Had a threesome, now I'm in a sticky situation?

[Anonymous]

Me and my long-term boyfriend been together over 4 years
We wanted to spice things up
So we went on a dating app and searched for someone to have a 3some with

We already done it with a girl
Just for one night and its done

So looking for a guy next

We came across this HOT guy
Started chatting to him
My boyfriend is not gay but he approves since he wants to make me happy/satisfied

We met up with the guy
And he looks better in person
He was down for a 3some
So came back to our place
And we did it

This happened few weeks ago
And now this guy been texting me everyday
Sometimes calling me out of the blue
And I feel like he's now obsessed with me

Should I tell my boyfriend?
What should I do?

[Finchie40]

Don’t tell your boyfriend just end it with the 3rd wheel , block him if he doesn’t take no for an answer , it sounds like he is trying to win you over your boyfriend , that’s why 3spmes are bad when you are in a serious relationship , even though you both agrees on it , it can cause conflict in the relationship, why it’s best to have 3somes with No strings attached with people you aren’t in a committed relationship with

[Apope16]

He think he is better than your boyfriend because most ladies like him. So now he thinks he can move in on your relationship and take you away. You gotta tell your boyfriend. I personally think threesomes are dumb. just drama.

[Flower7]

This is just the type of things that happen with threesomes, which is why I don't think they're a good idea for people in relationships. But as far as your poll, I picked that you should just block and delete the guy. That way you can just move on, without making your boyfriend jealous.

[Wheresthebooze]

Tell him to stop trying to contact you and black his number. Be straight up. It was hook up, no need to spare his feelings.

[Curiousgirl122101]

Honestly your boyfriend has been there longer. So you know he will be there for you. Block that guy

[summiter]

Tell your boyfriend and also delete the guy unless you want another 3some. How was the sex?

[Mishan97]

You don’t need to tell your boyfriend. It’ll only make him feel insecure and there’s no point in rubbing it in his face. You should definitely block the dude cause you’re attracted to him and he’s attracted to you so that’s a recipe for an affair. You had your fun, now focus on the man you’re in love with. If the roles were reversed and a very attractive women you had a threesome with started texting your man all the time, you’d want him to cut contact too, right? So, just do the right thing because at the end of the day your boyfriend is someone you’ve invested a lot of time and energy in and you don’t want to throw that all away for temporary attention from some random attractive guy

[BeardedNerd24]

Communication is key in relationships

[Paige90]

Was the sex good with him? Did he wear a condom or cum inside you? Did he spend the night with both of you?

[AJ2992]

If you entertaine the new guy you might feel amazing for a while as everything will be new.. but are you willing to experience that on cost of your 4 years relationship.. also why to get stucked with one guy when u can explore multiple experience.. don't settle..

[theChineseWASP]

You should just let him phase off...

[LucieLou]

Sorry this happened! Guy seems a bit too intense lol. What is the app that you were using?

[Alexandrubaschet08]

tell you're boyfriend and block him imidietly afther

[broken_heart_at_48]

Sounds like there's more to this story and there's possibly a reason why you don't want to tell your boyfriend. It's been a few weeks and dudes texting you everyday and even calling randomly. Didn't you and your boyfriend talk about something like this happening and how to handle it? Anyways you should of responded once and politely reminded him you're in a relationship and it was just a one time thing or whatever the case may be and then told your boyfriend first chance and you guys could of decided how to handle it together. Because from the info you give here it's looking like you weren't being loyal to your man. You guys had sex or you did with this guy so since there's already been sex just simply talking or texting with him is much worse than a situation without already having sex I mean change it up put him in the exact same situation with the chick you had the 3some with and you find out weeks later. Have you been erasing the texts? If you have you fucked up and you know you've done wrong it's hard to get that kind of trust back sometimes

[Double_D_Light]

something similar happened to me... me and my boyfriend had a threesome first with a guy than a woman

[Richard-Tilburg]

Both. You have a strong relationship, he has to know why you do not want to meet that guy again. 😇

[Aakash_Hangargi]

You should not called him to your own place it's risky to give location
Please do inform your boyfriend or he might think something is going in between you guys
Talk to the third party his services are not required that to be firm

[KiaTate]

You should tell your boyfriend.

[willisg]

Your boyfriend was to have control of the agreement. Why the hell did you give him your number in the first place !

[Jamie05rhs]

Oooo. Y'all fucked up.

