Have you ever broken up with someone and gone for (or been approached by) their friend?

[DizzyDesii]

I’m watching this show and the kid is said his girl dumped him. He was like “I’m the one thats sad, she looks fine on social media. I liked a couple of her videos.” The dad was like “son don’t do that. You’re supposed to shop for a new outfit and then go for her best friend.” Its sad how many folks I know that have given this advice to others 😂

But I can’t even front, I’ve had my fair share of friends, cousins, brothers. I rarely do it as a revenge thing. I just simply liked them before I liked him. And now that we’re over 🤷‍♀️ Fair game right? Wrong. I always made this odd pact with my exes that we wouldn’t date nor sleep with eachothers friends/fam. I mean he still did. I just enjoyed making out, getting my t—ts sucked on and getting fingered. I ain't fck em tho 🤣 #FeelFreeToList

[ShiftingMonke]

Suffice to say, I have not directly targeted the friend of my ex. Even at my lowest moral state, even I thought that was off limits. I've also never been approached by the friend of an ex for a hookup or more; I had a fling who talked about me a lot to her friend, and after the fling got into a relationship, her friend asked if it was okay to pursue me and the former fling didn't care. I thought it was slightly awkward but only briefly before I was distracted by pelvic sorcery, as most young men are predisposed to do.

I've even gone so far as avoiding relationship or intimate moments with women who've been with my friends, brothers, enemies, etc. The criteria for a woman to have avoided being disappointed by me was long indeed. I just couldn't get over the mental image of being tunnel-buddies with someone I actively knew or worse, actively disliked.

[DizzyDesii]

Thats good to hear

[iron_ninjs]

Happened once. The two friends had a bet. And the " winner of the bet" would be the one to hit on me ( I didn't know about the bet until after the breakup). Thankfully, the girl that I liked, won the bet. After our breakup, her friend approached me. Said she liked me before the previous relationship. That they had a bet, her friend won, etc.
I politely declined the offer.

[DizzyDesii]

Sadly a lot of people are apart of bets and dont realize

[iron_ninjs]

Apparently. 😑 Just noticed your Spider Gwen pic. It's awesome.

[DizzyDesii]

Haha thanks :) it was my pfp back in like 2021

[iron_ninjs]

I see you're a superhero fan, considering the mytake about movies, and the profile pic.

[DizzyDesii]

Im a movie fan. Im very picky about my superheroes and really just like them based off who is portraying them. Not a fan of many but i like Human Torch (Chris Evans), Invisible Woman (Jessica Alba), Catwoman (Halle Berry), Domino (Zazie Beats), Spiderman (Tobey or Andrew), Superman (Tom Welling), Supergirl (Laura Vandervoort), Jean Grey (Sophie), Cyclops (James Marsden), Hulk (Eric Bana in appearance, Edward Norton in action), Thunder (Nafessa), The Flash (Grant Gustin), Arrow (Justin Hartley), Doctor Strange (Benedict Cumberbatch), Morbius (Jared Leto), Quicksilver (Taylor and Evan), Gambit (Taylor Kitsch), and Starfire (cartoon only). Very picky

[iron_ninjs]

Yeah, looks very picky.

[DizzyDesii]

Lmao i warned you

[iron_ninjs]

Lol you did.

[DizzyDesii]

So since i assume we disagree, who are your gave sup heroes

[DizzyDesii]

*favorite

[iron_ninjs]

We don't disagree that much I agree with most of your choices, especially the Fantastic 4 ones, because the new ones suck.

[DizzyDesii]

I wish they’d stop rebooting fantastic four. The first were amazing. The second set were so awful and it was boring to watch them battle on a planet the whole time. Im afraid of the third set coming out but im glad they removed Jim from the Office as Mr Fantastic 😂

[iron_ninjs]

If they wanna reboot something, they should make an online pole for an actor who should portray a certain character. So if a majority of the fans vote for someone, they have no right to complain. Or that's just how it should be ideally.

[DizzyDesii]

Omg yes! I’d freaking love that idea! I wish there was more viewer interaction where we could vote on the actor/actress, plot summary, setting, and outfit. But ig that takes away all the surprises they’d have in store for us haha

[iron_ninjs]

Well that's for the characters that are known to be in the movie. Like, if they make a new Fantastic 4 movie, you can vote for the actors for Mr Fantastic, Sue Storm, Johnny, and Ben.

[DizzyDesii]

At the moment i can't see anyone as them just because i’ve enjoyed whose played them from the get go. But i absolutely wouldve chosen different people for avengers and justice league

[iron_ninjs]

The first one I'd change in both those franchises is Ezra Miller as the Flash, and not because of the things most want him gone. It's because of the fact he doesn't fit the role in any aspect. The second one is the guy that plays Lex Luther in BvS

[DizzyDesii]

Omg yes! I personally love Grant as the flash. Ezra is better in dark roles like Fantastic Beasts. Making jesse be lex Luther was torture to watch. Such torture.

