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Sexual Health I committed incest when I was younger (between the ages7-10 years old) with 12 family members. 4 were boys and the rest were girls. I NEVER had intercourse with any of them. I lost my virginity to a jerk in 12th grade. However, the last time I committed incest was 9th grade. I feel sick to my stomach thinking about it. The worst memory I have was with my brother. I was in the 3rd or 4th grade. It was only once but it still haunts me. I did things with 2 friend girls in 3rd/4th grade. I feel impure, guilty, and sad when I think about it. It is sick. I don't know how I could've done those things or what was going through my mind or where my parents were. Sometimes I think I've had bad luck because of my past.
Please, don't attack. I know what I did was wrong and disgusting. Im posting this because I want to move on, meet a nice man, and feel good about myself. How do I forgive myself? Would you date someone who has done such terrible things?
How do I deal with guilt over incest?
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6 34Share your experience little lady it will help relating to people and telling your story
I had similar experience and you have done nothing wrong
Love to hear more about it. pm if you want
well what you had done is done. make sure you dont repeat it and try to get over it put your self in much out going activities
There's no chance I would repeat it! None. However, thank you!
you are welcome. you will get over it just do not think over it what's done is you cannot change it
Move on attention seeking Sally... gawd sounds tacky blow hard and desperate for attention. If your that traumatized why do it 2and 3rd 4th time seriously fuck off... see a shrink about it of get fucked by k9 dog to balance it out move on
Don’t feel bad. I explored with most of my friends in pre k and kindergarten. And with my sister a few times and my mom super close in the bath tub. It’s normal. Don’t beat yourself up. Appreciate the chance of trust and closeness you got with whom ever in your family
Tell yourself that most of that was curiosity and playfulness. Don't let it beat you down
I would date you, that's a big girl's sex drive! Whether or not you choose to continue to have incest in the future, getting over feelings of disgust involves appreciating sex as a good, healthy, positive experience, no matter with whom, and involves dissacociating from such good experiences you obviously had many times anything negative felt later. Maybe some of the guilt involves deprivation, but I'm turned on by girls like you who knew what they wanted and knew what they were doing, and I would never find you disgusting, not even if I came home from work one day to find you in an orgy with your brothers, sisters, father, mother, or cousins! If you want someone normal and level-headed about it, call me!
Yes i would date a girl like you. Your not on drugs, stealing, hurting people. Sex is not bad even with same sex. A lot of teens do sexual stuff with family. Most just lie. You did hurt anyone no need to beat yourself up.
My sister and I had sex together between the ages of 11 - 17. She was two years younger. We started because we had a sexual encounter with a neighbour. We tried it out of curiosity afterward. We stopped when she started dating.
It was very difficult for me to deal with the aftermath. As I matured, I felt profound guilt for what I had done. I had guilt for enjoying it so much. I had guilt because of what the world thinks of incest. I had guilt because we were so young. I had guilt for hiding it for so long. I had guilt because I was older and I should have known better. I wondered if she hated me.
We didn't talk about it for decades, and that made it worse. My sister eventually revealed to me that she went through the same questions and dread as well. [You are not alone!!] It would have been so much better if we had just talked. My first words when the subject finally came up were, "I'm sorry." I had needed to say that for so long.
What did I learn from finally talking to her about it? WE did it together. We have both felt very similar in the aftermath. We were having unprotected sex with a sibling and we enjoyed it immensely. We felt like monsters. We still want to do it. When my sister said that, I felt afraid and happy at the same time. That was the truth. That was the heart of it. She was so honest with me! I couldn't even admit that to myself. I said "we," for all of these because of course I felt the same way. We haven't done it again, but it hangs there until we decide what to do. We live very far away from each other, so this is not a great risk to our marriages. It will probably never happen. That will be okay too. I am just so happy to know that she still loves me. I don't feel doubt about that anymore, and that is the most important thing I learned. The honest truth is that I love her more than anyone I have ever known.
Talking with someone about it might help you, if you are still suffering with it. We all have our own burdens in this life. I hope you are free of the worst of yours by now. Your story and your experience with guilt and remorse brought it all back to me again. I had to say something.
I don’t think you should keep hurting over something stupid. Rather than feeling disgusted, you should try to accept your past and get over it. I know it might sound stupid but think of it like this, ancient Royals from Greece, Egypt and in Japan married within their families or practiced incest. Scientists have proofs of incest being prevalent in earliest ancestors of humans. Even the children of Adam and Eve had to marry each other if you believe in them. They just saw each other as another member from opposite sex. So think about all that and move on! Think of it like you had an one night thing with an stranger who just looked like your family.
nobody would date a girl who fucks her family
i would
You were just a little child. You know better now
Just don't tell your future boyfriend we all did dumb things
why keep secrets from someone you're dating wouldn't you want someone that accepts despite your past
@kingamer why would I want to know the my husband did incest when he was younger lol
because you're married? I don't know I feel like I'd want to know everything about the person I'm choosing to spend the rest of my life with what if one day it comes out and your significant other feels lied to
@kingamer what does it matter? You will only get paranoid
I guess it depends on the people in the relationship to me honesty and knowing who the person is and was are important to me
@kingamer Yeah I guess it really depends on the people in the relationship
did you at least protect yourself?, or him.. so that, nothing happened
I don't know all the details, but what you describe does not make you an inherently disgusting or terrible person so I see no reason to rule you out.