Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health Why is it that the partner granting permission won't feel the relationship is threatened as long as it is with the same gender and they do feel it is threatened if it is with the opposite one? Does that make any sense?
Can't the same genders end up developing a love that might interfere with things?
I know this is a soap opera type of question but am also aware of a relationship where this dynamic exists and was just wondering what others think of it. So far that relationship is working out just fine, but could there be any long term consequences?
Please share your thoughts and/or use the survey to specify your opinion, please!
How do you feel about a committed relationship partner that gives permission for outside casual sex but restricts it to the same gender only?
laurieluvsit Master
NO, the whole thing is messed up! If you are in a committed relationship you shouldn't be having sex with anyone else PERIOD! What do you think the word "COMMITTED" means anyway?
Vote A
I agree with that concept since most guys don't feel threatened with their girl being in a lesbian relationship on the side, because if that is what she really wants she will probably do it anyway
Vote B
No, I would not want my guy in a side relationship with another guy, that is just too much for me. That will never happen
Vote C
I am ok with my guy being with another guy just for sex, I would not feel threatened by it as long as it is not with someone who fools around with many guys and is subject than to STD's
Vote D
Yes, a bond could develop that would ruin the relationship so that is a NO NO!
Vote E
No, because even if a bond does develop, it can still be a bond between all 3 of them where they all love one another the same
Vote F
OTHER, see my comments below, or just open the "Same Gender Affair" Survey
Vote G
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What Girls & Guys Said
5 32Well, she's not going to get pregnant with another girl's baby...
Unless she's doing that surrogate thing.
I mean, I wouldn’t agree to those terms. Cause I’m hetero. But to each there own. Do what you want
This can and has happened, and is more likely to happen if you’re a woman.
https://www.fatherly.com/health-science/women-bisexual-divorce/amp/
If my girlfriend wanted another girl as part of our relationship, I wouldn't turn it down, but the girl can't be just for her, it has to be for both of us. i won't accept another guy. I also won't push for another girl.
Girl on girl. What else needs to be said?
my SO is totally free to pursue women. I have no problem with it and I wish she would. but she's not really interested. 😕
In our relationship it’s not permission with same gender. It’s with anyone
Marriage is between one man and one woman only. I would not go along with fooling around. I figure she either didn't love me or was using me
I kinda feel that such situation might apply to guys only, since it's a fantasy of most of guys to see their girl with another woman, meanwhile I feel like women would not want their guy to be with anyone sexually even with another guy, because women feel jealous and threatened more than men, beside a man would still see her girl as straight and sexy if she mess with another woman, while woman would feel like her guy is halfway to become gay if he mess with another guy and that idea terrifies her.
This won't be a direct answer. Commitment is key for any relationship. I try to avoid most things that would cause harm, bringing partners in could very well be one of those. Life throws a enough curve balls your way. Why purposely toss more. Energy possibly better spent working on the relationship and the sex life associated with it.
On the flip side of the coin, you got to love life to it's fullest. But I think it must be calculated and thought out. A good relationship is way to hard to come by.
Conflict of interest. Fear of missing out. Commitment is all about including not excluding.
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Well, it means he gets an extra pussy
I'm all for polygamy
Would not be fair, i am straight so i would still be in a closed relationship
I get it for a guy whose girl can get with other chicks--especially if he's able to play with them too. What could be better than a committed relationship with a girl who shares one of your biggest interests? Especially if she helps source hotties!