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He's obsessed with his penis size?

My boyfriend does have a extremely small penis but am fine with it but he can't accept that for some reason. He knows my ex was huge n it kills him. He won't even let me see him naked anymore. How do I get him to believe me that I don't care? He keeps asking if he's tiny and is he smallest I've seen n answer is yes but I don't tell him that but don't think he will stop obsessing till I do. What should I do? Has anyone dealt with this before?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • I am going to answer your question by first giving you a different example - how I answer questions from women worrying about breast size...

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    Ah-tah!
    Loving boobs is instinctive as illustrated by South Park.

    "Yes, Ah-tah" scene in which Randy, Stan's Dad, explains the nature of boobs to Stan. From Season 06 Episode 10, "Bebe's Boobs Destroy Society".
    https://southpark.cc.com/clips/153593/yes-ah-tah

    Kenny's first "cheesing" hallucination scene in which he's about the lather the daughter with the "awesome rocking tits" in the Fountains of Varnoth. From Season 12 Episode 03, "Major Boobage".
    southpark.cc.com/clips/164807/i-was-so-close

    Anyway, you will be fine and loved. Believe me.

    So, let's talk about boobs...

    Big boobs and small boobs all have their plusses and minuses.

    For instance:
    1. Big boobs are great for titty fucking and motor boating but are usually less sensitive and give the woman back problems which she will complain about.
    2. Small boobs are not great for titty fucking or motor boating but are usually more sensitive (so nipple play is better) and the woman will never have back problems from her boobs.

    As far as attractiveness is concerned, yeah, boobs can have an impact, but animal sexuality is much hotter.

    So, let's talk about small boobs more...

    "More than a handful is wasted." - Paul B.

    This is Pat Benatar circa 1980. As you can see, she's not going to win a wet t-shirt contest. However, she is screamingly hot and this is because of her femininity and animalistic sexuality.

    https://youtu.be/IvSbQB6-UdY



    For more evidence, take a look at Joan Jett...

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DSqp-W1pWoU


    https://www.dailymotion.com/embed/video/xltn4c

    So, girls with small boobs can definitely rock it...

    The hottest woman I know is an A-cup. Besides, for me, in my fantasies, A-cups are more than enough...

    By the way, B-cups are the actual normal. So why is the average around C now? Women getting fat.

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    But I want you to think about something: If a man makes boobs a high priority, then he's not marriage material... Why? Women of all breast sizes get double mastectomies (like Angelina Jolie, Ann Jillian, and Christina Applegate). If a man can't appreciate a woman with small boobs, why should he appreciate a woman who has had a double mastectomy? "In sickness and in health" are more than just words. I told my wife (who has a nice rack and I like boobs too) that I'd still love her and stay with her even if "the girls left the party".
    ↑ ↑ ↑ ↑ ↑ ↑ ↑ ↑ ↑ ↑ ↑ ↑ ↑ ↑ ↑ ↑ ↑ ↑ ↑ ↑ ↑ ↑ ↑ ↑ ↑ ↑ ↑ ↑ ↑ ↑ ↑ ↑ ↑ ↑

    ANYWAY, don't worry about your breast size. Believe it or not, who you are is actually more important to us than how you look. When young, we may be obsessed with looks but we grow out of that fast as we get experience with women's personalities.


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    OK, so, to answer YOUR question, notice the part between the arrows...

    "In sickness and in health" - that's part of the marital vows.

    So, this means what you should do is have a discussion with your boyfriend.
    Say, "Suppose I loved you and loved your big dick and then, one day, you get into a horrible dick accident so you don't have a dick anymore... Should I leave you because now you don't even have a dick? Or should I stay because I love you? Which would dickless you prefer? Leave you for the big meat or stay with you because we loved each other? More importantly - and think this very carefully before you answer - which do you think I would choose? If you know the answer to that question, then you'd know that I am not concerned about the size of your penis as it now and won't be in the future."

    Understand my point?

