Having sex too soon make a guy respect you less?

[Anonymous]

After we had sex he showed me a tik tok video of girls complaining about finding a good man and then someone in the video said "stop having sex with everyone and then maybe you would find a good man"

I got upset because he showed this to me and i was somewhat easy. He also left me a few weeks after that.

I just dont understand. Why would having sex too soon ruin my chances of having a good relationship? isn't it also the male having sex too soon? I just get sad thinking he felt this way about me when all i wanted to do was give him what he had asked for

[btbc92]

Well for starters not only is premarital sex is a sin, you're creating marriages with these men illegally sexually with guys who have no desire to have anything with you other than using you for sex. Men like that want sex. And if you're willing to give it to them quick, they're going to like what they like but that's because they see you as an object or vending machine that they can easily put money in. Simply put it. It doesn't matter if you're a prostitute, does it matter if you're religious, if you are a woman, and a man is lusting after a woman, and you know that one woman has willing to give up the goods as I say, you think he's going to respect you? Nope. Because if you really wanted a relationship you wouldn't be giving sex. If you want to build a relationship, you look to build a relationship with an individual. That's what friends are for. But if you just going to throw yourself at any men who pay attention to you or who you basically want sexually, what did I say about you want in a relationship? What did I say about you wanting love? You made your sexual choices. The value of relationships is only less because you see yourself as less. Well everybody in the sentence been told lies about having sex the way they expected to according to the World by you having sex outside of marriage, and treating sex the way you do as well as your body besides other people's bodies damn it it's your choice to make those decisions. Is nobody else's choices but your own. And I can tell you this as a virgin. They would rather take their chances with me if they think they're going to, then somebody like yourself, because at the end of the day they want to challenge. The pride of a man will not allow him to just settle for less because he wants to be more than that. But he'll pretend like he's more than that a society teaches everybody to be late, if it means that he gains a social status. The same in is for woman. But it depends on what type of person you are and what type of person you want to be. The only problem is is that they'll come after me simply because they have no respect for me as a person that only respect the fact that I'm a virgin who owned a hope who's willing to so cool get into my panties but I would never allow it.

1. Because I honor God by honoring my body and respect the fact that I am bought at a price. Jesus paid for my sins so why am I going to continue to sin in ways that I have no desire to?

2. I understand by 1st Corinthians chapter 7 that sex is a marriage and marriage is about having sex. If I have no business being in a marriage let alone to be having sex, I don't care what my body so cold want I ain't going to do that.

3. In order to truly have respect by other people you must first learn to respect yourself. You must understand not only the word respect, but you must understand that everybody has their own free will as you do. But at a free will you made the decision to lose your virginity before marriage. You made a decision to sleep with whomever you choose to sleep with. Now is this is has never truly been your desire to do so then I'm sorry that you have been lied to as most of us have regarding others telling you you got to have sex before marriage when that is so not true. But if this is a choice that you personally want it because you believe in that, then how in the world can you ask a question that you already have the answer to?

4. Men that are willing to still be with you even after they had a little fun with you and other women. But remember that's only because they personally want to win this benefits. The same stipulation all on the same category as for anybody else no matter how it truly starts. When a person grows tired and they are not interested in maintaining or keeping a relationship is the same results.

[btbc92]

the real question is, it is less to do with the fact that having sex too soon make a garbage that you less. The real question you to ask yourself is what is your intent with having sex, let alone being in a relationship, Desiring a man, but most importantly, what is your business with another man? if you do not understand yourself, if you do not understand the things that you're doing, this is the kind of situation you put yourself in. And everybody can give you their own interpretation and opinions on the matter, but at the end of the day you're the one that has to live with it. And you're the one that has to live with those decisions. Men's value, depending on the situation, can be judge disassembly. I know for myself I wouldn't want to deal with some kind of man who does something like that. But because a lot of women are so desperate for a man, most men will have a lot of supply of women available who's going to have sex with them, then the other way around. When they talk about women being The Gatekeepers, they actually in a sense have a point with that. It is up to you as a woman to set the tone and the bar where you want to be at. And you most importantly have to be mindful of the kind of men that are taking an interest as a potential. But remember one thing. 9 out of 10 of those men are there for one thing and one thing only. S-E-X. Thats it. That's why in the Middle Ages, that's why for the back, women was handed to men regardless of the type of person he was. A woman let alone a female did not have the same rights a man have. Just by you being born a woman.

