Has anyone had a friends with benefits relationship?

[Cute_potato01]

[Chilipepper]

There is nothing wrong with it. It can be very satisfying as long as both of you are on the same page. Its hard to stay on the same page as one person usually develops feelings. Once that happens, a decision must be made to take it to the next level or just walk away.

I am in a friends with benefits right now that is a pefect situation. I am recently widowed and I'm not in a mental state to connect in a deep relationship but i still have needs. She is younger than me and in between boyfriends. She likes that I have experience in life and in the bedroom. We both know that one of us will find another soon (more than likely her). We will thank each other for being the right person for each other's needs at that time and walk away. We will also always keep that door open if the opportunity arises in the future.

[Leapfrog00]

I've had plenty of them. I got so tired of cheaters and girls not knowing what they want, the sex fills the void, somewhat. It beats getting your heart broken and missing someone for who know how long.

There are downsides. The companionship is based on just sex most of the time. I think I've only actually hung out with a couple girls i was hooking up with.

It's also great for when you're not in a relationship and you still get horny. Sex is a human need and friends with benefits takes care of that.

It's nice, but it doesn't beat a real relationship.

[SueShe]

You mean somebody to fornicate and copulate?

No, I never had any, don't have any and do certainly not plan to have any. It is not the kind of setting that would motivate me. It is way too dangerous. I only have one single health and live and have no intentions to jeopardize it just for a few spasms and muscular contractions.

It does not bring anything satisfying and honestly, I find it a total waste of time and energy. I do have other priorities that are much more satisfying in life.

I personally find that kind of "relationship" very superficial and does not really serve any purpose.

[smilelots]

Hi SUEshe for some it does serve a purpose,, it gives them relief and a partner for a few hours or mins.. not every one is suited for a long term relationship so this is a way of having some sex fun or what ever you want to call it with others.. Its not for everyone no most people no.. Im the type that wants love and all that goes with it but at my age its could be a option.. smiles

[SueShe]

Thanks for the MHO

[Cute_potato01]

No probs

[Anemone978]

No but I fooled around with a guy believing he was gonna be my boyfriend, but he just liked to call me whenever he wanted sex, so I only hung out with him 2 times. Once was just kissing, second time was more, but he continued to called/text me for 6 months tho I turned him down every time.. now he finally doesn't call anymore because I said no I want a boyfriend I am not gonna fuck you lol We still text when he tries to use me for other things.. I guess I pity him and he sort of feels like a little brother to me plus he owes me so I don't block him...

[WriterDreams]

It is rather what I'm in now. Sort of. Lord it is completcated. However it has changed my mindset on the topic. If both are pre warned and both remain honest I don't see it as a problem. Everyone is different.

[PositiveFlight]

Friends with benefits is the most absurd and irresponsible set of ideas I’ve heard of in a long time! I constantly see questions on this website asking about why someone has feelings for their friends with benefits. Well gee I wonder why! 🤔 You are engaging in the most intimate and romantic act known in this universe which is designed to connect a man and woman together. Study up on just one of the biochemicals involved called oxytocin. At some point, one or both will have feelings for the other. It’s inevitable unless you just aren’t human! Being in a friends with benefits relationship and not wanting to have feelings or fall in love while engaging in sexual acts designed to solidify love and feelings is akin to saying I want to go swimming but not get wet!

[PizzaDaddyo]

It’s not the best, no matter what. The best thing you can do and go far is a one night stand and end it immediately. This way, you won’t get mentally attached or fall in love. You are only really hurting yourself or the other person in the long run.

[RobT312]

Yes I have had this work successfully twice. In between relationships I had a friends with benefits. It was understood that we both wanted to hang as friends and have some sex as we weren’t ready for a relationship. Eventually she found a boyfriend and I found a girlfriend.

recently my best friend broke up with his girlfriend and wanted some love. He asked my fiancée and i for a threesome, and we let him join us in bed.

so I think sex only relationships can work if that’s the mutual understanding

[ArrowheadSW]

No, not really. I started to in college before I was even familiar with that term "friends with benefits". We somewhat made it clear that we wouldn't get too involved emotionally since college was a lot of stress and we didn't need to be overly involved. It did NOT work for even a short time.