  • Guys tend to get teased at an early age about their dick size (locker room jokes). Then they become teens and at some point start watching porn and see all these guys with huge dicks having sex with all these hot women. And the women are just drooling over it’s size. Leading up to the moment that a guy gets with a woman he’s always worried if it’ll be enough, if he can even satisfy and compare to what he’s seen on porn, in magazines or on the web. His mind is filled with all the school jokes from that time someone saw his dick and it followed him all his life. This woman he’s about to have sex with might have more experience than him and when he exposes his dick to her she will either like it, love it or hate it. And after they’ve had sex he wonders if he’s big enough, if she’s had bigger and if she’s satisfied. So the question comes out... Am I big enough? Have you had bigger? Is it enough for you? Whatever that first woman tells him piled on top of every dick comment, porn video and article read is going to mess with him one way or another. It’s going to give him a complex (and most guys go through this) until they learn to accept it and learn other tricks that’ll help them in the bedroom.
    You can talk to your boyfriend until you’re blue in the face. He already knows he’s small and you having told him that your ex was huge plays into his head which causes him to be obsessed with his size when it comes to you. If you still enjoy sex with your boyfriend regardless of his size you should tell him that. Maybe you tell him that not only are you satisfied with his size. If the conversation starts turning towards your ex and his huge dick just simply tell your boyfriend that yeah he was big but it hurt and you’re satisfied more now than ever because you’re receiving more pleasure. I guess depending on his size you can tell him (and show him) that most of the sensitive areas of the pussy are towards the opening. And if he reaches that far into you to hit those spots then it’s all good.
    You can also help him learn some new things in the bedroom to do to help get him past his obsession with his small dick to take his mind off it. Have him go down on you and please you that way, get a toy, use his fingers or get one of those penis extensions. Get creative!!
    I’d say you’re in backpedaling mode right now because you told him about your ex’s size. Don’t let him get focused on letting his dick define what he is and how it effects your relationship if he means anything to you and you want to be with him regardless.

Most Helpful Girls

  • I had the same problem. My cock is almost 5” which is below average. My wife’s last boyfriend was 10”. Cock size is often mistaken for how masculine a man is in much the same way we think that large breasts are more feminine. If he is self conscious about then tell him to learn to use it more effectively. Like I said I’m not big but my technique has always satisfied women and because I know how to use it effectively women always come back for more.
    My wife also told me that because her ex’s dick was so big he expect it’s size to be enough and said he sucked at sex. Not only that he had problems keeping it hard.

    • You have him beat by a mile

    • Would you like to compare techniques?

    • Sure.. ill even show you a picture

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  • You should suggest that he measures himself properly, and take it from there... All these guys walking around saying they have 10 cocks are full of shit! It is actually quite rare to have such a big dick.

    http://wwwu. edu. uni-klu. ac. at/amiklaut/dr_nick/answer19. htm

    Having such a large penis is more often a curse because it is a lot to take in and the ride is not as pleasurable.

    • That's very true.. we have measured him. he's 1/2 inch soft n about 2 inches hard n 1 inch girth

    • Is that from the base of the root or just the visible shaft?

    • Girth is the circumference around, not the width

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  • You should suggest that he get counseling. Tell him that his ongoing self flagellation over something he cannot control and that's not important to you is threatening the relationship.

  • Well I'm average or slighly more and even I always have the insecurity that the girl I'm with has seen bigger. Its a guy thing you can't help it.
    Now you say he pretty much has a micro penis so I doubt there's anything you can do alone thats trauma right there. He needs a therapist, maybe a sex therapist. You could do it as a couple who knows.

  • Tell him:

    In the grand scheme of things, a vagina is meant to fit a baby's head during childbirth. A few inches isn't going to make a difference in his ability to pleasure you. Also, his technique is spot on, which is what counts.

  • My wife is petite and I am a bit above average. It would make more sense really if I was a little smaller as my size wears her out a little. Do you tell him you "don't care" or do you tell him "you are the best lover I have had"? How does he know the penis size of your ex?

