Have you ever been selfish sexually?

Question

Like received oral without reciprocating, orgasming without making your partner orgasm...

Gwenhwyfar · Accepted Answer

Yes but if they’re my partner I never do that unless they’re cool with it. If they’re just a hookup I usually don’t care that much.

sometimes being selfish is fun and relaxing. And a lot of guys love making a girl cum.

Scutie · Accepted Answer

No, but guys do that haha

MrOracle · Answer

Sure... but it's been at her preference. A few girls have been super into giving oral, for example, and would want to do so all the time.

It's also happened the other way many times - where I'd please her just because I wanted to, without anything in return. I've virtually never been denied sex when I wanted it (from girlfriends), so there's no pressure to make me feel like I HAD to get sex just because I was pleasing her in that moment.

KirstenKitty · Answer

I was with a guy about a year or so ago that liked that sort of thing. He liked being brought right to the brink and then stopping. He said it was a fetish-like thing to be controlled and denied. Never seen someone cum that much when he finally jerked off.

NamerOfStars · Answer

This is a very weird sentence, but- only in absolute terms.

What's the dividing line between one sexual encounter and another, especially if it's played back and forth across an entire day? If she wants you to tease her, bringing her right up to the edge only to back down, again and again, building the desire and intensity, until you finally bring her off in a finish that leaves her twitching like a freshly caught salmon, are you being selfish? On the other side of the coin, are you being selfish if you INSIST that no, you are going to sleep now, even after she declares she WILL NOT LET YOU GO until she cracks the secret of multi-orgasmic blowjobs? Or when she doesn't notice her verbal slip-up in describing the game rules "Okay, so for every match I win, you have to eat me out, and for every match you win, you have to go down on me, okay?" and you insist that she sticks to them? And then she decides that only oral sex can defeat oral sex, and she'll blow you until you're unable to lick her anymore?

I've dated some really weird girls, haven't I?

All the sex I've ever had has been in relationships, and I think that influences my attitudes on the matter. If you don't get off in one particular encounter, that's okay; you'll go twice in the next one. And I think that one of the best points in a relationship is when you stop keeping score. When she (or he, I suppose, but I only have the experience I have) stops feeling guilty because "oral's just foreplay, and you didn't get off", and accepts that sometimes it's just about one person's body, and that's okay. When it ceases to be about who deserves what, and just focuses on making each other feel good. You start deriving pleasure from their pleasure, and come to feel, even if you can't articulate it, how ALLOWING someone to give you oral sex can actually be a favor to THEM, since it lets them experience the joy of making you feel so good. Damn, but I miss that feeling.

Losalt · Answer

Yes, I like female orgasm control and denial.
So her not orgasming and focusing on me is a turn on.
Honestly neither one of us are too hung up on orgasming when we're having fun.
We just enjoy ourselves and if something more happens it's a bonus. :-)

weysally · Answer

yes really selfish, we have been doing MFM's for a while so tried a FMF, things were going alright, but seeing as we had never done one before when my husband started to have full sex with my friend I felt left out, my husband noticed this and decided not to do another one

Red_Arrow · Answer

Nope. I always give her all the attention needed to make her orgasm!

Magnum615 · Answer

Nope, I tend to be the one to give without reciprocation. Not that I mind giving but it's nice to receive something once in a while.

elizamichale1 · Answer

no not really coz i love giving more than receiving but i did become mean few times by getting these guys ready to cum n then just leaving them there lol

es20490446e · Answer

No, that's disgusting.

Andres77 · Answer

I did a couple times when I was younger and new to sex. At first I felt guilt so I planned to not be selfish in the future... so I wouldn't feel bad. But then I started enjoying it when my partner came and I really enjoyed the enthusiasm and appreciation from her after so I changed my whole outlook.
Make her cum as much as I can before she insists that it's my turn, so I get to enjoy her pleasure and then she moves a little more to make mine better too.
It's an investment in her pleasure that really pays off.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Nope, was taught to give before I receive

OnTheLevel · Answer

I can't say it's never happened, but it's not a regular occurrence. Sometimes I'll ask my wife if she wants to 68... she blows me and I owe her one.

Jackson8650 · Answer

Unfortunately, when I was younger, I was almost all the time.

abc--123 · Answer

I have received blwojobs with nothing in return but I always offer but sometimes my girlfriend doesn't want anything in return, I think she uses blowjobs as a way to get out of having sex