How can a woman improve her skills in the bedroom without sleeping around?

Question

This is my first relationship. Not ashamed of that but profoundly disappointed in myself for the little we did that I just know I was dreadful at. The man himself says I was fine but I think he is just being kind.

Should we ever turn that way again I want to be more knowledgeable and better or at least more confident in myself. I am however fiercely devoted to him and do not want to pressure him when he isn't ready or perhaps interested nor do I wish to get around while we are "on a break"

Any advice?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

1. "On a break" probably means he broke up with you and tried to do it in a way that he thought would be less traumatic for you.

2. There are videos that are intended to educate people on sexual practices and techniques. The ones I have seen show people engaging in various sexual behaviors, but unlike porn, they are realistic portrayals of sex.

3. The main things that make a woman a good sexual partner are her enthusiasm/eagerness and her willingness to overcome inhibitions and try different things.

richardcory · Accepted Answer

Lots of info in books and the internet - text, pictures or video, whichever you prefer. But really the most important is enjoying pleasing your parner, techniques are something you will just pick up.

by the way - not all men (or women) like the same things

summiter · Answer

Just take your time, have fun, go slow and do not feel like you have to have perfect skills. Sure you can watch porn to see different positions but remember that is just acting. It never hurts to ask a guy what feels good for him and what he likes.

Dargil · Answer

The internet (not porn sites) has a lot of first person descriptions of sexual technique. How to do something or how not to do it. When I was between relationships, I came to accept that have a short barrel and a hair trigger (in gun parlance). So I decided to learn the intricate details of cunnilingus and fingering so I could please a partner into orgasm before I ever even mounted up.

One book I read, and still own, is She Comes First: A Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman, by Ian Kerner. It changed my life almost as much as the Bible. I standardized my approach by always bringing a girl into orgasm either orally or by hand before intercourse. This has given me good reviews.

If you spend the time and money researching, I have no doubt such a volume is available for women. You don't have to give away your body to gain skills. Give your mind to it instead.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Communication and active participation in the sex is hugely important. Women need to get more comfortable with directly expressing physical needs in the bedroom.

Shedzij567 · Answer

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hbg84 · Answer

Just ask him what he wants you to do. Communicate with each other

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I'm pretty sure they have exercise videos that focus solely on sex positions. And there are tutorial videos as well, if you want a more detailed visual.