[iron_ninjs]

They should've cast Michael Rossenbaum ( forgot how to spell his last name) as Lex

[DizzyDesii]

Yea he will always be the only Lex in my eyes and Tom Welling will always be the only superman (well clark kent). But tom looks hella old now. As for lex, i think he was freat ad young lex gut he doesn't seem evil enough for the movies. They need to cast a psycho lol. Do you think JK Simmons (spiderman) or Billy Zane, Corey Stoll, Luke Goss or Mark Strong (kingsman)? Sorry if these are horrible ideas, i haven't thought it over, just naming bald dudes atp 🤣

[iron_ninjs]

There's always an option of someone with hair to play him, and shave. Simmons is too old, in my opinion. It needs to be someone who can play a cold-hearted psycho, who's arrogant. But there aren't many actors who can pull that off.

[DizzyDesii]

Noooo i wouldn't want a hairful man cutting off all his hair for a role. Being bald isn't all that cute and very few can pull it off.

[iron_ninjs]

Thank you for MHO

[RobT312]

Yes, a week after breaking up. I did not entertain it. I wasn’t ready for that, but there’s nothing wrong with people who do that in my opinion.

[DizzyDesii]

I mean its wrong but that dont mean it ain't fun 😂

[RobT312]

🤣🤣🤣. Agree, I just don’t think I could personally mentally do it

[lilyanony1]

Never

[Slingblade1126]

Twelve years ago, my wife and I had some things to work out. Nothing that involved cheating or dishonesty, more about my career path and family time. Anyway, she must have told her friend, because her friend called me and asked if I wanted to go out for some drinks and talk about it. Of course I said no but that bitch called ever day, then finally said, we should "hook up" since my wife and I were having problems. My wife and I never even thought about ending it, we just took some time to think things over and were fine. I thought about not telling her about it but I didn't want her crazy ass friend accusing me of anything out of anger 'cause I told her to get fucked! Of course their friendship ended.

[DizzyDesii]

So glad you told on her! That lady was awful

[Slingblade1126]

Yeah and it took my wife and I totally by surprise. We had known her for years. I think she kind of lost it after she went through a bad divorce.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

I tried to get her sister but then this other guy who was way more toxic than I was started flirting with her because he thought he was really hurting me and it made me lose interest.

They ended up having a very confusing relationship that creeped a lot of people out.

[DizzyDesii]

The fact you admitted to being toxic 🤣

[Telekinetic-Potato]

💀💀💀 I wanted to try it out

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

It happened once, although it wasn't a break-up, but a rejection.

Asked out an acquaintance at a get together, she made an excuse. Her friend butted in and said she was free, asked if we could go somewhere that evening.

Ended up in a long friends with benefits with said friend, and even now she's still friends with me and my wife.

The woman I approached just faded away, but from what I heard she was alright with what happened. After all, a woman's trash, is another woman's treasure...

[DizzyDesii]

Were you saying the woman is your wife or that she is friends with you and your wife

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

She's a friends with me and my wife. Sometimes she comes over.

[Wish4UrB00ty]

Lol! You seem like the type who would bang a friend or brother out of revenge. I have never done that and never would. Although I have caught myself being interested in a few sisters after it didn’t work out with the first girl.

[DizzyDesii]

I would never have sex with their friend or brother, especially out of revenge. But i would totally makeout with his friend or brother if i was into them before i was into him

[Wish4UrB00ty]

Man you must have fast hands! Because I find it hard to believe that you can make out and play around and all with out it becoming sexual. Like If my hands got in between your legs something’s else will too.

[DizzyDesii]

Its all about self control. After that first boyfriend, no one else has ever gotten more out of me then i wanted them too... and aside from one other guy, that wasn't much.

[Wish4UrB00ty]

Right! That is some impressive self control!

[DizzyDesii]

I was robbed of my innocence in a way so sexually, im still more interested in “high school” stuff (making out, just masturbating eachother) rather than sex itself

[Wish4UrB00ty]

Oh that makes sense!! And that also explains your hesitation to guys a lot more!

[DizzyDesii]

Im only hesitant when it comes to feeling like they want sex/oral too soon. I’m pretty willing to approach anything else

[Wish4UrB00ty]

That seem legit! And guys do seem to want that pretty early on.

[DizzyDesii]

Only the cheap ones. I've met some good ones with good standards of not until after 3-6+ months

[Wish4UrB00ty]

I guess that is true! They are out fhere!

[electromagnetic]

I’ve never dated ex’s friends. Seems weird. What if we run into an event together later.