  • 1) Try getting more and more intimate with him. Maybe the fact that he's small and you still want to go at it with him frequently may give him some confidence.
    (Note : This method can be counter productive in some situations)

    2) If the first one doesn't work, Tell him that you know he's tiny still he's your boyfriend. Give him some positivity. I don't think that will hurt his feelings it will give more meaning to your Relationship.

    3) Try to convince him that you're not that into sex anyways And prove him that you like him for his character and you don't objectify him as a Sex object.

    Try this methods for a moderate amount of time EACH. If nothing works you can hmu on this question again in comments or pm whatever you prefer.

    • It's 3) instead if that stupid emoji. lol

  • He has to get over it himself I don't think you can do much.

  • Part of the severity of this issue is that *somehow* he knows that your ex was "huge." I wonder how he knows that.

  • I mean you could tell him that his size doesn't matter and your happy and satisfied with it. And he should stop worrying about it.
    Overall just talk with him

    • I have but he doesn't believe me

    • I mean he has self esteem issues about himself because of his size But clearly size doesn't matter techniques does He insecure that you will leave him because of stupid reason like dick size So just tell him the reason the fall for him and see a future with him and his size won't affect your relationship. Just give him more attention and more love than usual he need that to feel secure about himself.

  • wake him up with a blowjob. now and then to boost his confidence.

    • I do

  • I have personal experience with this problem. Penis size does matter, no matter what people say, but its not as big of a deal as its made out to be. Dick size is a huge masculinity issue especially when you've been with someone who had a big one. My current girlfriend dated someone with a huge cock before me, and even though she loves me and I love her and we've been having sex for a long time, when she tries to convince me that my penis is big to her, I can't accept that. The best you can do is show love to his dick, and keep on pushing it, he will never stop thinking his junk is worse, but as long as you use it he can get over that.

  • I have misgivings about my compact primary weapon. My solution was to become an absolute expert at cunnilingus. Since then, I have never looked back.

  • I don't worry what I have, hell some girl was high on weed
    and was playing with her pussy, while she watched me jack off
    on webcam and she liked my cock but I was not happy with it
    so who knows, It's not the size of the boat but the motion in
    the Ocean. I do know I think I got good girth and the head is
    pretty thick when it's hard, It's all got to do with the blood flow
    to manhood?

  • I don't know he needs to get over it himself
    He probably thinks he can't satisfy you like your ex did 😅
    How does he know your ex had a big one? In the future dont talk about past relationships at all

  • He sounds like an immature little boy

  • I'm not small, but I worry about my Size sometimes too. At least... I used to, until I met my Fiance! She thinks I'm HUGE! But I understand what He's going through... What He wants is the "Record-breaker": A Penis that You love more than ANY other. He wants His Penis to be loved by You.

    • I do love it... its just tiny

    • That's what's important! I just hope He knows that... If He does, He should REALLY settle down and be happy that You do! As long as You love it, that's all that should matter! I wish You and Him the best.

    • But if He continues to feel horrible... Maybe send Him a message from me: Try Jelking! (A manual stretching of the Penis) It's easy, and Permanent!

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  • Lmao your mistake was in describing your exes huuge cock 😂😂 God keep that to yourself smh

    • I read more comments and 2” hard? 😞 either you all can't measure or that dude got a man clit

  • Poor guy 😂

    • Poor me lol

    • 😂😂 how big is this guy anyway?

    • 1/2 soft n 2 hard

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  • Imagine it's not even an issue. The more attention you give it, be it positive OR negative the more the person is irritated by it. I mean, the guy is self conscious, there's nothing you can do about it. All you can do is pretend it doesn't exist (the problem, not the penis).

  • Because deep down men know that size does matter and sooner or later your going to fiend for that getting filled feeling and you'll cheat on him

  • I have that problem can u pm me im to embarrassed to say on post

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