[MysteriousDarkness]

I say tell your band block the other guy.

[Erica1]

You have to tell your boyfriend.

[rvarela]

Tell your man.

[pizzalovershouse]

First of all never do something to try it viz of it sounds fun most regret that I've never tried it or would try it dud to if you really card for some 1 you only want them not some 1 elsd an as for the gug tell him you will get cops involed if he keeps it up tell cops an boy friend

[Twalli]

You should also block that guy, but if you did it in your residence he may try to "visit" in person.

[OddBeMe]

Do both. Your boyfriend sounds pretty cool. I wouldn’t want to have a 3 way with another guy. Did the guys do anything with each other?

[Guardian45]

If the guy is after you, and your not interested tell him 'No'. If necessary, block him. If necessary, call the police.

[najekim]

Both options.

[msc545]

Don't tell your boyfriend - that will just make it worse.

[scooogy]

Had with this my exes. For years. Every. Single. Time. Welcome to my world :)

[Numbnuts89]

Now you know why having threesomes are immoral

[Wheresthebooze]

When a couple mutually agrees to engage in a threesome it's not immoral. Immoral would be if one of them were cheating. Don't be such a drama queen

[MrTaboo]

Do all three

[Smirnoff23]

Don't hide it... It could ruin your relationship

[hamadazopry]

Tell your boyfriend, but he will not be interested to know 😏

[slicwhenwet]

Be honest with the one you love and tell him what you want from this. Like you want to do it again or want the dude to bugger off. Communication is Best

[more_than_a_guy]

It's his right to know!

[Cryptic-Game]

Tell your boyfriend.

[Jmmmfi4]

Just block him

[Hotboy_booblover]

Really Strange...

[Romeocuck]

Of course tell your boyfriend or you might lose it all. Since honesty is the foundation of any relationship especially romantic one

[Anonymous]

First tell the guy you're not interested and he needs to stop contacting you. Then block/delete.

[Anonymous]

I had a similar thing but I ended up with the other guy

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Why if I may ask you why you chose the second guy against your husband or boyfriend

[Opinion Owner]

@Aakash_Hangargi it was a sexual awakening for me. I didn't know sex could be that good.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

But I feel for the guy who gave so much freedom but what to do it what it is can't judge anyways it's maybe for better all the best to you for future

[Aakash_Hangargi]

It is what it is*

[Opinion Owner]

@Aakash_Hangargi well the new guy didn't like sharing

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Is he is your current guy right and your happy? That's all matters and did the previous guy suggested threesome or it was your idea?

[Anonymous]

I honestly find it really strange that a guy/boyfriend would agree to a threesome with another male just to "please" you, so for you to put him in that situation seems kinda selfish

But though I can"t comprehend why, because it'd seriously repulse me to be in a sexual situation with any male, maybe he has some inner bi-sexual cravings, or is at least bi

I suggest you tell your boyfriend, because if somehow he connects with that guy he could find out he's obsessed with you and then might lose all trust in you

Also, why not block the other guy !!!

[Opinion Owner]

> at least bi-curious

[Asker]

How is it selfish? Did u not read my post properly? We doing this for each other We had a 3some with another woman To please my boyfriend

[Asker]

Now it was my turn So we picked a guy this time And had 3some Thats not selfish at all

[Asker]

My boyfriend is not gay. He didn't do anything with the other guy. Im bisexual I like women too.. just for fun But like men more

[Anonymous]

What's really important is putting a stop to that shit ASAP.
If it was just a one time thing then just put a stop to it. Regardless of whether you tell the boyfriend, just cut that other guy out.
If it was mean to be more than one time, then you should still probably cut him out and find someone who can keep an appropriate distance.
The fact that you felt the need to point out his hotness is a bad sign. Block that dude.

[Anonymous]

Befire telling your boyfriend. I would make it clear to the guy that you aren't interested in him, you don't want anything else etc. And you just want to be with your boyfriend. And dont reply to any texts back after that.

If he keeps on texting you still after that. I would tell your boyfriend and you can show him that you made an effort to get him to fk off.

[Anonymous]

Why would you not do all of the above? I mean, it's not like you've done anything wrong, I wouldn't even consider not telling my guy, if something like this happened. Plus blocking the guy etc.

[Anonymous]

Your Bad See this is why I don't do this kind of stuff And I sure as heck wouldn't do a threesome