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Guys, are you embarrassed when you come too fast?

I recently slept with a guy and he came within three/four strokes and he laughed and said it's because it was his first time without a condom. We went for round 2 but that didn't last too long either cause he was tired. I didn't mind at all! I was happy I satisfied him so quickly. We stayed in bed for a bit then he said he needs to go and left. We haven't spoken that often since...

I'm not sure whether he's embarrassed or he's just done with me. I'm asking because I'd like to spend another night with him.
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  • I used to have a real problem with PE and yeah it was very embarrassing and frustrating. It got better though in large part because of 2 different girlfriends who were super understanding and helped me work through it. Both of those relationships ended on good terms but I will always be grateful for what they did for me.

Most Helpful Guy

  • Yeah, it’s like we failed the woman we’re sleeping with. It’s embarrassing. There is an upside to cumming quickly - once those first two are out of the way - we’re good for a while and two more orgasms!

    • What could a girl do to make you feel less embarrassed? I wanna know how to best act in case it happens again...

    • Well, it’s not the woman’s fault, honestly. The guy could have performance anxiety and he may not have had intercourse in such a long time that he just can’t hold his load. The guy just needs to practice.

    • Another possibility is that you just felt so good to him that he couldn’t hold back. I’ve been with someone like that in my early/mid twenties.

Most Helpful Girl

  • I'm not a guy but for me, as a woman, I often find it cute/hot. I just think about how I must have felt amazing and how he couldn't wait to cum in me. Now when it does happen I do expect him to get in there and finish me off with either his mouth, finger, or toys.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • That's never happened to me.
    It almost did my first time, but I exercised some very quick mental control, and then settled into an hours-long session of love-making.

  • I don’t have that problem but it can happen to younger guys. It takes time and experience to learn control. In wouldn’t be too hard on him. Some women hate it and will belittle guys.

  • It's never happened, but when I was young (hot head) it only took one pump of my fist too knock senseless the chump who called me a one pump chump while trash talking.

  • Yes when I began having sex it was embarrassing.

  • The first time without a condom is more intense because of the heat transfer is much more jarring, so he may not be used to it. Obviously the more one has it, the better.

    It also helps if he stops masterbaiting on his free time too, allows his dick to become aroused to a vagina better than his hand.

  • Noobs. LOL

  • Not really. Cause she better get ready for a longer and more intense round 2

  • I'm almost 70. That's not really a problem, lately.

  • I have to be honest, I've never had that problem. For me, it's the opposite, I feel bad when I last too long.

  • My guess is he is embarrassed, no guy cums that fast & would be satisfied. You should take it as a compliment that you got him so worked up but now he has to get over it.

  • If I cum before she does I go down and eat her pussy until she cums

  • Not enough pre game, for play,
    Ideally, get the first one out of the way via blowjob or something, then round two lasts hours... and round 3... well buckle up baby your calling in sick in the morning

  • Nah just if it's the first time with her

  • (yawns) ... Whatever

  • Not usely a problem for most but it can happen if he got abit toover worked up aheadof time

  • It sounds like he might be embarrassed. I haven't personally experienced that, but if I did, i wouldn't stop until my partner was finished or told me to stop. Most men when embarrassed about something would be uncomfortable if the subject was ti arise. Most if men aren't to well in touch with our feelings and emotions enough to know what they're feeling much less orally discuss it with their partners

  • You can always ask.

    • How could I do that? It's not something I can ask directly out of nowhere

    • You've had sex once. It won't be out of nowhere.

  • I am always embarrased. For some reason, I have no stamina whatsoever. Maybe reach out.

  • If i cum to fast I think of myself as a dud not a stud. but then you can say practice practice practice and hope he get better. Or keep getting him hard and fucking him till he last as long as you want him to

  • Yes. It often happens when I haven't had any in a good while then in the beginning. I find it more annoying than embarrassing the handful of times that's happened.

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