How can I (female) cum quicker during sex?

Question

I have a hard time cumming during s c I can only cum from oral. How can I change that?

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

Start with more foreplay. Have him play with you, kiss you, lick and suck you, and build up that anticipation.

Then, during sex, play with your clit, or have him do so (whoever has easiest access to it depending on the position). You can also teach him to grind into your pubic area (i. e., your clit) with his pubic area when in "missionary"-type positions rather than backing off like they do in porn so the camera can see. He has to penetrate you fully, and then do shallow thrusts so he's grinding you. Having been the first guy to do that with a number of different women, I got overwhelmingly positive feedback with that technique.

And also, make sure he's not only focused on thrusting during sex. Depending on what you like, he could be squeezing or sucking your tits, pulling your hair, slapping your ass, kissing your neck or ears, pinning your arms back, holding your neck, giving you deep French kisses, whispering (or growling!) filthy things into your ear, or whatever else gets you really hot. Make sure he's engaging as much of your body and as much of your brain as he can - sex is a lot more than cocks in pussies.

For me, it's always been about identifying the things that positively trigger the girl I'm with - and when you find something that gets her going, it's usually VERY obvious. Have you told him what really makes you hot, or has he tried different things to find out? If not, he should be, and you should encourage him and guide him and let him know what worked best and what wasn't so great for you - focusing mostly on the positive, always.

Fireguy17 · Accepted Answer

That can be difficult.
I have an ex that could only cum when she was on top.
That way she could control where she needed the most attention.
So we did different positions, and many times I would cum with her.
Have you tried more foreplay to get you to the point of no return and then have intercourse?
Maybe introduce a vibrator while having sex.
My wife likes that, she can cum with or without it, but her orgasms are stronger wit it.
She like her ankles on my shoulders, then she feels each thrust better, and there is more room for the vibrator on her happy spot.
The side benefits of that are it feels good to me, and since I like feet they are right there by my face.
She also like her feet tickled during sex, she says it makes her orgasms stronger since it stimulates more nerve endings, so I'm only to happy to oblige her.
Once her eyes roll back, her toes are curled tight and she is squirming away, it's pretty much all over for me and I cum pretty hard.
But what works for one person, may not work for another.
But if your partner is willing to keep trying different things, you should find what works for you.

Emilyis · Accepted Answer

you have to tell him what your want him to do and explain how to rub your clit. Most girls can't orgasm from intercourse alone. So you have to masturbate and a lot of men probably have no idea how to get a woman aroused. They just know how to finger you.

Faith18letsgo · Accepted Answer

I’d say more lube and more attention to the clitoris. Maybe when he’s inside you use a hand to jerk yourself off. Also ask him to have sex with you pressing his penis up as though towards your belly button.

laurieluvsit · Answer

Preconditioning of the psyche works miracles which can be done in various ways, i. e. - highly erotic foreplay, highly stimulating video, or audio, porn, etc.

DizzyDesii · Answer

Find a new dick

DannyUk2017 · Answer

Ok, there are a few things first... Did you manage to cum/climax/orgasm from yourself? Does you'r partner is fully erect? Does it caress, touch, kiss you when getting involved in the start of the intercourse? Does he "searches", for you erogene spots or just jumps on you? There are many factors that can lead to your delayed climax, do you both have a libido/high sex drive? Or it takes a few good hour to warm up?
Or you/him can create a "rp/fp" that can bring the Daydream/Lust/Imagination out of you, and slowly can take it from there...

StrongMale · Answer

It is kind of a myth that females are supposed to cum during vaginal sex with a guy. It happens, but it takes a certain penis shape and size that fits the girl right so the head reaches and rubs her g-spot. And it takes the guy pressing and grinding against the girl in such a way as to stimulate her clit with his pelvis while he f*cks her. All of that has to happen for a woman to have an orgasm during penetrative vaginal sex. So don’t worry too much about whether you cum or not during sex. I always make sure to stimulate the clit of a girl with my fingers when I am f*cking her vagina. And if she doesn’t cum while I am inside her, I take care of her orgasm after I cum. ☺️

dustybiker · Answer

Relax.  Expecting, getting frustrated, not being comfortable, not feeling safe. All things that can get in the way.

Dawty · Answer

Why would want to?

EmmaMary · Answer

Either you or your partner should try stimulating your clitoris whilst having sex/penetration.

LiamSawyer · Answer

Have hine grind against your pelvic bone with his pelvic bobe while his ficknis in you.

Th3ft · Answer

Sounds like you need to get your hands dirty and buy some toys to help that along!

Dargil · Answer

One possibility is: During sex in the Cowgirl or Doggy position (due to easy access), you or your partner can stroke your clitoris along with PIV to add energy to sex. I have done that for my partner during Cowgirl with good results.

genericname85 · Answer

ever tried toys in the bedroom?

Lenell · Answer

Myth. You can cum however 99% of men can't do it. I would say how but i meed all the advantage i can get against competition.

Wise4myage · Answer

More intense foreplay.

vald9inches · Answer

Do you ever cum from your dildos or vibrators?

maximumpower · Answer

Longer foreplay - much longer. Soft music, clean environment free from disturbances, patient partner.

Twalli · Answer

You could get on the cusp right before he sticks it in and the pleasure of that may send you over, granted then you've just cummed while he's still going so he can do it, but you'll cum while he's inside of you. Speaking from a guy's perspective, that feels good.

lawhawk · Answer

More foreplay. More of whatever you like that gets you turned on. Do you have any kinks or fetishes? Explore them. Like a certain position? Communicate that with your partner. You can also try getting him off earlier in the day and then going for sex for round 2 later. He will last longer and you can enjoy it more without worrying about him lasting long enough to make you cum.