[Lowiu]

Yes for some time

[Arik_jade]

@Lowiu how's your experience

[Lowiu]

@Arik_jade It was very nice

[Lowiu]

@king34 you're only jealous it wasn't you

[mandyfire98]

@Lowiu He's a known troll. Just report him and block him.

[king34]

nah i feel bad for you thats all.

[mandyfire98]

Nope you're a troll and have already been reported. You've trolled multiple women on here already on this question alone calling them sluts and whores. So fuck around and find out.

[king34]

tell this chick who blocked me that i can't see her replies

[rachel776]

yes and they have worked out because we stick to the rules

[Arik_jade]

That's great... r u living together

[rachel776]

@Arik_jade no then they wouldn't be friends with benefits they would be boyfriends

[Arik_jade]

Ohk...

[digitalguy01]

@rachel776 What should be the rules

[Arik_jade]

Putting a commitment over something that should not be done in any case

[summiter]

Of course several times. Sometimes it was just fun to have a friend that you liked and enjoyed having a lot of sex with. Have you been in one? How did that go?

[LazerBean]

Gross, no.

[spartan55]

Don't do it, don't do it, don't do it. Girls almost always end up getting hurt.

[mandyfire98]

A few

[Arik_jade]

What about you... if you don't mind... u can inbox

[king34]

That's why no man's gonna love you.

[mandyfire98]

I've had the love of men and women already in my life. I currently have the love of both men and women so try again lol.

[FreyaRed]

I had "benefits" without being friends.

[OfMiceandMen]

Once, she was 26 and it was her idea. I thought it was more than that at first and once I found out (told me later on), I said I could not keep seeing her.

My only reservation about something like that is her having more than one person in the queue. She preferred unprotected sex, which is a no.. no for me, if she has multiple partners.

[Justmeagain1]

Yes I hated it. I felt worthless

[Bricealan]

I did on two occasions and screwed it up both times with my own bungling I didn't not go into detail, but just leave it at that, and if you are two inept at keeping it together, don't start it... as it can be a disaster, if it goes bad.

[Simslover92]

Twice. The first time ended pretty badly and the second one ended with me being his girlfriend!

[king34]

Be ashamed

[Simslover92]

I'm not lol

[Simslover92]

Because I had sex before marriage?

[king34]

I mean sex before marriage is very bad. but at least if it was a boyfriend or a committed relationship it would be somewhat dignified. friends with benefits is just dirty. You might as well hit the streets and at least get paid for being a thot. i know your type. You chick's are the worst.

[Simslover92]

Lmao you don't know me. I am far from a thot. I've only ever been with two guys and with both I wanted a relationship with them. They wanted the friends with benefits. I never wanted that. I wanted to be with them. So you don't know what the fuck you're talking about.

[Simslover92]

Sorry I got a little heated but you really need to stop with the judging.

[Simslover92]

And I am with the current friends with benefits. We are together now.

[smilelots]

@king34 be nice

[mandyfire98]

@Simslover92 He's a known incel and troll. Just report him and block him.

[smilelots]

@king34 dont be so cruel be nice ,,

[Simslover92]

@mandyfire98 ok will do!

[Dargil]

Another poster said "You mean somebody to fornicate and copulate?"
That's not what a real friends with benefits is. That's a hook-up, "fukk buddy" or some such. friends with benefits are friends first and will conform to the informal rules of friendship. If they find that are mutually agreeable, it may grow into sexual intimacy.

[sheikalana]

I did in the past for almost five years and I do not recommend it to anyone. I think is toxic AF.

[PolkSallad]

Yess

[Chelsdope0]

Yes and no