Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health Guys, when should a girl you are going out with tell you she doesn't want to get too sexual too soon?
Porcelaine Yoda
Let's say I like a guy that I just started dating, I don't mind and enjoy kissing him, touching him, and I do plan on having sex with him eventually, but I simply enjoy getting to know him, and all the innocent and simple things that come before sex becomes part of our relationship. I hate when guys get too sexual too soon, it's quite rare to find a guy who also wants to hold off sex until later and isn't just doing it because the girls wants it that way. So how soon would you like for a girl to tell you she doesn't like getting physical early in the relationship? Or is this something that shouldn't even be discussed, since I believe decent respecful guys won't mind waiting and won't try to rush me, if they dont want to wait and expect it right away they are free to leave.
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What Girls & Guys Said
1 63The conversation would need to be by date 2 or maybe 3, probably 2, because otherwise I will be misinterpreting her singles. Without the conversation, her slowing things down would be a sign she's simply not interested, and a message to me to move on. If she wants me to know that she IS physically interested but wants to delay it, she needs to tell me, so I can decide whether to trust her or not. If she doesn't say anything, I'd just take it as rejection and move on.
I wouldn't be slowing things down, the things would be going forward just not right away
But I'd normally be escalating. Maybe not that far on date 2, but by date 3, 4, 5 I'd be escalating and I think that's pretty normal for 'dating path' people who are past early 20s. So if a woman is going to be declining physical attempts to escalate, but just wants to slow down, she should say so. To be really clear - it's not about whether I 'can' wait. I can certainly wait a long time if the right connection is going to be there. But past experience has told me NOT to wait for things that are never coming. I'm basically skeptical about being sexually compatible with most women, so I'm not okay with just waiting assuming that will work itself out later. Given that, I like a lot of men take a woman's level of sexual interest and enthusiasm early as the best sign I've got on both how into me she is, and what our chemistry/compatibility would be like in the long term.
True, else you wait until you die and it was a waste of time, energy (to change her mind: "No, not so fast! I love you.") and money.