He got an erection during my massage, is he attracted to me?

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It happened yesterday after school. He's just a friend, nothing more for the moment. 
So we met after his workout and he had sore muscles so I proposed to give him a thigh massage. After a while he got an erection (he was just wearing compression shorts so it was obvious), I didn't say a word but stopped the massage so he looked very embarassed and said "sorry I couldn't help, I'm a boy".
Is he attracted to me or is it a normal reaction during a massage? Do you think it's too close to sex to give a massage to just a friend?

crystalt70 · Accepted Answer

It doesn't necessarily mean he is attracted to you, but it doesn't mean that he isn't. You can't expect to massage a man's thighs and not get that reaction. Touch itself can become arousing, especially if it's kind of in the brain as a no no. For instance, between friends. They don't expect to be that familiar and usually have boundaries. When that line is crossed, it can be arousing if the two are not adverse to each other. My sister-in-law is a massage therapist. It's typical for men and women to be aroused when massaging certain parts of the body. You can be massaging certain parts of their back and they can become aroused. She had to learn which spots to avoid in order to not temp arousal. Knowing those points comes in handy with her husband.

I'm actually kind of curious as to why you would massage his thighs. I have never done something like that with any of my guy friends. There are those invisible boundaries as to what is acceptable in a friendship. Unless a girl is attracted to the guy or EXTREMELY close with him, she is not going to massage his thighs. My guess is that you like him and you are kind of hoping he likes you too. Hence the question you posted.

Climber · Accepted Answer

He is a boy and if you massage a thigh you may be in a position that looks sexy. And if you look pretty, its not abnormal that he will get an erection. Personally, I don't have a problem giving massage to others. We often do amongst climbers. And they know I am lesbian and some of them do get an erection. So its a normal male behaviour.

KAZ-2Y5 · Accepted Answer

for the guy who called a girl he does not know a slut and as for the asker, just remember this: as for your question i wouldn't think much of it guys can get erections randomly

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

If a guy likes a girl, or is attracted to someone, or even thinks the girl is pretty, and she massages him there, then yes it could be attraction.

If he is not into her, it is just a natural response. But if it's a massive erection, he probably likes her. It's even hotter when it's a girl a guy likes.

Do you like him? If so propose another one! You need to rekindle the friendship and then progress it further. Even if not, then next time, don't stop. Normally a masseuse would just continue.

It's normal and fine to be aroused by a soothing massage. Could you help me on mine pls? www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1542441-who-would-you-rather-of-these-hot-two-friends-which-girl

godfatherfan · Accepted Answer

Of course he is going to get an erection. This thing women have where they think they have men that are just 'friends". Fist men are not "friends" with women, they are 'friendly". Secondly, just because he is being friendly doesn't mean he stops being a man. So especially if he is on the lower end of your age range he is going to be a walking erection anyway. So rubbing a woman is certainly going to give him an erection. We don't always have any control of them. and when your younger, you really don't control when it pops up.

Stacyzee · Answer

It's a natural reaction. It doesn't necessarily mean he's attracted to you. What you did felt good.

AustinMan · Answer

Clearly there was some attraction.

HandsomeRaj · Answer

1. I go with what @gray_sailor says
2. That apart it is a normal reaction especially at an younger age to get erect at the slightest pretext
3. The erection isn't necessarily a sexual reaction in this case
4. Hence, this situation doesn't show that he's attracted to you sexually or otherwise :)

RationalLioness · Answer

It depends on the guy. For some, stimulation near that region makes them hard but for others, it's attraction.

gray_sailor · Answer

Not only can a man experience an erection without sexual arousal, he can even ejaculate without arousal, merely from a massage:

This is a fact of male physiology that all professional massage therapists learn about as an element of their training.

Consider:

www.integrativehealthcare.org/.../...t_into_a.html

Oinotna9 · Answer

Boys get erections all the time. You just can´t control it sometimes.

ccp16 · Answer

Well in some ways, he is right, he can't control it. especially down there... A girl I care nothing about or don't find attractive touching me down there will likely get some response... now the fact that he asked you to do it tells me he likes you more than his reaction. And if you just see him as a friend, I would not do it again.

