Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health Help... I’m ashamed to masturbate?
Anonymous
so I’m a 14 year old Chinese expat girl, and I am addicted to masturbating, but I’m ashamed to do it. I have been home alone when I was 12 and I was bored, so I played some phone games and had porn click ups. I didn’t know what it was and it let me to a porn site, I was curious but also a bit grossed out. One of the most searched things on there were “girl masturbating” so I clicked on it for fun and saw these videos of girls masturbating. I had a wtf face on for a couple minutes but then wondered if it feels good. I started to imitate the girls in the videos and I found it really enjoyable. I masturbated once a week back then in the shower but fast forward 2 years I do it almost every day. It’s just so addicting and I love the feeling of it, but after I orgasm I feel a lot of worrying and guilt, as if I’m a freak or a pervert. my parents are strict Chinese Christians who believe that you can’t have sex before you are married and I heard masturbating is like sex, so I felt even more ashamed. I am tall (5’11, or 180cm) and I am naturally skinny and whenever I masturbate my bones crack, is it normal? I want to lose my virginity before marriage and get a boyfriend when I’m a bit older but that guilt always comes back. What should I do? Sorry for my English I live in Europe.
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What Girls & Guys Said
5 46I think we all have the time when we do it
Don’t Be Ashamed When You Masturbate, Everyone Does It!!! It Is OK To Be Addicted To Masturbation As Long As It Does Not Prevent You From Doing Everyday Things, IE: School, Homework, Taking Care Of Yourself, Spending Time With Friends And Family, Household Chores ETC...
Enjoy Your Alone Time!!!
1. Reported.
2. Literally none of your story sounds real. :/ try again tomorrow.
So who cares if it is a bogus story. As long as it doesn't promote violence or sexual abuse let it be.
Plus why did you post this anonymously?
It’s adult content under 18, thus a rule break. And to avoid people like you from following or harassing me.
Hate to tell you but kids start to masturbate around the age of ten or so. When the hormones kick in kids start to masturbate. So the subject is not only an adult conversation. Let me ask you this. Is it better for a kid to masturbate or actually have sex. I think the answer is obvious.
Hate to tell you this, but it’s still adult content under 18. That makes it against site rules.
I think, since you explored it, you are so gördü and you want to explore more?
Masturbation isn't a direct sin, but porn and sex out of marriage are. If you repent of the porn you'll be freed of that. If you feel you can't control that is a self control issue, which you can receive help from God with. If you are able to stop masturbating when necessary then it is under control. Masturbation can be healthy for men and women, but addiction and porn are not. Sex was designed for marriage by God, if you have sex out of marriage you are sinning. If you do not repent of your sins and accept Christ' Sacrifice you are going to Hell. If you have accepted him, repent of the Porn and do not have sex out of marriage. Masturbation can prevent vaginismus and reduce cramping for women. It lowers prostate cancer risk in men.
Stop doing it then
The problem is I can’t lol
Get some psychological help.
You’re taking it way too seriously
What's your point then? Do you want more male followers?
Yeah I’m a whore
Do you get paid for it?
I've been through Leviticus, which is where all the immoral sex acts are, several times and haven't found anything against masterbating. So you should be fine playing with yourself. But you should still wait until you are married before having sex. STDs and unwed pregnancies are big dangers of premarital sex. Plus too many guys take advantage of women by confessing their love only to leave after he gets into your pants. Few of those guys are willing to wait; and almost none of them are willing to marry someone for sex.
It’s a common problem here in China. My parents are both in their 30s right now, and had me when they were both teenagers. That has lead them into this Christian lifestyle and they do their best to protect me from being pregnant as a teenager too.
Well if they find out you masterbate just tell them that you do it so you can stay chaste. But I don't think that you need to admit it to them. My mother is a conservative Christian and I would never talk with her about my sex life.