Guys, why do girls get called sluts when guys get praise from each other for the same behavior?

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*DISCLAIMER* All of these questions are in reference to people who practice safe sex
(using condoms, birth control, openly talking about STDs, etc.)

Why do single promiscuous women get shamed and called sluts for having sex with multiple people?
Why is a single man praised by others for having sex with multiple people?
What is wrong about a single woman having a lot of sex?
What is wrong about a single woman having a lot of sex and taking pride in it?
What is wrong about women wearing revealing clothing?
Should a woman feel bad about herself if she has random hook-ups?
Should a man feel bad about himself if he has random hook-ups?

Guys, why do girls get called sluts when guys get praise from each other for the same behavior?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Men have the cheap and easy part in reproduction, so it benefits the species for men to spread their genetics as far and wide as possible. Women’s investment in reproduction is huge compared to men, so it benefits the species if they are as selective as possible in choosing from a wide range of suitors. Even though humans have gotten clever about avoiding untimely reproduction, sex and reproduction still go hand in hand. This biological dynamic underpins the answers to your questions.

The reason women call women sluts is different than why men call women sluts.

Women do it because other women who are “easy” make it more difficult to find a good boyfriend. (See the above explanation.) If one woman is giving it away, male attention goes to her. Other women may see that strategy as successful and imitate it, making a good man even more difficult to find. Hence the shaming.

Men do it, often times, to be spiteful because they were rejected. They may also have (usually hypocritical) standards, or feel they need a virgin because they know they are inept in bed and a virgin wouldn’t know the difference. Still others are afraid that a woman with a lot of history is likely to cheat or “isn’t tight”, which is, of course, bullshit.

Answers to some of your other questions:

Q-Why is a single man praised by others for having sex with multiple people?
A-Because of the double standard I explained above, and because it is more difficult for a man to rack up a lot of partners.

Q-What is wrong about a single woman having a lot of sex?
Q-What is wrong about a single woman having a lot of sex and taking pride in it?
A-In my opinion, nothing. But again, the above explains human behavior.

Q-Should a woman feel bad about herself if she has random hook-ups?
A-It depends. If that’s all she wants, why should she feel bad? If she hates herself for it and feels only loneliness and emptiness because of it, then perhaps she needs to be a little introspective about why that is.

Q-Should a man feel bad about himself if he has random hook-ups?
A-The same answer applies to men.

SirrVeta · Accepted Answer

Because it is a stereotype that girls do. In my oppinion this should stop aswell and everyone should be able to do whatever they fckin want

Lizzzzz288283 · Accepted Answer

Because we are given higher standards in society unlike men. We have to be all of these things “innocent”, no body count, etc etc and such whereas men are supposed to be the opposite.

MrOracle · Answer

The reality is that men and women are different, and they're especially different when it comes to sex as well as to reproduction. That's one of the reasons that men and women look for very different things in partners.

When women look for a man, most women want a man with lots of confidence, with ambition, a good career, some status, some resources, and who will take the lead. Many women find that they can't even be attracted to men who don't have those qualities, and they feel drawn to those who do. Yet, many of those qualities are found in men who have slept with a lot of women - but most women don't care. Women want a man who is BETTER than her (has a better job, more education, higher income, higher status, etc.) because women always want to date/marry UP.

Men look for totally different things in women - men care nothing about a woman's advanced education, career, or ambition - those are not "points in her favor" as they would be for a man. Instead, when men are looking for relationships, most men are looking for a woman who will make a good MOTHER to their children. This means: young, natural (the fewer tattoos, piercings, implants, etc. the better), and who prioritizes motherhood rather than a career.

Because men are looking for women to become the mother of their children, her having had sex with a bunch of other men is not a positive but a negative - it increases her chances of an STD and also increases her natural hypergamy (her desire for even higher-status men), which makes her less likely to be satisfied in a relationship, which means the relationship is less likely to last.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Your question focuses on 'if guys can praise each other for being promiscuous, why can't women get the same praise?' That means that you are focused on what others think of your behavior. Why don't you just focus on whether promiscuous behavior is morally defensible and whether it has long term consequences for the quality of the relationships that you may have in the future?

Madhatter920 · Answer

Traditional values carrying over from one generation to the next.

Berethor · Answer

Because women are like locks, and why sluts don't admit that they are sluts? :)

TonyV · Answer

Just cause it's harder for guys to sleep with a lot of women, he must be really charming or have the physic of a god to get girls interested in him.
I geuss he could just be a lying sleze ball too.

Women could just say "feeling horny" on any social media and get 100 replies in less than an hour, it's not hard for women to get it.

Really there is no reason for the double standard, it's just rude people spueing hate.

There nothing wrong with women sleeping around.
I would never shame a woman for having a lot of sex.
I might get but hurt or jealous that a girl willing to sleep with almost any guy won't sleep with me, but that's her right.

Nothing wrong with girls sleeping around casually, if you want to, go for it, have fun.

jshm2 · Answer

The same reason you would call a door lock that gets opened easily a "shitty lock". But a key that opens many locks a "master key".

It's not that the slut girls are "easy" for the boys. But that they will put out to some trashy guys. But usually its just boys negging and being mean to a girl who won't put out. Hence the importance of being verbally astute in the face of such behaviour.

One of my female school friends clapped back hard to a sucker who called her a "slut" for turning him down. She came back with "That's, no way to talk to your stepmother, you little shit!" Not only did it crush the whelp as his father was going through a divorce. But I don't think he ever recovered from a girl claiming his wife and son beating father, was something she "preferred".

I don't think he finished the term, not sure if he committed suicide or was moved to another school. It was a long while back. He wasn't part of my group, or in the circle of popular kids in others.

Kaneki05 · Answer

Because gender equality don't exist yet. And probably gonna be that way for ages.

Ripper_E · Answer

What are you talking about? Guys don't go praising random guys over that. We don't even care.
Friends might do that. Assholes might do that. I'm not going to high five another guy because he tells me he had sex with 4 women at the same time or something.

Underworld158 · Answer

Well women better ask themselves those questions. I have heard more women in my life calling eachothers slut than men doing it. I can recall many incidents were I heard a woman whispering about another woman entering the room.”oh look at her how she dresses. She looks like a total skank” never in my life I heard a guy saying that about a woman who he just saw or met.

es20490446e · Answer

I don't see why a sane person would want to fuck ANY other human, and take pride for it. Meanwhile staying single forever. To me half assed people.

JKingOff · Answer

It's called a double standard. "A key that can open any lock it's called a master key, but a lock that can be opened up by any key is just a shity lock."

RobMartin90 · Answer

It’s all about male chauvinist pigs

BimboMaker · Answer

Take the word slut as a compliment simple as that

KrakenAttackin · Answer

OMG... This tired, old, exhausting question.

GreenGold1992 · Answer

I don't know, but that is very hypocritical

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Men who have lots of sex are highly desirable to women. Women who have lots of sex are undesirable to men. That explains everything.

JamesBlackDragon · Answer

when a guy do it and brag to his guy friends about it more than likely he will get praised

if a girl do it and brag to her girl friends about it she will more than likely get shamed that's the only difference

A lot of men will shame a woman if she does it

A lot of women will shame a man if he does it

So in conclusion my honest belief is the main factor is other women shaming women

Not to say that some guys don't shame other guys is just not as much as women shaming women

Sabretooth · Answer

neither should get praise. to be honest, i think girls are treated better-imagine having your life destroyed by lies.

Aloneguy34 · Answer

İ dont knoe why we are

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