Illusive_Man · Answer

A massage from a female friend... sigh... as smart as men can be... in the end men are still bound by their instincts I suppose.

Anyway , is he?
Well probably not a logically concluded attraction or at least you haven't given us enough information to say so, from the surface it is just a sign of animalistic lust , maybe it goes deeper we just don't know.

amarahorrorstory · Answer

He could be, but guys are also very easily turned on, especially by touch. The way he reacted might be a hint of attraction though.

marissab101 · Answer

No real way to tell unless you ask him. Guys get erections when the wind blows.

madhatters4 · Answer

you were massaging his thighs?

he could like you or he could just have been turned on by a massage so close to his junk. I've had massages where I got erect but it was purely out of the stimulation of certain erogenous zones.

basically I wouldn't assume he is attracted to you because of this.

complicated_soul · Answer

I heard massages can cause arousal? Or something like that. I think it's pretty common.

MattAyyy · Answer

Massaging his thighs really? What did you think was going to happen, he probably got an erection because your hands were so close to his junk which must have aroused him, although there is a good possibility he is attracted to you cause whenever Im in class sexual thoughts or arousal are the last things on my mind.

Also was he nervous before, during or after the massage?

GFEDATY · Answer

It is normal and I would think of it as being a compliment as well! :o)

PiuBelloAmante · Answer

Haha its normal, he is probably attracted to you on a physical level and you were stimulating the are near his stuff so yeah

Nah i dont think its a bad thing to give a massage to a friend even if he gets horny as long as he isn't trying to make a move, and you make it clear that you are friends

JustinCaseUDontKnow · Answer

guys can get erections during massages and does not mean he likes you but there is a possibility he could it just depends.

TravDog321 · Answer

I'd say first of all, if he's working out with you, that's enough of a sign that he wants you anyway. Asking for the massage was his way of really trying to say so, smoothly. Since you made sure to go along with embarrassing him instead of downplaying it like you should have - he will be so awkward around you now that I would say he'd definitely not want to date. You should be the more mature one and smooth it out by assuring him it was no big deal and being extra nice :)

KDA20 · Answer

He could be maybe

slatyb · Answer

It's a pretty normal reaction. He likes you well enough to let you give him a massage. "Is it too close to sex?" What do you mean by that? Yes, it's ok for you to give him a massage and not have sex with him. Men don't get to have sex every time they have an erection, no problem.

BelleGirl21 · Answer

Even I'd get horny if someone was giving me a thigh massage ;) I wouldn't read too much into it. He must be pretty comfortable with you though. :)

LookatDuhDonkay · Answer

I work at a spa, so I know a thing or two about massages.

Lots of people get aroused. It's natural, especially if the massage is really good... the mind starts to wander.

Additionally, you're a female and he seems like a young dude so if you're attractive enough it could have easily triggered his boner. It doesn't necessarily mean that he likes you but at the same it doesn't guarantee that he doesn't lol

Izzex3 · Answer

It's normal. Doesn't mean that he's into you. No giving a massage is not "too close to sex".

Kenzy-Yinn · Answer

I wonder what you touched and how I think he finds you attractive, and if the massage is also good... I don't think it's too close, it's just a massage... that is if it's JUST a massage

cinderelli · Answer

that area is sensitive.. so it can b bacause of that.. but i think you are definitely attracted to him.. just friends dont offer thigh massage.. ;)

meatballs21 · Answer

A girl is touching his body in a nice way near his crotch. Natural reaction.

shiller · Answer

Maybe but you definitely aroused him.

tyber1 · Answer

He could be attracted to you or it could just be that a woman was massaging his thigh, only way to find out is to ask because it happens.

jacquesvol · Answer

Very normal.

chuppachup · Answer

It's normal for that to happen. It doesn't necessarily mean he's attracted to you.

MrPresident · Answer

Very normal, when i was young the single surprise hug from a girl would make me have a erection... Even when my crush hold my hand, or massaged me in the arm. Things like that.

