Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health How do I know what my sexuality is?
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I've literally been crying for the past few days because I don't know if I'm gay, bi, or straight. My parents are really conservative so I can't say anything to them. I've always thought I was attracted to both genders, but now I have no clue. I'm 18, I've never had sex or been in a relationship. I've gone on like 2 dates with awful rapey men in the past. My friends have all had significant others and have already had sex and I just feel so alone. Like I've talked to them about it and they say "Don't worry about it, you're not gonna find anyone now. So just wait, you'll find someone." I feel like I've heard this for four fucking years and now I'm going to college soon and have no idea what I'm attracted too. I had the expectation that I'd know in highschool, and now I'm having that same expectation for college and I'm thinking well would if nothing happens once again there like in highschool. Like I feel like most people know what they like in college and explore that. But I have zero clue and I am just so frustrated with people telling me. "Oh you're straight probably" or "Just like whoever." Like I just want to know and I'm considering just hooking up with someone on like Tinder because I'm seriously frustrated with myself and nobody else understands.
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I appreciate the kind words and help everyone! It really means a lot. :) I'm surprised by the positivity haha
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What Girls & Guys Said
22 72Which gender turns you on more male or female try experimenting with either a male or a female. If your into both genders then you're Bi-curious. 💞
Girl, first of all-stop worrying so much!
You’re super young still, believe me. I know it feels like the world’s gonna end but honestly it’s only the beginning. You WILL find someone that you find attractive (sexually or romantically) sooner or later.
Try to experiment. Don’t be afraid to try out new things. If you like it, then that’s what you’re attracted to. If not, that’s okay! At least you crossed something off the list.
You know what I mean?
Also, not all people have sexual attraction towards a specific gender. You could be asexual, pansexual, demiromantic, aromantic, ETC.
You don’t have to rely on labels. A lot of people think they already know what they like but then realize they’ve been lying to themselves. This is why a lot of them come out in their 40s or so.
If you need to, you can talk to me. I went threw the same thing and KINDA still am? I guess I have my own term that isn't in as much use as bisexual, straight, and gay but, it IS a real label and I'm happy with it. And I also haven't had sex not been in a relationship. And I would tell you how to find it out but, its hard to tell you one way because I'm sure the the isn't ONE WAY to figure it out... if you don't want to talk to me, my best advice is to do research on ALL the terms out there towards sensuality because even though most people do use straight , gay, and bi a lot, there are other terms that you can use and one of THOSE might make you happy. Also, it's hard to find EXACTLY one label. I'm sure everyone including my self could fit into at least two categories and if not, then that's them. Anyways, be patient, do your research, and let me know if you want to chat because I now wish that I had someone to talk to who went through the same thing...🤔😁
It's not a hard question. Are you male or female? Are you attracted to men women or both
I get you! Right do you feel more attracted to buys or girls cause if it’s both, bisexual isn’t half boy half girl attraction you can be 80% to guys and 20% to girls for example , my advice is do a little research on them,
from a lesbian trans girl who is always here to help xoxo
Get rid of any expectation, that's when it'll happen. It is strange but that's how it goes. Focus on school and your sexuality will just happen, you can't force those things. They don't end well when you do.
Maybe you're sapiosexual. I only say that because you said you don't know which gender you're attracted to. So maybe you're just not attracted to physical attributes.
My advice to you is to continue not having sex, but just get to know different people cautiously and carefully. Try to build genuine relationships.
It takes time honestly. Some people are happier just not declaring their sexuality, others are like me who are determined to know lol. After about two years i discovered i was pan, so just give it some time! Hopefully you'll figure it out soon :)
Be honest you are only 18.
Just be yourself , if come across as desperate people will run away.
As for your sexuality, that can be moulded by your desires or your experiences.
Watch heterosexual and gay porn which ones turn you on?
None then your asexual
Hetero = heterosexual
Homo= homosexual
Both = Bisexual
Please don't be rushed into labelling yourself, you can get with other girls without being either bi or gay, it's just recreational sex,,,
https://sexuality.fandom.com/wiki/Category:Sexual_orientation
You don’t need to. If you are attracted to someone go with it. If you aren’t attracted to someone you aren’t.
I dont know if this helps. I grew up in a conservative home too. Went to church, ditched Sunday scool with a friend and while exploring, saw some pictures of female models. I jizzed in my pants, and now I know Im straight.
Three guys I know of discovered it in college. I don't know if more I know did, but I didn't know they did, but I knew three who did. We haven't spoken in years, but I don't talk to many people a yeau.
"Awful rapey men"... Well you talk like a lesbian feminist, soooooooo...
You don’t think there are actually these types of men out there who try to take advantage of women?
I didn't mean all men. I wouldn't describe myself as a feminist. Literally just all of the men I've PERSONALLY tried to build a romantic connection with have been really awful to me in this respect. I have other male friends and they're all great people.
Asker "Male friends"... another mistake.
Now you just trollin
Sounds like a mental illness
Just don't be ellen... i mean elliot page..
who says she, i mean he, now, was a les, but is now a guy.. does that make him a straight male now?
Omgod I can't get over that myself 😂 Im more mad about it because theyre trying to change the character Ellen/Elliot Page plays in a show to a different gender. I really don't want a long cringy trans storyline about finding oneself. Like it's kind of hypocrisy. But I couldn't care less otherwise lol
That's my point, just don't be her/him/it/whatever it is
I like girls only for sex & marriage. I knew that at age 10 years old. There is too much pressure to be gay in society in these times. To love everyone, doesn't mean everyone has to be gay. That is completely absurd.
Honestly, don't worry about it. When you fall in love it just happens and you will know. Trust me. As long as you have to ask the question you won't know the answer. When asking the question seems insane then you have your answer.