you have to. In the end, it's your choice. Think it over, and chose wisely. Good luck.

  • it is wrong. if u like him so please try to find him and get in a relationship please... by the way I am like you I also don't have any experience with girls but your luckyer then me cause you did so sexual activity it s good though please text me if want help with this guy

Most Helpful Girls

  • it's not wrong. at all of our school dances, every guy that dances (which is only grinding at my private school lol) is a walking boner. my friend and i were dared to walk into the guys bathroom for a quick second. we did, and all of the guys were crowded by the hand dryers to dry off their pants. i'm guessing precum or they actually busted. they didn't even notice us. this past prom was the first dance i had a date (my boyfriend) and it was the first time i grinded, and his as well. he did the same as the guy in your story. he definitely had a boner and had some precum, but didn't bust.

  • it's not wrong or right. You can do whatever you want. Don't feel any less for yourself just for doing that:)

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  • If you enjoyed it, there's nothing wrong with it.

  • no. it's fun. legal. fun.

  • in my opinion it's wrong... I don't like when things happen that way.. and too fast.. there's a lot of consequences after that

  • If you had fun , there's no issue.

  • It's not wrong it's just a type of dance that most people do at the clubs or a bars. If you are not comfortable next time just let him know to walk away.

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