Have you ever felt less attracted to someone after they've told you their body count?

In other words have you ever felt instantly turned off by someone's body count?

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  • For most men, "attraction" (i. e., sexual attraction) is a completely separate thing from "relationship interest." If you were physically/sexually attractive, men will probably still want to have sex with you if your body count is high - they just won't take you seriously as a relationship partner.

    When a man meets a (single, target-age) woman, he will put her in a category - and he might not even realize he's doing it, but most men ARE aware that they do it. Here's a rough idea of how that works:

    Have you ever felt less attracted to someone after they've told you their body count?

    A small percentage - perhaps 3-5% - are considered "relationship material" - girls he would consider being in a committed relationship with. He has to find her physically attractive, but this is a much lower threshold than most women believe. Most men find average women attractive.

    Lots of other women - perhaps 45-47% - are physically attractive, but he doesn't consider "relationship material" - this is the "recreational use only" category - women he will have casual sex with but would never be in a relationship with. There are many reasons for the "downgrade" - body count/promiscuity is definitely a big one, but other things like poor attitude, entitlement, being a feminist/"strong, independent woman", being shallow or status-seeking, having kids from another man, etc.

    The third category would be women he's not interested in at all.

    The thing is, a LOT of women THINK they are in a man's "relationship material" category, but are in fact in his "recreational use only" category. Moreso, many women don't grasp the fact that their own behavior - including past behavior - is most often responsible for that downgrade. Men usually won't tell a woman that she's been downgraded - he just won't ever commit to her.

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  • Had female friend who was virgin, didn't saw her for years, after she told me that she been with many men at that time I lost all interest in her, we used to talk about sexual stuff.

    Have you ever felt less attracted to someone after they've told you their body count?

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  • yea multiple times. for one guy i wasn't as interested in fucking him after i heard he was a virgin, and another guy i had a crush on had a really high count for his age and that made me a lot less into him. also there was another guy who gave off those fuckboy sex god type of vibe if you see what i mean and i wanted well to fuck him cos he seemed like he'd be really good in bed and he was hot but then i found out he had a low count and it was mainly ex gfs, so i stopped trying to get something out of him after that

  • No. I don’t even ask such a thing. His life before me is none of my business and mine is none of his. I’m not a puritan and I don’t expect him to be. If we can’t judge each other on our current relationship, then there’s no point is there?

    • Not even someone you plan on marrying?

    • What would be the point of that? So he had a life and other sex partners before me. Why would that be bad? In fact, I would prefer he did have experiences before me. I wouldn’t want to get married and have him regret that he didn’t experiment more before settling down. I would hope he thinks the same of me. People need to be a whole lot less judgmental and look at things from a practical standpoint.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • No, that's their business. How many people they've been with has nothing to do with how I feel about them. Someone experienced is a better person to be with because by then, they should know how to treat their boyfriend/girlfriend.

  • No, only because I've have only ever taken an interest in men had very low risk for being hoes and I was correct ever time.

  • I don't think that has ever come up in a conversation before. The only thing I would be worried about are STI's and making sure the person's negative. I don't come out and ask how many people have they slept with? Seems like a really personal question that most people would not answer, especially early on in the relationship, regardless of their body count.

  • Yes.

  • No, hell no. I wanted to hear about all of their sex partners, were they better hung than me, how do they bang, what do I need to do to match up, give me all the Juicy details LOLOLOL

    • @Apple1996 As an add-on to my comment... so many guys... younger guys especially are very sensitive. insecure, or absolutely terrified to hear of their "SO" past sexual experiences, and I suppose not uncommon. In my 20's my girlfriend at the time told me about all of her past, AND current sex partners, (I was sort of a 'friend with benefits) as I had eaten her on the same weekend that her SO had fucked her, and I knew it. In retrospect, I should have married her.

  • Attraction is different to interest. I might be more attracted, as if they have a high body count, it bodes well for me getting to have sex with them and make feel I'm at liberty to be sexually aggressive. It wouldn't lessen my appreciation of her body at all.

    It would decrease my interest in a relationship with them to about zero immediately.

  • Not really.

    It's not necessarily the woman's fault if she has no success in getting laid.

  • It has never happened to me. I only was with one girl who probably had a big body count and it never came up in conversation. I suspected it so it would not have made a difference. She was the polar opposite of all the girls I ever dated and maybe that was the point.

  • I would never be so rude as to ask that question. It is none of my business.

  • Yes, I'm saving myself for a match, I want a woman who's doing the same.
    High body counts are also just gross hygenically speaking.

  • I see it as a challenge, I like to know where I rank on their BIGGEST LIST

    I'm always at least top 2

  • Yes I have. Dated a woman that told me she had sex with ten guys in just over a year. I was number 10.

  • Not yet

  • No I don't really care how many men or women she has been with and I don't really ask or wanna know it's all in the past.

  • Do people really talk about this? I have never once has the topic ever come up with any woman I ever dated.

    • You'd be surprised how many men have asked me for my body count during talking stages It's not a phenomenon. There are men who care.

  • Not one bit. Why would that be a turn off?

  • Don't ask not interested

  • Yes, it has happened

  • Yes absolutely.. a girl with a high body count makes me sick

  • Yeah definitely

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