How Do Some Guys Get Girlfriends So Easily?

[Anonymous]

This may be a strange question, but I am absolutely serious. For example, I am 24 and still a virgin and I have never had a girlfriend in my life (I have kissed and made out with a few women).. and people are so shocked by that. People (especially women) often say that I am too sexy to be single and a virgin. When I tell people about my educational background and career, they are even more shocked that I am single and a virgin because I am pretty successful for my age. However, when I try to talk to women, meet women, etc... they play a ton of games. Yet... I see average guys getting laid left and right or jumping from relationship to relationship. My barber, for example, when he cuts my hair we talk about women. Every other week, when I go to see him, he tells me about the new women he is sleeping with and shows me pics of them on his phone. He's an average looking guy, doesn't work out, no fashion sense, but he is pretty cool. That is just an example... but I know quite a few men who are just like him... they effortlessly get laid, they are able to get girlriends easy, and some even use that power to cheat on their girlfriends or get side chicks. Like... this other guy I knew... his girlfriend wouldn't give him a threesome, so he went to a bar one night and got a threesome with 2 lesbian women! I mean... how can some men have the ability to get women that easily and others can't?

[Beehive]

CONFIDENCE. That's something you seem to be lacking. Girls find it sexy and attractive when a guy is confident about himself. Are you a bit reclusive, play video games too often, or just stuck doing work more than your peers. It might also be a few reasons why you aren't getting laid and getting girlfriends.

Some guys, even if they look average knows how the game works. They play a numbers game, they ask 1000 girls, act confident and don't care if they got shot down. Eventually one of the girls will fall into the trap and now the guy has a girlfriend.

Ask yourself honestly, do you ask out a lot of girls, are you too afraid of being shot down, are the girls you asking out people who show interest in you, are you confident?

[Anonymous]

It could be multiple things. Some guys may just be around the right girls at the right time and say the right things. In other words just luck. Others may play the numbers game. In other words they just ask out a bunch of girls until one says yes.

Females are all different. Different ones like different things. So these "average guys" you speak of may be smoking hot to them or maybe they want the "average guy" and not the smoking hot guy.

There's no right method. No secret. No special code. You just should be yourself and hey man take your opportunities when they show up.

Some females do play games. Cut them bitches off. They aren't any good. Keep looking and one will come up.

[Asker]

You're right.

[JesuisEm]

Its easy for confident guys to get a girlfriend because they don't mind playing these games. The love the games.
Its usually the first girl that DOESN'T play games and is beautiful that makes them stop and becomes the girlfriend.

Side chicks? LOL No man I'm with will have the time of day to have one of those.

[JesuisEm]

By doesn't play games.. I mean is serious from day one but still not easy to have.

[kaylaS91]

Maybe because some men, the 'average guys', don't view getting a girlfriend as conquest. To them, a girlfriend is not just an easy lay, someone they can get sex from on the regular. They genuinely enjoy being with her, even if sex is not involved 24/7.

[Anonymous]

Confidence and charsima can do amazing things. Regardless of your looks or intelligence.

[MadeInAmerica]

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Who knows it just happens I guess. Score one for the average guys.

[TheGeorge]

Relationships take a lot of time. It sounds like your life is too busy for it anyway. Trust me, it's better to get your career on track first and look for a girlfriend later. A relationship requires a lot of compromises and I do regret some of my earlier life choices. You may feel that you missed out on a lot but you can always make up for it later. Likewise people who are in a relationship at a young age will also feel that they missed out on something, just different things. As long as you keep moving forward and don't stop and pity yourself, there is nothing wrong with the path you are on.

[Whoooooooooo]

Okay I have to stop you right there. You tell people you're virgin? Thats a huge no no. It makes the girls cautious. They are probably asking themselves whats is wrong with him? How come other women can't tolerate him? Is it worth giving him a chance? Maybe he's in only for the sex. Perhaps he only wants to be with me because he's desperate to lose his virginity.

Should I continue or you get the point? It makes you seem desperate. the only time its okay to tell a woman you're a virgin is before sex. By then she would helpfully be in love with you and will see the fact that you're a virgin as something good.

[Anonymous]

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