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Sexual Health How do you as a single mom speak (educate) your growing up son about sex?
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Am a single mom and my son is an adolescent, and of late he is been doing some odd things which has made me a bit cautious. Am not describing his actions here. I need some helpful answers because I feel it's time to speak about what's wrong and what's right, but ofcourse I am a bit embarrassed to initiate this conversation.
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8 28just answer his questions honestly. And remember a son needs a sexless vision of his mother
Yes I understand! Thanks
not genderless. just sexless.
Like I need to present my viewpoints in such a way that he shouldn't think anything sexual about me, right?
True... i have 2 brothers and grew up with out a dad my mom did great talking to us all about stuff and together so we heard the same stuff... she did great... dm me
Yeah, as I’m writing I realize how hard mothering is :)
Sex, what a wonderful phrase! It means no worries! For the rest of your days! Its a problem free! philosophy! Until you get aids.
Nah just dont make it intimidating mom. Fear about sex isn't healthy nor does it keep anyone from doing it. Honesty about it all is most important. To initiate just say you know his dad should be the one to ask and answer these questions and just state a penis is a penis and there's a lot all around that topic, so whenever you're ready to talk about it I'll be here to do my best to tell you all I can.
Okay, thanks for honest response.
I understand your dillema. That can be advantage of having same sex parent or open talk culture. No matter how open some cultures are there are always taboo things we can't speak with our parents siblings or kids with. Find a neutral ground. It can help if I know specific situation to write word by word script for you. And if you feel comfy you can use it as it is or modify and use it. Do you live in US?
Thanks for offering help. I live in Italy.
I am sure in Australia 🇦🇺 there is also help available. We have some websites which sends out free material as conversation openers with kids especially.
I your son is 14 he must have his own knowledge by now and probably started exploring his sexuality in his own way.
Just talk to him like it is a normal topic. Don't intimidate him or try to impose your views and values on him forcefully.
I hope you handle this pretty well.
Some parents make a mess
Yes hopefully I would handle it. Would try to strike a honest conversation with him like how the other responders mentioned. Thanks!
The important thing is you should tell him to respect others and their choices, importance of consent, etc
That all depends on what it is your finding strange.
Okay.. thanks for the answer!!
make sure he has some condoms even if u have to buy them for him.
buy some dvds and books and leave them where he can find them but not like obvious accidentally leave them somewhere that he learns that there in the house then hide them somewhere that he can find them easily
boys are inquisative and will find stuff like that and read it.
https://www.imdb.com/title/tt7610196/
joy of sex book
etc
etc the more factual + real stuff the better then he will have a balance from porn crap that would push him thinking that porn i real
dm me if you want more oppinion
Thanks for the help, just sent a follow request so that you could dm me.
do not shame him, give honest answers, if you do not have answers, most guys here including myself would answer in private
Thabi you fir the opinion. I think I would be able to answer his queries. I would try to earn his trust related to this and then speak with him.
No one teaches
I am not sure about all the parents but some parents do teach their kids.
I think just leave him, he will figure things out. Just let someone at least teach him how to masturbate
Well he is 14 now so hopefully I think he would be knowing how to masturbate but that's just my guess.
Just be honest and open. Also having done some weird things try not to worry about it too much.
Okay thank you. I would forget what he has done and try to earn his trust in these matters to enable a smooth dialogue.
Sex ed between a mother and son or for that matter between a father and daughter could be really awkward, but at the same time it is highly beneficial with regards to the degree of knowledge acquired by the receiver. As you are the opposite sex for him, you could impart almost all the information related to female sex. Make sure you earn his trust and you don't get embarrassed by your teaching and any of his questions. And I feel you shouldn't be embarrassed, because you are his mother. He is a part of you, who is just the opposite sex and that's not yours or his fault. A mother is ultimately the best teacher for him not only with regards to sex ed but for everything. Try to schedule the talking in phases and be bold. Your son needs your guidance at this point of time. He could be lot more matured after you have a honest conversation with him.
Thank you for the help and motivation. I would be on it.
Good luck to you and your son. He's going to need it.
Thank you!!