He doesn't want to have sex with condoms. What should I do?

Question

My friend with benefits hates condoms. He told me that because he is cut he has minimum pleasure from sex when wearing condoms. I am so so worried of getting pregnant, I can't go on pill or any hormonal contraception because of my health problems. He is still insisting on raw sex and I am scared that if I don't allow it he will leave me.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

If he's trying to talk you into something he knows you're uncomfortable with he's a jerk. Ditch him. In the long run you'll feel better for getting rid than loosening your stance and giving in, which is perfectly reasonable.

Cat_Frank · Answer

Tell him you are crossing your legs until he finds a replacement form of contraception that meets the needs of both of you.

Must prevent pregnancy (snip snip) and must prevent STIs (stat dec (so you have legal standing later) that you are the only person he is sleeping with).

bowenw · Answer

It's your body so only do what you're comfortable with. Give him the options you're comfortable with and let him choose, for example you'll have intercourse only if he wears a condom or has a vasectomy. If he doesn't like either of those options suggest you pleasure each other in other ways such as hand job, fingering, oral, anal, or vibrators. If he pressures you to do something you're uncomfortable with he probably needs to find a new girlfriend as this is likely how he will behave anytime he doesn't get his own way in the relationship.

Zeus_66 · Answer

Do NOT do something you don't consent to. Get rid of him.

broken_heart_at_48 · Answer

Tell him to kick rocks or wear a condom. You can always replace him it's not worth getting pregnant. If you get pregnant he's gonna bounce and it's gonna all be on you

cth96190 · Answer

Visit your GP to discuss contraception and sexual health.
He/she will probably give you a referral to a fertility clinic to be fitted with an IUD. Those things work pretty well, although there is small risk of permanent damage to your fertility.
Also, insist that you exchange with him the result of full-spectrum STD blood tests.
Whether or not you can trust him to not screw anyone else during the time of your friends with benefits arrangement is another matter.
I can understand his aversion to condoms.
I found that condoms removed so much physical sensation from sex that I preferred to masturbate. More than once I was unable to maintain an erection, because I could not feel enough through the condom to stay erect.

Kabluie · Answer

let him leave then, you're not on birth control that's a simple answer.

MannMitAntworten · Answer

Which scares you more? Your fuck friend leaving you or your fuck friend getting you pregnant then leaving you?

Makeushiver · Answer

Tell him to enjoy kerning off.

Andres77 · Answer

Your pussy, your rules. If he doesn't like it go somewhere else. How do you know he's not fucking everyone he can touch and then filling your body with virus or other STD?

pleasestopthis · Answer

Get another friend with benefits then... Any guy who has some decency won't insist on having raw sex without being sure he's clean and you won't get pregnant.

ChattyGuy43 · Answer

Is it worth getting pregnant if your not on birth control? It's a huge risk to you & to him. Go on birth control asap, and jab, or a pill, but dont risk it.

douride2 · Answer

Tell him put a hood on it or hit the road. Don't give in to his selfish needs.

SouthGeorgiaGirl · Answer

Bullshit! Make him wrap that rascal.

SCDivinitySoul · Answer

If I were you I'd tell the guys wrap it or find another friends with benefits, you stated what you are comfortable with and if he can't accept that then he needs to go else wheres