[btbc92]

Unless a woman was sold into a whorehouse, a woman was expected to maintain her chastity. And wow that hasn't been much of a stipulation wasn't a man has to be chaste, a woman who was not Dishonored her family. God has made it very clear with his stance is and that for those to maintain himself until they're married. That goes for both men and women. It doesn't matter if you're 11 years old and you want to get married. It doesn't matter if you're 22, it doesn't matter if you're 43, it doesn't matter if you're in your old age. The rule is simply this. Keep yourself a virgin. Does nothing wrong to desire sex, just make sure it's for the right reasons, make sure is what a person who's going to do the same thing for you, and most importantly, you get married. And once you get married, once you constipated with sex, that's it. You can't have sex with anybody else but that one person. If that person, God forbid is not alive anymore, and now that you committed adultery, then you are free to remarry again. But if you have sex with any other person other than who you first had sex with, it is considered adultery. And therefore you cannot have sex again with another person. And you do not divorce unless for adultery. But if you choose to separate, the rules still apply. Are there you go back together and you make it work, or you stay single. Many people will call it religious but that is just how it goes. It is not religious, it is a commandment. Have people truly understand this we will not be having so many abortions, so many divorces, broken families, a broken Society with so many broken people creating more broken people. That's how serious it is. Whether these men Know It or Not, by the way if you allow them to use you, they'll use you. That goes for anybody. But if you don't want to get used, then we're ghosts what Society wants to stay in, try to do, Mock You, Etc you do the right thing is doing the right thing is truly what you want to do.

[Ms_Vanderquack]

If the amount of respect a guy shows you is based on sex he never respected you in the first place.

[lycanthrope3]

Exactly

[ohshee]

For me I look at it different if a girl wants to have sex the same day we even meet you can feel the energy through every touch everything look and how turned on she is if she is totally turned on that totally turns me on and most girls don't want to have sex the moment you meet they want to wait two, 3 , 4 weeks and that's cool too. But if a girl wants to have sex that very first day because she's totally turned on I have more respect for her because she's making a choice to break the rules of the two or three or four week deal I look at her has going against the grain and wants to do it her way

[ohshee]

Because he wants sex again he's just trying to manipulate you into thinking whatever you want you to think. I think if you stay away from him you would be do good

[Leavesbound]

I would not lose respect but I might wonder if you're looking at me as husband material or just a living dildo.

[KrakenAttackin]

If this has to be explained to you, then you would not understand.

[Asker]

pllease try

[KrakenAttackin]

Good grief...

[Shy_Steve]

Us Guys are always skeptical when a Girl we find attractive likes us because for some of us Guys who might be Shy it can be a bit far fetched so we might think your deceiving us some how.

[lycanthrope3]

If he leaves you because you had sex too soon, he was looking for an excuse

[Lucas0924]

I respect all women as if they were my mother, even those who had sex at an early age.

[KrakenAttackin]

@lucas0924. This is a recipe for being miserable. Women need to earn your respect and attention.

[Lucas0924]

Thank you very much for the advice.

[btbc92]

No it is not a recipe for being miserable and you will have all people should know better at your age because you slept around with many women. Everybody needs to earn people's respect. But you also give respect in return. People are not going to change and do the right thing the way they need to, if you don't even show them any different. So young man you continue to do just that. You show respect for people and you show respect for women regardless because that's what they need. However, you do not have to cater to these women whom doesn't have the right to be invested in what you have going on for yourself. One thing he is correct them is that they you do have to earn as you equally have to earn. But you continue to show respect. Because the more men like yourself that girls and young women sing, the better they will become because they see that there is at least one man out there. That doesn't mean you have to get involved with everyone. You stick to your morals and you stick to your values. Don't sleep with those girls. You save yourself for marriage.

[btbc92]

Did because plenty of men choose to have premarital sex as other girls and women choose to do. Does that mean I have to do it? No I do not. That's why I'm a virgin to this very day. Just because a man choose to be a man who I am, that doesn't mean I have to disrespect him. That person is still a man and I still got to show respect as God commands. But if that man chooses to disrespect himself that's on him. I don't have to disrespect other people just because they choose to disrespect themselves or because it wanted just respect me. But just because they want to disrespect me that doesn't mean I'm going to allow myself to be a doormat and tolerate it. Having some self-respect also means knowing where to draw the line.

[btbc92]

Just because a man chooses to be a manwhore

[Lucas0924]

I wish there were more people like you in the world

[mar_cs38]

I would respect my partner the same no matter how soon or long we waited to have sex. Honestly I would prefer sooner than later!

[Anonymous]

People so stubbornly resist the obvious truth. Yes, putting out early on, being ‘easy’ makes guys not respect you

get it through your thick skulls women! Yes they may not say it straight up, they may enjoy the candy, but you have essentially crossed yourself off the ‘wife material’ list

[Anonymous]

Men respect women who respect themselves. Right or wrong, the perception is that women who are easy do not respect themselves. Men and women are different this way.

[Anonymous]

If sex is the main focus in the relationship it won't last once he get fed up off to the next.

[Anonymous]

He sounds like a cad and a player. But generally yes, if you have sex too soon in a relationship guys don't respect you as much. Respect is earned slowly over time.