Beantown1992 · Answer

What were you wearing?

safeplace · Answer

its a natural reaction for men when placed in a state of relaxation or almost a sleep state, it doesn't always happen but it can, it doesn't mean he's attracted to you. aside from that your a women massaging his thighs could be a possible trigger as well :D

singlebee · Answer

Can't say that m.. when we work out our libido or testosterone shoots up... + a massage caused him to achieve a boner... So came really say if he likes you or not... LOL

Shaft50 · Answer

I can get a head massage from a girl and get an erection...

xxbebosxx · Answer

massage can cause arousal

murphchapter2 · Answer

OF COURSE HE IS !!! It is a normal reaction, but for him to make it so obvious is a sure sign that he wanted to get a reaction out of you. My opinion is that you should arainge another workout and give him another massage and if the same thing happens you should immediately go down on him and see where it goes from there

SurströmmingLover · Answer

There's a possibility, but it's difficult not to get an erection during a massage, so...

llorando · Answer

He wasn't getting an erection cause he likes you, he was getting an erection cause he was massaging close to his special parts.

ThatBritishLad · Answer

You should've spun him like a dreidel on his knob. That'd be hilarious

red324 · Answer

Why his thighs? I would get a boner no matter what the girl looked like.

Flotri66 · Answer

Any good massage would give me a erection.

ThisAndThat · Answer

I remember seeing a show can't remember what show it was it's been a long time ago now. But supposedly the police had a man in questioning him over pedophilia and they were giving him a test showing him pictures of kids to see if he would get a erection and I was like are you kidding just because a man could or would get a erection in the presents of a nude photo doesn't mean he's attracted to kids one bit. It could be the nudity or it could be his mind was on sex in general or could be a simple undesirable uncontrollable erection end of story. Men in general especially when they are younger men catch erections for no reason at all and even wake up with erections out of the sleep. A simple erection doesn't mean there is attraction at all. Now was there attraction from your guy friend? Maybe maybe not only he knows the answer to that.

iloveher26 · Answer

Maybe he is... or sometimes it happens due to touches...

smahala1991 · Answer

It is completely normal.

pezzonovante88 · Answer

It sounds like the beginning of a porno.

sexcrazy1 · Answer

most times rubbing thighs would lead to arousal. the fact that it is a friend could mean that he is attracted to you, and then also it could just mean that he wants to fuck you.

auspicious · Answer

It's not the boner that tells me he likes you... It's him asking you for a massage :D he trusts you

Cowboy6666 · Answer

Not necessarily that he is attracted to you, boners are out of control we can't prevent them.

blackeagle007 · Answer

Erection is a natural response. Just something that happens without thought. Like everyone else said, you massaged a sensitive area , which is another reason.

Who knows? Maybe your hot? I've had interactions with hot girls but doesn't mean I wanna date them.

I think you got a crush on that guy.

subzero007 · Answer

Sometimes sensual message can cause arousal but that doesn't mean he is attracted to you

Hardworkingguy · Answer

The legs are very sensitive abd to get a massage from an attractive woman is a sure way go get aroused in seconds. He must have felt great with your hands abd there's also a possibility he finds you attractive.

loverdude · Answer

Awww gosh Yes we loved getting massage from girl And yes that makes ur turn on

morph96070 · Answer

It can be either. Spontaneous erections are common, or it could be that he was enjoying the closeness with you, and his biology responded

202tc · Answer

It's very possible he is attracted to you.. however getting a massage around the tight with short s on is very erroneous zones

s_l_m · Answer

It s normal. If he is a healty guy when u touch to his leg he can feel this. He can t do something for this. I t s normal reaction and believe me he wanted more but he was embaressed. Next time he can t stop himself.

Anonymous · Answer

It is normal
Most guys with high testosterone would get an erections l if a girl would touch that area. Imagine if someone touched you in that area. Also it's easy for a guy's mind to go astray when he is with a girl who is doing that. If he likes you, we'll maybe but that massage is not a definite yes. There are types of girls you would have sex with (or get an erection for) and others you would date.

Anonymous · Answer

you slut...

Anonymous · Answer

No he's just male.

Anonymous · Answer

It's s natural reaction, women are the same way, but he could very well have been attracted to you.

Anonymous · Answer

He is a pervert... call the cops immediately

He got an erection during my massage, is he attracted to me?

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