Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health Because I think this is what my boyfriend feels. He always says how pretty I am and "how much he admires my beauty" but when it comes to sex I don't feel that he is too attracted to me.
First of all, I am the one who initiates sex most of the time, he hardly ever makes the first move, which deeply annoys me, because this way I can't feel myself pretty and attractive for him. I know that there is nothing wrong with it if a girls initiates sex sometimes. But not every time! I want to be seduced by him and I want to feel myself a woman. But this way I can't really feel that way. I have already spoken to him about this, but he didn't change anything.
Secondly, I am afraid that we don't have that so-called "chemistry" between us. I want sex to be wilder, rougher and more passionate. I want to know that he loves my body. But he always wants to take it slow and gentle, which is good, but for me it is too boring to have sex like this all the time. I told him to get a little bit wilder and more rough, but he said that he won't because he never does. He claimed that he liked to involve feelings in sex, as well. I do, too! But I want some passion, too. He doesn't seem to understand. I give him blowjobs every single time, that he really enjoys, but he never really does the same to me... He doesn't kiss my breasts either, even though it would turn me on really much.
My previous boyfriend always kissed me all over my body, and he didn't only say compliments about my looks, but his actions actually proved that he loved my body and was attracted to me.
So I came to the conclusion, that even if my boyfriend finds me pretty, he is not attracted to me sexually. Do you think I am right or am I misunderstanding him? Maybe we simply don't match? I guess he might have a different "style" of having sex, but somehow it can't really satisfy me. And I am afraid, I can't satisfy him either because of my different desires. Help me please! What could I do now? I feel I've tried everything. Shall I ignore my desires and just have sex the way he wants?
Has it ever happened to you that you found a person really pretty, but somehow you were not attracted to them sexually?
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One more thing: I danced ballet and did rhytmic gymnastics since I was 4, so I'm petite. I have small boobs and small butt, but my butt isn't that bad because it's not flat. It's small, but round. But my boyfriend always says that I should gain weight because I'm "too skinny", which isn't true. I'm fit and healthy in my opinion. And my parents say that my weight is normal. He says that if I gained weight, maybe my boobs would get bigger, too... But I don't want that. I'm satisfied with my body..
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I am still confused. Yesterday we had sex 3 times and he initiated two of them, woow!!:)) And he kept saying that he "admires how beautiful, exotic and graceful I am." But other times he doesn't seem to be so into me! Now what? Now I have literally no idea what is going on!:(
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8 27u have a non-masculine boyfriend - good look, but asexual. A baby face probably.
yeah when you look like a little girl.
But I don't look like a little girl
Happens all the time. I see no future in such relationships, though.
You gotta talk to him about it, there's something wrong here. Maybe he's just not that experienced in sex, maybe he only cares about his sexual desires not yours. Figure out what is wrong, perhaps he doesn't even find you attractive or has some emotional problem with you. Hopefully you can work it out, if not perhaps you need to move on.
Well duh. There are tons of hot people but that doesn't mean i want to do them all
heppens all the time :D
I think you've got the right idea here... dull sex sucks. It should be like a roller coaster -- up and down, maybe a few loops. Spend some time upside down. And definitely, DEFINITELY that amazing feeling you get when going down -- see what I did there?
Yup!
Some people have great character traits or personalities.
Others have beautiful faces, but are a little on the chobby side.
Unfortunately one of those girls got married to someone, then decided to run, and now looks like a hot babe in great shape!
Yeah I have.
Never like you describe. If I want sex with a woman I feel like I want to eat her up, to kiss and lick every inch of her.