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Guys, would this make you instantly lose interest in a girl?

I've been hooking up with a guy for a few weeks now. At first it was fun, but just this week I felt him lose interest a little bit, and he texted me last night at 9pm to come over at 1am, which made me feel like a major booty call. I was already disinterested, and on top of that there are random days where he sucks in bed, and last night was one of them. All he wants is oral sex, he won't fuck me, and won't even make out with me - when we have sex or makeout passionately sometimes, he loses his erection, when it's usually the opposite. I think he may have a case of ED or something. I love passion, making out, connection, hot intimate sex, and at one point I had been giving him a BJ for almost 30 minutes with a sore neck and I noticed he wasn't even fully hard (he's 40). At this point I was honestly bored and turned off - I invited him over to spend time with him, or fuck him, not just give him a blowjob all night. I went to the bathroom and when I came back out I told him I had to go to bed, because I honestly couldn't fathom the idea of sucking his dick for one more second without throwing up, and that seemed the only way he would get hard last night.

After I'd told him I have to go to bed, he ended up respecting what I said and got dressed right away, and seemed to feel weird that I told him that because he had come over to hook up. I ended up kissing him while naked and initiated sex again, taking control and trying to have him do things to turn me on like grab my neck, make out with me, get on top of me, and again all he wanted was for me to suck his dick. We ended up 69ing and he came pretty quickly and left right after.

I shouldn't care because he should be the one embrassed for not being able to give me normal sex, but do you think he totally lost interest by this? I don't know if I should have been more clear and told him that I'm not just into the stuff he is, and I need more?

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  • While I sympathize with you I’m more intrigued by something you said.

    What is “normal” sex? Vaginal penetration?

    Is sodomy or two guys railing each other up the butt “normal sex”?

    Now, back to your problem/issue. I would say that this man is a selfish lover. Never mind that MAYBE he has some ED issues (these can be addressed, a BIG change is just doing regular cardio.) I don’t have problems with ED but I swear when I do more cardio I wake up rock hard. It’s all about blood circulation and blood pressure—and of course the mental side of things (anxiety, worry about performance etc.)

    But let’s forget all that. He’s still a selfish lover. Women like to be kissed and caressed and practically their whole body is an erogenous zone. They like oral sex and to have their clit played with, among other things.

    And what does this guy do? It’s all one sided. He just keeps shoving his cock in your face or pushing your head towards it.

    This isn’t going to improve. Why? You’re just some girl he is sleeping with. A friends with benefits. You’re not in a relationship and there is no love involved. So he has no incentive to do better, to please you, since this situatuinship is purely transactional. He doesn’t carry about your happiness or contentment. He doesn’t even care about you cumming. He just wants to bust a nut, use your mouth for a hole, and toddle off to wherever he lives.

    Look, I’m not against friends with benefits. I’ve had f ew myself, but BOTH people have to enjoy it and get SOMETHING out of it.

    With my last friends with benefits she’d come over to my condo, I’d cook us dinner, we may watch a little tv or a movie, and then screw like rabbits. I’d usually make her cum 2-3 times, and then I’d walk her to her car, kiss her goodnight, and then we’d maybe get together later next week. We genuinely enjoyed each other’s company and had fantastic sex.

    Are you getting ANYTHING like that with this guy?

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  • interest can fade fairly quickly. It is called the Coolidge effect. In this case it seems to be more rapid than might be expected.

    Since he came over at 1 am, he might have had one or two girls before you and not been at the top of his game. Given the 1 am, i am thinking this is the case.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • No, ma'am, it wouldn't. However, I'm a little bit different from most guys, because I don't consider a relationship successful unless she is very satisfied in all aspects of the relationship.

    • I just started following you and I'd like to invite you to follow me as well, if that's alright. Thank you very much.

  • Just spinds like he uses u to cum not because he wants to make u feel pleasure also

    • Sounds*

  • If she said she has an active STD.

  • He could be suffering from ED and should discuss it with his doctor. Aside from that, if he's selfish in bed and you aren't happy with that or the relationship in general, it's time for you to move on.

  • He’s probably getting ED because it sounds like neither of you are emotionally invested and these hookups are just friends with benefits.

  • She's a slut

  • Her attitude and loosing energy.

    • What does this mean?

  • He seems to only get turned on certain ways and is a selfish lover by not doing anything for you, if he has ED then tell him to get the pills for that and do more with you

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