Have you and a partner discussed what would happen if they ignore the safe word?

What would you do if they did not stop when you gave the safe word?
I honestly dont believe in the safe word shit. I’ve had some pretty traumatizing sexual stuff happen in my past, so if i say stop and you keep going, I’m just gonna hit ya ass over the head lmao. Like gtfo me. Its bout to be a hillbilly moment up in dis bit!! #FeelFreeToList
Have you and a partner discussed what would happen if they ignore the safe word?
Have you and a partner discussed what would happen if they ignore the safe word?
Have you and a partner discussed what would happen if they ignore the safe word?
Have you and a partner discussed what would happen if they ignore the safe word?
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I say push their ass off, ladies and gentleman 🤷‍♀️
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Okay so i fucked this question all kinds of up 🤣 Im not into bdsm/rough shit, So apparently “safe word” was not the right terminology. I’m basically just asking if you said STOP and your partner didn't, then what would you do? I only said “safe word” because people get confused by the “stop/dont stop/keep going” shit apparently. I don't know how but yea
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  • No, but a guy I was with complete ignored it. We spoke about it before hand, because he was pretty big and I was a little scared of his size. (He made me measure him, he was more than 9" long and about 6.25" around. Yes, these guys are out there, some of you guys need to deal with it.) He's about 6'5", well built, and as I just stated, long. So he could put me in whatever position, and really get slamming. I didn't want that, as no one I've been with was even close to his length, although I've been with people close to his girth, but he was still the thickest. For me, he is huge.

    Once in a while, when we were in a position where he could go deep, he'd give me a deep stab and just hold it in. It really hurt, and I screamed every time for him to stop. and I would move around to get away.
    Then he started rubbing my clit to make me cum a bunch of times, but he wouldn't give me a break when I couldn't take it, so I had to kick off of him, or fall/jump/turn away from him to escape.

    Even though he made me cum, he really hurt me a lot.
    I was really into him, so we had sex again, but I had a frank discussion with him about how much it hurt.
    Apparently, hurting me is what got him off. When we started doggy, he bent me over the edge of bed, put his hands on my shoulders, leaned his weight into them, and he started pounding. It was extremely painful, and I kept telling him that it hurt. He didn't stop, so I just waited for him to be done. Before we started, I told him he could cum on my body, but not my hair, face, or inside my body. So, of course, he came inside of me, grabbed his penis to stop his cum mid orgasm, and put the rest on the back of my head in my hair.

    I hate him, and never called him again.

    • Yea my diest ex grew to 9.1 and we were only 15 but always measured with the ruler so i believe you. Wow him hurting you and whats got him off! He is worse than my ex! Never call him again. I don't know if you ever read my mytakenbut man thats awful

  • LOL D! No. I think I've been married too long. If my husband does something that would require me to need a safe word, he'd better make sure his bags are packed.

    • I know thats right 🤣

    • Re update: I'd be swearing words my husband has never heard before and I guarantee he would not get confused and think I was talking dirty. Life as he knows it would cease to exist. 😈

    • Lol you're so amazing

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  • Agreed with description.
    I’ll say it, and I’ll say it again while hitting you upside the head. 🤣

    • Hahaha! I told one ex to stop and he claimed he didn't hear me. I molly whopped that mf. I bet he heard the sound of a smack upside his head

    • You go girl!!! 😂

  • Jail time!

    • Damn 💀

    • But first, my father will beat him.

    • Lmao i bet

  • No we never had a safe word. We just respect one another.
    we discussed this before a threesome however and all agreed to stop if someone wanted to stop. none of us used it and we didn’t talk about what would happen if it was t respected. I think it was a given that we would all respect it

    • Yea some people dont follow through

  • It would break trust totally, could be the end of a relationship.

    you say you don’t do safe words, what happens when you have problems breathing, in a huge amount of pain from say a rope slipping.

    People can and do die with some BDSM activities.

    As well as trust in a relationship, there is this thing called honesty, this is where both agree to stop when the other says stop, visually indicates or if safe word and uses it.

    i would be close to finishing a relationship if my partner did not tell me to stop if she was in distress.

    Safe words are only really used if entering CNC, until then ‘fucking stop’ works pretty well.

    Going on past someone indicating visually or verbally is pretty much rape or sexual assault.

    I can’t find the link but a girl died or was badly injured (brain damage) when her partner used a pair of her panties to push into her mouth, some of the material (a bow?) came of and she choked on it, her partner said he thought it was part of the role play.

    having thought about it, yes it would be end of relationship, either keeping going or not being honest when it was too much, it destroys trust.