[DizzyDesii]

I wouldn't date/fck them either. But can't promise “nothing” will happen 😂🤷‍♀️

[coachTanthony]

Yes and at the time it was literally right after which felt stupid weird. I mean we just broke up.

[DizzyDesii]

Yea it is odd when its right after. But thats usually how it works. How did your ex react when she found out? Mine legit cried for the first time of knowing him. But we got back together later on 🤣

[coachTanthony]

She never did find out to my knowledge. I pretty much shut it down so I didn't tell her and I am sure she didn't say anything either.

[DizzyDesii]

Shit y'all lucky people wasn't messy over there 🤣

[melanieeeB]

Yeah... with my first ex.. one of his "friends" already tried while I was still seeing my man and the worst he tried to get my number from him.. like who the hell does that? I had already a year prior told him my disinterest...
Anyways max a week after we broke up he found my insta and texted me and I ignored him and his follow request, then a few days later I saw him in the city and he asked me again and I told him again to stop bothering me and just then it stopped

[DizzyDesii]

Im never surprised when people get with eachothers friends because in high school and college, when one approaches, if they get rejected, the others fall in line shooting their shot. Its just always been like that here.

[melanieeeB]

Seems so weird to me... what happened to the bro codex?

[DizzyDesii]

Lmao brocode and girlcode dont mean shit. I promise you that 🤣

[melanieeeB]

Daamn, all this fake bitches (male and female)... I'm too old school then I guess haha

[OfMiceandMen]

Once, and I was not interested, bc they were best friends. It was bad enough we just broke-up I didn't want break-up a friendship too.

[DizzyDesii]

The friendship ends with the relationship for me lmao

[OfMiceandMen]

Me too, I wouldn't have a problem being nice to her friend as along as she is nice to me, but I wouldn't go out of my way.

[NathanDavis]

nope... neither, lol

[DizzyDesii]

Such a great person

[NathanDavis]

lol... I would not think those situations are so common... are they?

[DizzyDesii]

Well based off these answers below, i think its common on GaG 😂 and in person, its pretty common in high school and college. But after that, nahh

[Finchie40]

Yes a few times , but nothing became serious from it , it was just sex pretty much

[DizzyDesii]

Nothing came from it? Well what did your ex think of it

[Finchie40]

nothing came of it from me , I was just vulnerable at the time and they took advantage of me , but their friendships didn’t last from it , and they ended up hating each other but at the time I just didn’t give a fuck , I know guys do this shit as well , once they see someone is on the market they go for it , I agree it’s a fucked up thing to do to a so called friend but people are selfish and only care about themselves

[Finchie40]

My ex was upset but she was my ex so I would say what did you expect me just to sit here with my finger up my ass , she came on to me so what I was going to say No lol

[DizzyDesii]

Its a dog eat dog world. Just gotta accept it

[DizzyDesii]

U be fingering yo booty 💀

[Finchie40]

Shit , I had sisters’ come onto me after their sister and I broke up

[DizzyDesii]

Thats what i said above. I had brothers and cousins 🤣 But i liked them before the one i dated so 🤷‍♀️

[Finchie40]

My thing is if it’s really that much of their concern then they shouldn’t been my ex in the first place

[Finchie40]

I don’t give my heart to a girl for her to just stomp ion it , I gave her my heart hoping for the same in return , if she ends it with me then I am sad and upset so I become vulnerable and go through a don’t give a fuck episode and just do whatever , Most girls think they can save a man that had his heart crushed so they come running in to save the day lol I just go with it if I find her attractive and in a sense I pretty much already knew her so my ex who? Lol

[DizzyDesii]

Thats that aquarius shit 🤣

[Finchie40]

LOL exactly don’t fuck with our hearts

[DizzyDesii]

With me being a cusp, my aquarius side dont give af but my pisces side be feelin guilty after 🤣

[Finchie40]

Oh trust me , when I give my heart to a girl I tolerate a lot of nonsense from her and become her fucking punching bag until she cheats on me and then I throw in the towel , I wish I had bigger balls to walk away sooner but nope my dumbass tolerates the abuse hoping love with save the day , but if she cheats it’s over for me

[DizzyDesii]

Yea thats what i hate about my aquarius side but thankfully the pisces slaps me and is like NO LEAVE! THERE ARE OTHER FISH IN THE SEA

[Finchie40]

I honestly think that way when I am angry or upset , but I don’t act on it , I wish I would at times, I think for me to act on it , a beautiful girl would have to come sweep me off my feet for once instead of the other way around and prove to me she is going to treat me a lot better then my current partner , like she is saving me , but that shit never happens so I just sit back and take the abuse lol

[Finchie40]

Why I prefer being single , I am not going to get committed to a girl until she can prove to me she isn’t selfish cuz I am tired of getting my heart shit on

[DizzyDesii]

I think you need to get your mind right. I've had bad experiences but i still have a positive outlook. Right now i think you’d be doubting any future girl lol.

