He screenshotted my boobs, what do I do?

Question

So I was kinda into this guy who is going at my school and he told me that we were BFF and that could eventually become more! So i was sending him pics in the mirror WITH bra on at first, but then he wanted to see more... So every time he asked to see my boots without my bra on, I said no! But then he sent some sad pictures after (everything is on Snapchat btw). And then we kinda agreed that I was going to do it the next day, I asked my friends if I should do it or not, but they said I shouldn't, but they didn’t know. So I sent it, and first I had on a timer at 3-5 seconds (I dont remember). And then sent another one right after. A couple og days later i send him one more! Then his friend, who is also my friend, told my that he screenshotted them! I told him that it was not okey, and i was very disappointed because he said he wasn't going to screenshot! Then I refused, but I asked him to delete it, he said he did. But I dont believe that for a second! Now a guy in my class told me that I send nyses to that guy and was kinda bullying me for it! So now I think that he showed all of his friends (who go to my class and stuff) or told them about it! Am I overreacting or what do I do?

cicchis0 · Accepted Answer

It is reasonable for you to be upset with him because he has betrayed your trust and you should tell him so.

You could threaten to report him to the school, your parents or the police if he doesn't get all the photos deleted. You don't necessarily need to follow through, but you can do so if he doesn't sort things out.

Try not to be ashamed about the photos. At the end of the day, it's just your breasts - in continental Europe people expose them at the beach, they don't fetishize them as uptight Americans and Brits do. Also, at your age, they are probably looking as good as they ever will and you will probably look back longingly at those photos one day. In other words, try not to feel bullied if any people try to tease you. You can tell them that they wish they had seen you with their own eyes but it isn't going to happen.

Make sure you learn from the experience - sending nude photos is not a good idea. If you think someone deserves to see your body, show it to them directly.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

Call the police and report him for distributing underage pornography. That should get his attention.

OR go to his mother, explain what happened, then tell her that you have the option of reporting him to the police or allowing his to try to make amends for what he has done. Then explain what you want him to do to try to repair some of the damage that has been done.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

That mothrrfucking asshole! Of course you are not overreacting! You shouldn't have sent him pics because no decent guy would have asked for nudes but you are a teenager, like me, and we make mistakes and that is okay. If you have proof that he is showing them to people, tell a trusted teacher or your principal about it so they can force them to delete it. If that doesn't happen and he keeps them, go to the police. What he is doing is against the law, sending pictures of a minor with her permission. I hope I helped

ChronicThinker · Accepted Answer

Let him know you can take legal action if he really wants to take shit that far, and essentially ruining his reputation and prospects for having a career in that community.

dcinhdguy · Answer

A, call the cops. That's distribution of child pornography, it's illegal and he will be prosecuted. B, be a tad more careful about receiving explicit images to the public. I just my girlfriend with all my heart, and I still haven't sent her anything like that. I know it's not the same as physical contact, but just be careful in the future op.

markscott · Answer

I don't know what you should do, but I do know that you are not over reacting. You might get some leverage if you made it clear to him, that he either delete the photos, and you make sure he does, or you will call the police. Another option, is that you talk to your parents, and get them involved. That might be the best way to get this settled. If you feel you can do that. Of course, you could always call the police directly, and get them involved right away.

WhiteShoulder · Answer

You are NOT overreacting. But short of pressuring him through means I can’t discuss in public there’s not much you can do.

wankiam · Answer

report him to the police and at the same time learn not to be so foolish in future

ArnoldClark · Answer

Standard behaviour from immature guys. I think you need to own the situation. Hard as it may be, the damage has been done and he will use the pic against you beit for blackmail or to bully you. It won't be nice but you just have to put a brave face on. Don't show anyone that it bothers you else they'll 'win'. Put it behind you andove on having learned that boys can't be trusted.

Even if you weren't notified of being screenshotted, he could just take a pic with another phone. He's a jerk. 😏

Dargil · Answer

Is your face in the boob pics? If not, forget about it.

reptocarl · Answer

This is why you never ever send nudes

Davidstang · Answer

Was your face in the pics?

lilrutt · Answer

Get himvto send pixs of his cock and sceen shot it

COMMODOREII · Answer

That sucks. It was a violation of your trust.

Steve37 · Answer

It's done, just let it go. I know it seems like a huge deal right now but it's just boobs.

Jwags · Answer

First off, you made a mistake and hopefully learned from it. That does not make you a bad person. I know it is embarrassing but there are things you can do. If he is showing people that is child pornography regardless of his age. In some states there are also revenge laws that can protect you. As hard as it sounds, I would start by telling your parents and explain you made a mistake and won't do it again. They can call his parents or the police to get it resolved.

Nahid1707 · Answer

You learnt a lesson which many girls once learnt with online sexting 💁‍♀️ Thank you next

bklynbadboy1 · Answer

Listen if I was you I'd go to the cops you won't be charged only him. Trust me that's the only way to be sure

Lotusinwater · Answer

Ya you shouldn’t send dirty pictures to anyone hopefully it’s a lesson learned

Potatocream · Answer

talk to him and make sure he got rid of them (taking his phone and checking), then just dont make it a big deal and dont let it get to you what people say lol its a SUPER common thing to do at our age so dw 😂 no need to be ashamed, you're not the asshole in this situation