    • So is safe words only for bdsm stuff? I just meant sex in general Lmao

    • @dizzydesii someone using a safe word in vanilla sex has watched too much porn 😂😂 The entire reason for a safe word is so you can say ‘no’ but really mean keep going. Someone using No with normal sex is showing a porn mentality lol. Why use if for normal sex lol best laugh had in ages it’s like a school thing doing that lol

    • I don't know im confused af tbh 🤣 I just wanted to know what people would do if they wanted the person to stop and they didn't. I thought safe word meant stop so i just said safe word in the question lol

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  • I never had a safe word I had a password for my safe or maybe my safe word would have been get the fuck out of my safe LOL
    The safe word is hey I don't like this or something is wrong wait a minute it doesn't have to be a word I would be able to just look into her eyes and see something was wrong and is called get the brakes quickly Jet Li find out what's wrong I don't think it's something has to get out of control and you need a word to reel it back in because there's no way that I would let it get out of control there's no reason to ever go there

  • Yeah I'm the same stop is stop and there is no other safe word for me and I actually never had a discussion like that with anyone

    • Yea its hectic

  • there was no discussion... just understanding

    also... she (her family) had plenty of farm lands around Mexico, had I ever done something stupid like that I would be a tree today... lol

    • What about if you told her to stop and she didn't

    • well, that's tricky... because I'm one of those that refrains from having a safe word, lol I don't have one for myself and I'm willing and aware of what it implies... that's why I am very selective about my partners on all things and situations... I'm about absolute trust and commitment, and I know who and what with I can trust you... or anyone, and I never really felt in danger or in need for an escape but taking advantage of someone is different, that, is not happening... I would just not stand for it and that would be dealt with asap, and accordingly but again, I have not had anything like that before

    • Yea i got taken advantage of and this was with people i dated longterm so you just never know now a days

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  • Personally, I've never ignored the safe word. I like to believe that safe word is a form of trust from both sides, as if one calls it out, the one should stop with whatever they're doing.

    • But what would you do if she didn't stop

    • To be honest, I'm okay with leaving my comfort zone regarding sex, so I can tolerate a lot of stuff. It would really have to be something super weird/extreme to make me say the safe word.

  • Safe word?
    What are we talking about?

    • Anything sexual. Not just rough stuff

  • Yeap. It's not a good outcome.

    • Good lol

  • Depending on how it felt obviously the safe words there to stop and if they didn't stop then I would have to say the trust is broken

    • I agree

  • I mean, a safe word, it's in the word, it's meant to keep you safe. It's not cheating but it's still a violation of trust. I don't know what would happen, break up maybe even?

    • Yea especially if it happened more than once

    • I wouldn't leave that to chance

    • Once and it's over, doesn't matter who makes the mistake

  • Nope can't say I have.

  • Stop means stop and no means no, if they keep going after you tell them not to that is called rape.

    • Yepp

  • I've never been with a partner who didn't know that if the safe word is ignored, I will never see them again, and I might press charges.

    • Thats good

    • That it is.

  • Wouldn't need a safe word, not into bsdm, and the whole idea is that me and her can have access to eachother's bodies for sexual purposes whenever we feel like it, for however long we feel like. I wouldn't click well with a girlfriend who isn't that type of person.

  • I'll be sure to discuss it if I ever actually get that far with someone. I need to actually have someone first though

    • I understand

  • If you don't have a safe word you are playing a very dangerous game. When you say you are just going to hit someone, that is not always possible. Maybe you are tied up and can't hit them. Maybe you are gagged. They're always have to be some way for you to communicate. And if they don't listen to you you could be in very serious danger. If you do get out of it you should never play with them again.

    • Im saying for sexual stuff in general. “Stop” should be enough

    • Depends on how you play. If you're doing any kind of BDSM you absolutely positively need a safe word and better than that a safe signal. And better than that someone that you know and trust. Otherwise, you could end up worse than severely injured.

    • Im not into bdsm and stuff lmao

  • If you use a safe word with a partner, someone isn't submitting fully and someone isn't really in control. Either you trust someone, or you don't. If you go to a "Pro" whom you've never met or barely know, then it's necessary.

    • I just meant for sex in general not like crazy bdsm stuff

    • Huh? Who needs a "safe word" for general sex? LOL

    • I dont. I just say stop.

  • Yeah from the first few dates after many times having sex you kinda get used to

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