[Finchie40]

I still go for girls and things are usually great in the beginning but then they eventually start doing dumb shit and I don’t tolerate it for long

[WellGreetingsISay]

Yes twice after I broke up with exes
Once an ex's best friend's friend texted me about wanting to hang out and wanted more
Another time an ex's new friend ran into me at the store and told me she peeked into my shower when I was still together with my ex and she wanted to hook up

[DizzyDesii]

Damn i hope your ex ain't friends with them anymore lmao

[WellGreetingsISay]

She is haha but that's a long story

[AviatorTom]

Nope, never did that. After each breakup, I found someone else who didn't even know about the previous girlfriend.

[DizzyDesii]

Thats good

[Agape93]

Yeap

[DizzyDesii]

Lol did the ex care

[Agape93]

Nope, he's one of us, we tend to date amongst each other

[RavVid]

I am not entirely sure but I think an semi-ex's mom made me an offer. She was still a fine looking woman and much more reasonable than her daughter. A mother and daughter would have been one for the belt and I did think about it. Plus I really wanted to piss the daughter off a lot. But nah, I let that go through to the keeper.

Have also been approached by a friend. I think the friend thought she should fuck it better.

[DizzyDesii]

A friend is one thing but man you fck my mama, i’m goin to jail 😂

[RavVid]

Ha! I think it would have pissed the daughter off too.

[Blackcupcake]

not close friend

[DizzyDesii]

Lmao. I imagine someone being like, “it was his friend but not his friend friend, so it dont count right?” 😂😂

[Blackcupcake]

lmao… that definitely counts but this was more like, acquaintance, old classmates lol

[DizzyDesii]

Oh well yea that doesn't count then haha. You’re in the clear 😂 i’m in the eye of the storm

[Blackcupcake]

lmao phew

[DizzyDesii]

But i like to think i’ve grown in the last 5 years since i’ve been out of college 😂 I haven't gone for anyone friend since haha

[Blackcupcake]

lmao now I’m curious… did you go for the friends out of genuine interest or just to be petty to the dude haha

[DizzyDesii]

Back in high school and college, i always picked out my crushes immediately. It was a goal to date at least one of them. And i always did. But if we ever ended, i wanted a chance with the others i initially crushed on. I couldnt date nro sex them after finding out they were all friends but shoot other stuff could still happen 😂 I was only ever intentionally petty with my exes cousin. I did like his cousin before we dated. But i didn't think about his cousin romantically after that. Then one day, the ex cheated on me with his cousins girl. The cousin brought it up and after the ex and i broke up, the cousin made his move. Now of course the ex still one upped me later on when he got my best friend pregnant. Smh yep

[Blackcupcake]

smh at the cheater ex

[DizzyDesii]

I was in the wrong too. I was vulnerable and the cousin was asked to kiss me as we were hanging out. We shouldn't have been hanging out in the first place. I said no but then he brought up our exes cheating again and it made me so mad all over again that i got that fck it mindset. Then there was this huge makeout session and i let him suck my tatas 😂 My ex found out and cried. Some months later i find out my friend is pregnant. She slept with my ex and his cousin in the same week. So i actually dont know who the dad was and both denied it. But from the details of the story, i think my ex was the dad. She miscarried so we’ll never know.

[exitseven]

I dated a girl who dumped me in a very cruel way. It really hurt, She had a friend that wanted to go out with me. I was really hurt and I took it out on her.

[DizzyDesii]

Thats what her friend get for tryna slide through 🤣

[exitseven]

she knew that I got a raw deal and she was trying to be nice to me. She really was nice.

[Anpu23]

No but I've been sicked on a friends rival. "Sleep with her and get her off of him." Lol

[DizzyDesii]

Lmao i can't even say thats dirty because whenever i wasn't into a dude, i threw them at my cousin 😂

[Anpu23]

Nice little

[Anpu23]

Lol rather than little

[DizzyDesii]

Huh?

[Anpu23]

I tried to say "nice lol" but my autocorrect sucks. And Im on a bus between Vegas and California to connect with my train

[DizzyDesii]

Man i bet its hot going through the desert. I flew

[Anpu23]

We flew in from Salt Lake City to Vegas. Now we're on a bus to connect to a train to San Francisco. Then a bit of time in the bay then teain home. I wanted to hang on the ocean for a bit. So I flipped the trip to include the ocean.

[Anpu23]

Then train home... damn this sucks.

[DizzyDesii]

Aww it doesn't suck. You’re getting to explore more

[Anpu23]

Another hour on bus. But the train up the coast sounds goid.

[Phoenix98]

Not a friend but their sister.